I cry really easily, always have done. I just can't seem to help it. If I make a mistake in a driving lesson, I start to cry. If someone gets angry with me, I start to feel upset. If I don't understand something and have a test on it the next day or somethn like that I cry. It's really embarrassing! I just can't seem to control it. I was bullied mercilessly as a child- do you think this has something to do with it?
2006-06-15 05:41:52 · 23 answers · asked by Rox 4 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I used to be the same way. People who cry a lot just have easier access to their emotions, really. They know what they feel the instant they feel it. There are people out there who never acknowledge feelings, never cry, and their behavior is stony and unpersonable.
But I can still imagine that you'd like to avoid crying in public, because it is a little embarrassing. I can't give you any tips on how to do this, it's going to take some practice and knowledge of yourself. Whenever I feel myself wanting to cry in front of people, I shove it down. I think of anything else to avoid thinking of what's making me sad. I wait until I can get in the car by myself or in the bathroom, and then I let loose. A few minutes of crying and I'm good.
Good luck. Don't beat yourself up because you're sensitive. You just feel, you feel a lot, and you wear your heart on your sleeve. This is not a bad thing. :)
2006-06-15 05:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by dulcetpurr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cry and feel upset pretty easily too but you just need to focus on other things in life, if your upset about your driving test or anything like that just breath deeply and think of something else in the world or how it dosen't realy make a difference in your life. Just keep thinking that you can change whatever it is that has gone wrong soon and think of it as no big deal. Work out a plan in your head on what you will do to fix this problem. This is probably something to do with being bullied but you CAN overcome it :)
2006-06-15 05:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by pippiedooda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all has to do with confidence. I am very sensitive as well and when someone says the littlest critique to me I feel my face getting hot and my tears swelling up. This happened alot at school. I dont mean to cry at all and it is really embarrassing. Even when my parents would ask me something or say something to me, I'd get all teary eyed and end up feeling ridiculous. I went thru a really bad time and I just started telling myself that I need to not take things so seriously and as if its the end of the world. I wasn't really bullied but I had very strict parent. I guess the thought of them looking down on me and all my mom would have to do is say one thing to me and i'd start crying and be so angry and didn't understand why. I think that the pressure they put upon me was alot and they didn't and still dont realize that. They may not say it but you feel it and whenever I make a mistake I still sometimes feel its the end of the world and that i'm dead once my parents find out. I'm 23 years old now and I still get that way around them. I read one book call "You can't mend a broken wing" it was by some guy I can't remember. But it talks about yourself and acceptance and the acceptance of outside things and it really helped me alot. It helped me to forgive myself and embrace the emotions I had and not be embarrassed. I still cry alot but not as much. I think if you were bullied, it does has something to do with it and maybe you need to find some inner strenght to release all of that. I hope this makes sense to you.
2006-06-15 05:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by so many to choose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being bullied definitely has something to do with it. It takes away your self-esteem, strips you of who you are. Although you did nothing to deserve, in a strange way you feel like you did. Its a very hard thing to overcome. In my opinion I would seek the help of a professional. I went through an abusive marriage and in the same sense I was bullied, and stripped of my self-worth. I went into a deep depression and without seeking help I don't know where I would be today. Sometimes talking to friends and family just isn't enough.
I think that would be best for you. Sometimes you just can't do it alone even though you know what the problem is. An objective outsider sometimes is the best solution.
I do hope all turns out well for you.
2006-06-15 05:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by allyp51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Highly Sensitive Person's Survival Guide: Essential Skills for Living Well in an Overstimulating World (Step-By-Step Guides) (Paperback)
by Ted Zeff, Elaine N. Aron
2006-06-15 05:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand,i use to be the same way and my daughter is now the same way.you have to get to a point where you are tired of feeling so hurt all the time because one day your going to REALLY have a reason to be hurt and your not going to know how to handle yourself because everything else makes you so upset.you have to learn how to let things go,you have to toughen up,no matter how much you get upset or want to cry you have to control your emotions ESPECIALLY in public.even in adult life their are bullies and you cant let them see you break,especially being a women.theres nothing wrong with being sensitive and having a good heart so dont feel wrong or bad or try to beat yourself up,just learn to control your emotions.it'll take some time,but trust me,it'll will be worth it.good luck
2006-06-15 06:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by mrs.dynomite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There or pros and cons to being sensitive. You will be more aware of pain in others because of this and that can become a very good thing with careers that this perception helps with as Dr. Nurse, counselor etc. As you build on your strengths because of your sensitivity, the negatives begin to loose some of their sting. Building the ability to be stronger with your own insecurities comes with experience. I alway try to ask myself to things to balance out my sensitivity. 1st. Do I admire the person etc. that has caused it to sting me? If not I can brush it off easier. I want my life to reflect people etc. I admire. Not the critical. 2nd. What can I learn from this? Is there anything I would change if the same situation presented itself again? Sometimes it hurts because I really did like or admire this object of my pain prior to this episode, And after thought into it discovered the admiration was not as warranted as I thought. God Bless
2006-06-15 05:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by rasberijam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was bullied as a child to im extremely sensitive you always have to remember the people who pick on people are the ones who are really the hurt and afraid ones cause they dont have the common sense to live like a normal person if your a girl being sensitive is part of your life its how you are it's nothing to be ashamed of or maybe your just depressed and you dont know how to deal with the situations dont worry you'll be alright
2006-06-15 05:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by gothnmetaler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I bet the bullying has a lot to do with it. I was bullied throughout middle school and I'm just the opposite- I can't cry even when I should. I would try therapy, I bet it could help a lot.
2006-06-15 05:47:47 · answer #9 · answered by smithie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do, I was bullied as well but I overcame my fear of 'not being accepted/wanted' when I accepted myself, flaws and all, its comes with the territory and you may not be able to stop being so sensitive but evenutally you will be able to sigh and say 'well, better luck next time' rather than cry and say 'why me?' bad things happen to everyone...and somebody is always going through something worse when you go through something bad.
2006-06-15 05:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋