HAS ANYONE EVER LOST A LOVED ONE,IF SO... CAN YOU SHARE who and HOW YOU OVERCAME THE GRIEVING?

Question

I HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO STOP MOURNING THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE....CAN ANY ONE RELATE?

I want to say thank you to everyone who has taken the time to share with me .... I have read every single message, you have all been very kind and helpfull.. I am also sorry about all of your lost loved ones....

Answer 1

I lost my father at the age of 16.. not only did it send me into an emtional and mental spiral... it affected my work, my hobbies, friends, self-image, you name it.. i started to go down hill at it.

You will NEVER "get over" the loss of that loved one.. nor will you ever forget them.

I however, believe that eveything happens for a reason, when the Lord says....."child come home"....... nothing matters, the age, sex, how much they are need here on earth, how "you" feel it wasn't there time. Everyone is taken when they are...because that is the will of God.

I pray for you... peace and contentment, strength and understanding. I hope that through these tough times that you face now and will continue to face some happiness and good can come of this. Do not be mournful or feel sorrow.... for stuggle is ordained, as is life and death.

Remember them for who they were, what they did and how they touched you... do not fill you life with resentment and bitterness trying to understand.

Get a journal, talk to a counselour... confide in your family and friends. They are there for you!

Peace & Love

Answer 2

I have lost 2 people i really care about. I lost my mom to breast cancer and 5 months after she passed away my ex- boyfriend killed himself. The mourning will get alittle easier but you never get over losing a love one because you always wonder what it would be like if they were still here. Till this day I mourn when the date of there death comes around but I try to remeber they are in a better place and at peace and most they are both watching down on me. I will never forget losing my mom or my ex- boyfriend but I will always keep them close to my heart and remeber the great times we shared.

Answer 3

Get over grieving by transferring that love to someone in your life. That would be a way to honor the relationship you had, because that person you are grieving for would not want you to feel bad. Their time is over and you could not change that. What is important is the time together was good. That's all we get, that's all we take. So remember this when you are with others. If this was a life partner it can be rough. Someday when your time is up maybe you will be reunited in spirit. Honor the person and what they meant to your life.

Answer 4

Yes and I'm sorry. I've lost all grandparents, my mother, father and oldest brother. My father's death was the hardest because he was my hero. It was like 15 years ago and I still talk to him. Just try to remember - just because they aren't physically here with you, they will be in your heart. I think my father's been with me A LOT. I hope I'm right. I truly believe we will all be together again sometime and that gives me hope. It's good that you are crying. Some people won't mourn and it hurts them harder and longer than most. This is a normal process. Things will get better in time. It's hard --- HUGS to you (if that helps any).

Answer 5

I lost my 4 year old son to Leukemia. It took me about 2 years to come out of the fog. It still hurts, but I can function again. I don't know what to tell you, though. Everyone grieves differently and needs time. No one can tell you how long. You might consult a grief counselor and consider anti-depressants. Good luck to you.

After he died in July 2003, I lost my step mom in Jan 2004 and my step father in Sept 2004. It was very difficult but I got thru it and so will you. God bless you.

Answer 6

Sure, I can. Many of my family members have died. Grieving and loss are different for everyone. Instead of dwelling on your loss, try to focus on the happy times with that person. I've found that remembering the good helps to deal with the loss. If you're unable to deal with the loss, try grief counseling. There are some really great counselors available to help you. Good luck!

Answer 7

Yes I have and it feels like you are about to have a mental breakdown. But all you can do is pray, pray and then pray some more. It took me almost a year to get to what I considered to be a normal life. I mean I still did stuff that I use to do but I was just going through the motions! I had crrying sprees just driving down the street. But it will get better I PROMISE. Time is the only way you will heal.

XOXOXOXO....Feel free to contact me if you need some more support!

Answer 8

We lost my mother in law shortly after our wedding and I will not lie, it is HARD to go on, but what I can tell you is that you need to believe that your loved one is in a good place and always remember the wonderful memories you shared. Time is the only thing that will make the pain go away... each day it will become more easier to handle and accept.

You could also call your local hospital to see if they have a grief counseling group you could join. Talking about your loved one also helps!

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 9

I lost a very close friend and at that point it felt like the world just had to end. But I had to think about the fact they went a better place. you just need to look into the future and try to let the sorrow go by because if that person loved you they wouldn't want you to grieve but to rejoice in them going to God's kingdom(if they are christian) I hope I helped! God bless you to have the strenth to overcome this obstacle!

Answer 10

I've lost a friend to suicide, one to an OD and two to a fatal car wreck. You never totally overcome it. A life loss is a terrible thing...you are always wondering "were they saved?", "could I have done anything?" "why couldn't it have been someone else?".
Just remember things happen for a reason. The death of someone could have changed someone elses life in a positive way. It could have opened their eyes...maybe helped someone to recover from an addiction, or bring someone to turn their life over to God. You never know what's in store for you...so I try to live my life like there's no tomorrow! Just knowing that they are in a better place should be comfort enough!

Answer 11

i lost my mom 6 yrs ago. I went to a greif support group though a hospice group for free. that was a big step. I also saw a psychologist and had an anti depressant. I also made a photo album of the " good" time photos. I still miss her and cry form time to time. but I truly recommend going to a greif support group. You can go to you local hospital and find you if any local hospice groups have support groups going. Just remember it will get better and i wich you love and luck it is a hard road to travel.