My boyfriend & I of 1 1/2 years broke up because he lived 2hrs away, he would visit 1 weekend a month I never?

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met anyone in his family, did'nt know where her lived. & I only had his cell & work #'s. A few months after we started dating, he told me some chic was preganant by him & she was 6 month's, she was supposed to be some booty call he had b 4 he met me. Do you think he was cheating with her from the getgo, living a doulbe life. We always stayed home & and had sex, we went out maybe once. I ended the relationship because he started making promises he could'nt keep & always had excuses about he had to work, It was last minute, & what made it worse he would never call & tell me anything until days later. I would be sitting like a fool waiting on him. I loved him so much, It took me awhile to get over him bcause the sex was awesome & his personality was all that he always kept me laughing. Ive been by myself for a few months & i'm extremely lonley, but I'm scared to date again bcause of what he did to me. I know I can't right all men off for what he did. But how do you learn to trust again.sw

Answer 1

He sounds like a lying loser. You sound like you are too trusting. Very often people get into relationships and start falling in love with who they want their partner to be - not who they really are. You already know in your head what the real answer is here. You answered it yourself. You are lonely and would rather hang on to a possible relationship then be alone. Until you are ok with being alone you will continue to get yourself into bad relationships to avoid being alone. No one wants to be alone. It's human nature to be wanted......but let me tell you from experience....it's much better to wait for the right person to come along then to be miserable in a bad relationship. You could be passing on some great guys because you are hanging on to a loser.
Get yourself out there. Go out with friends, join a club or activity, keep busy.it WILL happen. You deserve to be happy and be treated good.
take care and hope this helped.

Answer 2

HUm . . . I can't say much about your B/F. But I also live about 2 hrs bus ride away from my gal, and about 45 min bike ride away.

When we met about 14 yrs aback, we always went to the town inbetween us, and I will send her back. When I reach home, it will be at the wee hour in the morning. Sometime, when I miss a bus, I will just slept in the bus stop, and rush to work from there.

I do have few gals before her. But I just find that when I when I love someone I am committed to love, I love. Be it good or bad feeling. Over the years, she learn that too.

Now we are happily married with 2 gals, age 7 & 8.

Distance is never a problem. In fact, my first gal stay next block from me (4 minute walk?). And we lasted only 9 months.

Gal, my suggestion is, go slow. Save your sex until the wedding day. It is more fun that way. Of cause, pray too, for a good man.

Cheers,

Answer 3

He was living a double life. He didn't have a booty caller, but he make you believe him. You need to find a new boyfriend that you know everything about. He most give you his address and you must be able to go to his house and call him anytime. That is what you have to make sure of. Cause a lot of guys like to live double life, but it is unfair to us women. I have had a guy lie to me about everything and in the end i found out he was cheating on his fiance and she found out dumbed him. You have to really careful who you date and get as much information you can on that guy. May God bless you. I hope you find the right guy.

Answer 4

I'm wondering if there even is another girl that's pregnant, it could just be a line to lose you. Or he was with her the whole time and he needed a friend with benefits to comfort himself during such a stressful time for me. Being lonely sucks but I'm sure you're better of without all the drama that he brought into your world. Hang in there hon

Answer 5

Either upfront him and ask if he really was livin a double life from the time the met you, or just move on. Try a dating site, because then you now the person wouldnt b livin 2 hours away, they could b right in your neighborhood aand you didnt even know it. just move on sweetie, and get over that jerk. hes not the only person in the world that could give it all to you.

Answer 6

You take it slow. I don't the intention was to hurt you. In the end he had a conscience. Stop beating yourself. Sweetie all men aren't not the same. The good ones are hard to find. Relax, spend some time with your friends...

Answer 7

long distance relationships don't last because he will be happy with another girl and you with another boy

Answer 8

So who swallowed the dumb a$$ bug!