Im 5 mths pregnant and when my boyfriend get mad at me he beat on me, he make me have sex with him or he would lock me in my bedroom.I dont know what to do about him im scared to tell him to stop or I dont what to be with him anymore. Can somebody tell me what should I do??
2006-06-15 06:05:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Call the police and leave his ***. Duh
2006-06-15 06:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by sassy79_420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, the first thing you need to do is start setting things up to get the hell out of there.
End of story.
The next time he is out of the house, get ahold of the local woman's shelter, or such. If you don't know the number, or you can't find it in the book, call the local welfare office, or even a local church. They should be able to help you with emergency shelter.
The next thing you need to do is get an emergency Protection From Abuse order (restraining order). It won't keep him from coming near you if he wants to break it, however it WILL give you too many options to go into here if he does. When you leave the house, LEAVE EVRYTHING YOU DON'T ABSOLUTELY MEDICALLY NEED. There are agencies out there that will help you with everything you have to have (clothes, things, etc.).
If you have family near you, call them and tell them what is going on, but DO NOT go to their house. That is the first place this cat is going to look.
Being scared is perfectly acceptable: You are in a situation that is one of the most terrifying you will ever (hopefully) face. The thing is, you need to think about your baby. If he continues to beat you, then you run a very serious risk of losing the baby. That is something that absolutely NO parent should have to go through. Even if you don't lose the baby, is that the environment you want your baby to grow up in? IF you have a boy, do you want him to grow up thinking that it is perfectly OK for him to treat his women the same way? If you have a girl, do you want her to grow up thinking it is perfectly acceptable for ANY man to put his hands on her?
Do your baby a favor, and get out NOW... and let us all know how you are doing.
2006-06-15 13:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by Bradly S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the police! ask them if there is a battered woman shelter in your area. they will help you get on your feet and most importantly keep you and your baby safe. Dont be afraid you have to do this for yourself and the baby! You dont want your baby to grow up in an unsafe environment. Get a restraining order on him! go to your parents or a trusted friend just get away as soon as you can! be strong. you and the baby are worth it and you dont deserve that!
2006-06-15 13:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is toxic and you need to get OUT, not just for you, but also for your child. You do not want to raise a child in that kind of household. There are probably women's shelters or a community group that can help you. Try your church if you have one. You can do it. Be strong and live the life you want to live.
W/O him.
I'm sure you can also find places to help you financially with your child. Don't give up!!
2006-06-15 13:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, that is one physco guy you have there. If you want your child to be born , which might not happen if he hits you hard enough, or if you want your child to grow up in a normal home and not do this to others when he gets older or get abused when she gets older, then just leave. Why tell him to stop when we both know that he won't. You are wanting to tell him in hopes it will wake him up. If this baby coming won't wake him up honey, nothing will. Get out while you are able to , before its too late or your child gets hurt. Be a good mom and get out of there.
2006-06-15 13:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you have to get out. If he is already treating you like that, imagine what he's going to be like with your child, get out before that baby gets here, ask for help from your family and the police. Some body will help you.
2006-06-15 13:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by bemassey2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police. Now. This can only get worse. Find a safe place to go, a friend's house or a battered women's shelter.
2006-06-15 13:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
CALL THE POLiCE!!! Don't let him take advantage of you. I know you're not crazy, but your boyfriend is. That is really dangerous to you and even to your child. There are places to go that will help you. You could probably even go home if you wanted.
2006-06-15 13:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by Shley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry that your situation is crappy but you need to get away... the first thing you do is you get a restraining order and depending on where you live he can be forced to move out of your house and still pay rent or whatever... then you take yourself down to the court file for soul custody... its hard to go through that because i jsut went through it with my sons dad but what are you going to do when your child is born and he beats on your kid... what if he kills him..or you... you need to not think with your heart and think with your head... good luck and god bless
2006-06-15 13:12:21 · answer #9 · answered by vanessa_mramos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT!! call information or the police and get a number for a shelter for women who are victims of domestic violence and get out before he kills you or hurts the baby...the shelter will tell you how to get away safely...get help and get out
2006-06-21 02:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by fiveflowersbloomin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is tough but I think you can do it without him. If he can beat you what makes you think that he wont beat your future child. I would put a restaining order against him to protect you and your child.
2006-06-15 13:14:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋