I am getting married in October, and we are having a small wedding. Therefore, I have friends and family that I can't invite to the wedding. Can I still invite them to my bridal shower? Is that in poor taste?
2006-06-15 05:17:07 · 20 answers · asked by Future Mrs A. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
By no means!!! If you can't invite them to the actual wedding it would be better to invite them to the shower! Just explain that you didn't want to completely leave them out and invite them! I mean wouldn't it be worse not to have them involved at all?
2006-06-15 05:20:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tacky to do so, besides, you don't organize your own bridal shower, normaly, a family member or a co-worker organizes this informal event with close friends as relatives and is not meant to be a make-up day for uninvited guests.
If you do this you will come across as rude and greedy. Let whomever is organizing the bridal shower do the inviting part and enjoy the company of the people close to your heart, but don't offend your friends by inviting them to a bridal shower, receive a a gift and then don't invite them to the wedding. It's in horrible taste.
Congratulations and good luck
2006-06-15 12:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't invite them to the wedding then don't invite them to the shower. The main point of a shower is getting gifts (which I think is totally lame and so I never had one) and if they aren't invited to the wedding then they shouldn't be obligated to get you anything. Invite only the people going to the wedding.
2006-06-15 13:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what would be the reason to invite them to your bridal shower sweetie if you cant invite them to your wedding, because then they are going to question about not being invited to your wedding and you really don't want a conflict between family and friends unless you just don't care about what people think , but i don't think its a good idea to invite them to anything pertaining to your wedding. You will be much happier and good luck to your future.
2006-06-15 12:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by chica73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You’re not usually supposed to invite anyone to the shower who isn’t invited to the wedding. This is because the shower is meant as a time to “shower” the bride with gifts, and asking for a gift from someone you’re not inviting to the actual wedding is seen as being pretty rude. Sorry :o(
2006-06-18 17:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by KrisD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Around here, its not unusual for your bridal shower to be mostly people you do not invite to the wedding. Its a way of involving people you know, without having to break the bank to fit them into the wedding guest list. A vast majority of people understand that fact, and they are glad to have been involved in your special day in some way -- even if it was inadvance of the day and in an informal setting.
2006-06-15 13:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by dsc1110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you invite them to the shower, they will want to come the the wedding. Invite people who you feel comfortable around.
2006-06-15 12:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would just invite the people that are invited to the wedding so that way there wont be any hurt feelings.
2006-06-15 12:35:27 · answer #8 · answered by Country Chick87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot invite them to the wedding, I would not invite them to the shower.
2006-06-15 13:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by Joelle M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should invite the people that you plan on inviting to the wedding, unless the others already know that they aren't invited to it.
2006-06-15 12:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋