He does play with others, but has a hard time with rules. Can not bribe him even with something he cherishes. What to do?
2006-06-15 06:23:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Talk to a doctor... a phycyistrist would be best. Also talk to the child and tell him to look directly at you when you are speaking. Bend down and calmly tell him he has to look at you when you talk to him. Explain to him why rules are created...for safety reasons and to maintain order in large numbers. Tell him what could happen if he violates rules in general.
2006-06-15 06:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laughing so hard,, of course he won't look at you and closes his eyes to avoid contact when corrected,, he wants to not ever be corrected, it goes with this age he is at. He doesnt' want rules he thinks he is Superman and shouldn't have any.
Just sit down and make YOU a list of the rules and let them be the same each time with the same consequences for each action that you decided on,,(also have someone else go over this list to see for sure that its age appropriate). Don't bribe, that sends the wrong message. Let him know you are in control,,even when they throw a fit its important to their emotional well being to know that your the adult and make the final decisions.
2006-06-15 13:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly wouldn't bribe a child! Take him to see the doctor and get an evaluation; he could have a treatable disorder, but you won't know without a diagnosis. If he's fine medically, then go to a child psychologist. Between the two, you'll definitely be able to get answers as to what is going on with your child. Good luck!
2006-06-21 13:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a serious problem (autism?), or maybe he is just plain old stubborn! If you are concerned, talk to your pediatrician. Don't bribe your son...you are the parent, he's 3...don't be afraid of hurting his feelings by being stern with him...he will love you no matter what. Put your foot down! Good Luck!
2006-06-15 13:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 3 also and I found that if you use time out and keep consistant with it it dose work. At first when I tryed it i was leanet and she thought oh mom is easy. I got wise to it and now she lissions a little more then when I would just brive or take thing away. I think it all has to do with their age. Now is the time to show them your the parent not them. It will get worse if you don't take control now. Good luck......
2006-06-15 13:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He dosen't need help he is just being a normal BOY!!! My son is the same age and does the same thing. I just hold on to him no matter how bad the fight and tell him to look at me or he's not going to play or whatever he is doing untill then and I sttck with it and let him no I am really serious and he eventually gives in and look and listens.
2006-06-19 19:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by lkk_04_04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk alot and ask questions alot about everything he is unsure and cannot meet your eyes because of big doubt...and you need to start now..also tickle him and hug him alot be sure and make body contaact...tellhim you love him and he is special....also tell him if he is bad it hurts you you you,,,,if he breakes rules hurts you and see how that works,,,also tell him that if he breakes rules then he must give up something....this should be taken away at once aand given away,,,,no chance of getting it back..the same way with rules that are broken no chance of fixing them...
2006-06-15 13:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by marybunnyenglish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he plays with other children, talks sentences, and looks at you and others when they are speaking to him under normal circumstances he is not autistic. This is normal behavior.
2006-06-15 15:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of bribing him, try disciplining.
ask him why and explain why something has to be a certain way.
i don't know if he'll understand though.
2006-06-15 13:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by infinite_phoenix_downs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should sit him down and tell him look at mommy! and explain to him why it s so important to look at someone when theyre talkin ask him if he likes people to listen to him when he talks, tell him you must look at someone when theyre talkin to you and vice versa. i have a 4 yrs. boy and have pretty much the same issues, I think they will grow out of it, he might just be embarassed or ashamed or something and thats how he deals with it! You have to show them how to act and be familar with know ing wut feelings r wut
2006-06-15 14:20:10 · answer #10 · answered by atlpeaches21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋