my husband has a really difficult time sometimes, when we're together. i have tried EVERYTHING, and i hate to have to discuss this question with other people, but i just dont know what to do anymore...we've only been married about 2 weeks, and he's concerned that theres something wrong with him. i dont know what to do anymore, and i'd really appreciate any advice i can get.
2006-06-15 06:04:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
ok, the problem isnt getting OR maintaining an erection. AT ALL. believe me. i think what it is, is he may be trying too hard. we werent sexually active at all (either one of us) before we got married, and i've told him time after time that its OK. he doesnt seem to believe that its good for me. i know it sounds wierd, but i'm content just being with him... does any of this make sense?
2006-06-15 06:15:18 · update #1
From what I understand from talking to my fiance, sometimes guys get so into it and so involved and excited that they can't "finish". I don't really understand it either, but believe me, we've been through it too. It's completely understandable since you waited until you were married to go for it(congrats on that by the way).I suggest just telling him to slow down and try to enjoy the moment more. Once he starts relaxing he'll come around..I promise :0)
2006-06-15 06:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by Justinsmom 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If he's worried, he should go to the doctor. Another reason could be stress. It seriously limits the libedo. Maybe try lots of forplay. Take the pressure off and just have fun. There is more to sex than just intercourse.
2006-06-15 06:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by Artemis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some kama sutra. Try a variety of positions and things. Role play. Find a way to make sex less of a responsibility for him and more of a chance to have some fun.
2006-06-15 06:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by pululu81 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens, maybe he is just stressed out about something. It happened to me and my hubby right after he came home from a deployment, he was trying too hard to be satisfying that he pretty much freaked him out. Just listen to what he has to say and reassure him that you will be there for him during this mishap.
2006-06-15 06:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by armywife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a little vague...is it a problem keeping/getting an erection or a problem with ejaculation? I think the best thing would be for him to speak to a doctor.
2006-06-15 06:10:08 · answer #5 · answered by Chell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you sexually active before marriage? If not, it could be stress related to pressure to perform well. Has he seen a doctor about E.D?
2006-06-15 06:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it doesn't bother you.. let him watch porn while you two are going at it. I know that's kinda weird, and it's not to say that you don't turn him on, it's just that watching other people have sex is sometimes stimulating. Try it and see if it works.
2006-06-15 06:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So whats the problem? Cant get it up? Doesnt last long? Cant help if you dont get specific?
2006-06-15 06:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by ♠♣♥Rogue♣♥♠ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not to specific, but maybe you are trying to hard and this is creating too much pressure and he is just too nervous. Just relax and let it happen.
2006-06-15 06:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever seen that episode of sex and the city where this happened to charlotte and trey? maybe you need to be all sexy for him like charlotte did to break his spell.
2006-06-15 06:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by Mollerina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋