I know this sounds stupid but I would really like some opinions on this, it's an issue that my friend is going through. I have my own opinion on it already. what do you people think?
2006-06-15 06:10:57 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
usually good man is not too good in bed.
like me !!!
2006-06-15 06:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was stuck in a marriage for over 11 years with a man like that. I thought at first it wouldn't matter since he always gave emotional support. But I was wrong. It becomes an issue. And when the emotional support disappears, it's really bad. If your friend really loves the guy, perhaps she can find videos and books to help him. If they explore it together so they're making both their skills better, then his feelings might not be hurt. Good luck to your friend!
2006-06-15 06:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by hkfilmfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How important is sex to her? I have been with my man for 4 years now, and I think he has dramatically improved in the bedroom. We just make sure that we are open about what we want and what makes us happy. Sex is a very important part of a relationship, and if its not good right off the bat, but you love him, i think its well worth the effort to try. Hey,in the mean time you can always masturbate!
2006-06-15 06:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by jeseka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how good or bad a person is in bed has nothing to do with TRUE love. True love is not physical affection...it's giving of oneself and doing everything possible to make sure the other person has what he needs...read I Corinthians chapter 13...I'm not tryin to preach, but it's a really great chapter about love...might answer some questions.
2006-06-15 06:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by celticivory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that he's not necessarily bad... He just needs to be taught what makes him good. Tell your friend she should "help" him. Show him what she likes, take his hands and put them where she wants them. And while he's doing it, comment on how it makes her feel. The only way for him to know what he's doing wrong, is by teaching him how to do it right. verbally let him know when it feels good, and encourage him to continue doing what he's doing. In no time at all, she can make him as good as she wants him to be. He might not be good now, but with the proper instruction, he can be better than many! Good luck to you and your friend.
2006-06-15 06:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, she could love him. Love and sex aren't flip sides of the same coin. Just as you can have good sex without love, you can have love with bad sex. But here's the opportunity. Your friend should take on the challenge of helping the man to be better in bed. What a blast it might be if she teaches him to be BETTER and BETTER is tailored exclusively to meet her sexual needs.
2006-06-15 06:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by mcjordansr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy is worth it, his bedroom skills wouldn't make a lick of difference to me. That can be changed. Guys can be 'taught.' Guys are actually eager to have a woman tell them what to do in bed, it takes all the pressure off him.
Tell your friend, if he treats her right and is a good guy, he's a keeper! There are so many guys who are excellent lovers but shitty boyfriends. I'd say your friend has the better end of the deal.
2006-06-15 06:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by dulcetpurr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a learned skill. Dropping a man because of his performance is shallow and ignorant.
i would think that because she has to ask this question she might want to stick with this guy, and work on growing up a little. There is more to life and love and lasting relationships than sex. In fact, sex ranks pretty low on the list.
Eventaully desire fades, but passion remains, if it was there to start with.
2006-06-15 06:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda bad isn't hopeless. It can definitely still be true love. If that's the only thing that's bad about the relationship, then its worth taking the time to work on improving it.
2006-06-15 06:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by lost_irish_75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha, I was just in this situation. The sex was definitely medicore. But, I loved and cared about him so much. I decided to tell him, you know, thinking that we could tell each other anything. SOOOOO not true. He stopped having sex with me. He told me I made him feel like less than a man.
And now we're just friends. Morale to the story, if you don't see fireworks....it ain't love!
2006-06-15 06:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by shakia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say possibly. He can always be taught how to be better in bed. He must be a great guy other wise if shes crazy about him. That is a positive way to start.....just get him to open up and learn new stuff!
2006-06-15 06:14:47 · answer #11 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋