women advice??????

Question

i was in a relationship for almost 2 years we broke up like in jan i still think of her alot and from wat her sis tells me she feels the same but not like i do i still love her but i wanna try to make things work again how do i do that wen we talk only lik once or twice a month isnt that kinda hard wen we really don talk as much anymore. she says she just wants to be friends wat do i do and how do i get her back!!!!!

also i do my own thing and enjoy life wit all my friends but im not dying over her and all but i do wanna win her bak but not rush things like before!!!!

Answer 1

This is such a hard situation. Your feelings are real and you love her BUT you don't want to scare her into not even wanting to be friends. My advice? Give her space!

I know that is probably NOT what you want to hear but seriously take it from a woman who has been in this situation..... I don't know why but really...hear it is... what it is that woman think that they cannot have, they want even more. If you aren't available to her,she will be more available to you than ever. I am not sure why this is.

I once read in a book something like "men are like dogs, they chase what they cannot have" I submit that this philosophy applies to every person....it is true, we do naturally desire what we are told we cannot have.

Try not being available, or so available. Go out and do something for yourself, by taking care of yourself, keeping active and happy you will be naturally sexy and desireable. Truly, the sexiest part of a man is his confidence! His brain! His personality! Sexiness has nothing to do with 6pack abs, or expensive clothes and cars, or the perfect hair cut, or how much money is in your bank account. Trust me!

And if not, if this girl is into all that superficial stuff I mentioned just now, well than my friend... she is doing you a HUGE favor and you should run for your life. There are women out there, real women who want and desire real men.

And if she is the love of your life, and the one and only for you, than sometimes the best thing for a relationship is some time and space. I wish you the best of luck and just try what I suggested....I am not implying that you nor your girl are "dogs"....I was just wanted to make a point regarding wanting what you can't have.

Good luck and love yourself!

Answer 2

The first thing you need to do is let her go completely. If she senses that your friendship has an underlying motive to get her back as a girlfriend, then you will be pushing her further away. You have to make peace with the idea that you may not get her back as a girlfriend and be happy to take her up on her offer of friendship only. Once she feels safe with you as a sincere friend, then with some she may want to reinitiate more than friendship. But you have to let her take those first steps. Remember, a person who seems desparately inlove isn't as attractive as someone who is confident enough with themselves to just move on and be friends. She will find you more attractive if you don't push the girlfriend / boyfriend issue.

Answer 3

I'd say you just have to let it go.Women like to know that they have options that why they want to be friends after a break-up. its always nice to know you have someone to fall back onto. you don't want to be this guy.keep it a civil break-up, cut the ties. you know i know you have heard this before but i strongly believe it. YOUR EX IS AN EX FOR A REASON. you might think well it was a stupid reason and i can deal with that now cause i see life without that person, but NO. things happen for a reason we cant always explain why this is. but my option, do what your heart tells you we all learn in our own ways.

Answer 4

You'll have to something extra ordinary. If you know where she lives, send her flowers and a musical card that plays a song like what you feel. Wait for a response. if you don't get one, then maybe it's time to let it go. Sometimes people come back when they see you with someone else. Hopefully it won't be to late if it happens like that. Life's to short to stress over a lost cause.

Answer 5

All you can do is wait, if you guys are real meant to be, both of you will realize it and both will want try to make it work the 2nd time around .Just hang in there as a friend,but live your life too.

Answer 6

The best thing to do is to respect her wishes. If she feels that you two should remain friends she obviously has a reason for that. Let her know that you will be there for her and if and when she decides to start a new relationship with you, you will be more than happy to be with her.

Answer 7

You don't spend your time trying to get her back. You move on with your life - make new friends, get new hobbies. Don't cut her off, but don't seek her out. When she sees how fabulously independent and successful you are on your own, she might be a little intrigued and interested in hanging out more.


If all you do is pine over her all day, then you aren't interesting to her.

The bonus to moving on with your life? You might just discover that you'll think about her less and less...and meet someone more interesting. believe me... it happened to me!!

Answer 8

it is good u stil talk and that is a good start.if she says she want u to be just friends again,accept it after all rome was not built in a day.it might take time and if the chemistry is stil there things might work out ur way and this is the time to get to knw eachother more as u may later find out that might not be wat u were hoping for due to certain changes in her life.

Answer 9

Well, you have to remember that youse broke up for a reason.
Yeah, everyone misses their ex every once in a while and they only remember the good times with them, But just remember that youse broke up for a reason and you don't wanna go back.

Answer 10

well i think that u either hav 2 wait 4 her 2 come 2 u or.....u can tell her how u feel with no BS u gotta b tru 2 her n tell her 2 b tru 2 u n tell u how she really feels....if she dnt feel da same as u than u hav 2 move on no matter how hard it may b.....y did ya'll break up anyways??