better way to call it. He says this is how jews are. Is he being a big Jew or does everyone feel this way?
2006-06-15 06:25:49 · 9 answers · asked by OliveTheCat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Umm jenny, just because he is a jew does not mean he is my boss. Way to to be a bigot.
2006-06-15 10:58:47 · update #1
No... he's just a Democrat. All about feel good garbage and let's sugar coat everything or avoid it all to make everybody happy and never solve the real problem YAAAAY
2006-06-15 06:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
What does his feeling that you shouldn't be mean here have to do with his being Jewish? I'm sure people of other religions also feel you shouldn't be mean here or elsewhere. I don't see what his religion has to do with it. He seems like a compassionate, empathetic, and kind person who cares about others and their feelings. You could learn a lot from him. By the way, you can be truthfull without being mean. (For example, I really think you're a racist bigot and a Jew hater and can't see past the fact that your boss is Jewish but I didn't come out and say that. That would have been mean, so I politley answered your question. See what I mean.)
2006-06-15 06:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not Jewish, but I agree with your Jewish guy friend. It's always wrong to be "mean". I don't agree with the saying "honesty is the best policy". That's usually just a cop-out for hurting someone's feelings. It doesn't mean you have to be phony though. There's a way to get your point across with tact and diplomacy without being mean.
2006-06-15 06:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by cynthiajean222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, how are you "work(ing) this Jewish guy..."?
Second, One man's "truthfulness" is another's "meanness". Just ask anyone attacked by members of the KKK.
But the bottom line, it's only polite to be "delicate" in your answers. Not everyone gets irony. Better yet, how would you feel if someone made truthful responses to you that you might find hurtful?
2006-06-15 06:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by Carl S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between mean and truthfull. You can tell the truth without actually hurting someones feelings - just use tact.
2006-06-15 06:29:49 · answer #5 · answered by mlgjst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... ignoring the somewhat derogatory language of the question, I think your co-worker has a point.
One doesn't need to be 'mean' in order to be truthful - in fact, a certain amount of civility and tact can be more effective than simply flaming someone. When someone feels insulted they tune out - no point in giving advice if you're going to be a prick about it, it won't be heard anyway.
2006-06-15 06:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by weofui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know about all jews being that way, what i do know is that if there is a question, and you feel the only way you can respond is to be "mean" or sarcastic or insulting, then perhaps you should just skip that question, granted there are people who ask ridiculous and inane questions, sometimes meaningless questions, but they do so to draw attention not to actually discover anything...so if you refuse to respond, then perhaps they will either go away, or learn to ask real questions.
2006-06-15 06:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by johnkmayer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that some questions are absolutely stupid and deserve a swift kick in the pants, but there are some questions that are serious that should be handled with care and some pepole are horrible so it depends.
2006-06-15 06:29:48 · answer #8 · answered by Millie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's being mean:
"You're a ****ing idiot! You don't know what you're talking about!"
And there's being truthful and tactful:
"If you'd look at the evidence, I think you might change your mind."
Which are you? I dunno what this has to do with being Jewish.
2006-06-15 06:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by dulcetpurr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋