GUYS ONLY PLEASE!
2006-06-15 05:00:28 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
absolutely - and if it does not work out, call me
2006-06-15 05:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by river_runs 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK, despite what some of these girls are saying... Your bf isn't suggesting this only because he cares about sex, and doesn't care about you... In fact, it seems that he just has a very creative imagination, and is choosing you for his girlfriend. At the same time, he has a fantasy, and wants to know if you'll help him fulfill it! Don't we all have fantasies, whether we're men or women? Maybe you have a fantasy that you'd like him to help you fulfill? While bringing a third person into the equation can be tricky, it can be done - without harm to the relationship, if somehow, you are able to accept the fact that this is a fantasy of his. It's only sex, and emotional ties are NOT allowed (when referring to the third person involved). Some ground rules should be set between all three of you involved as well - and under no circumstances should these rules be broken, if you have any hope to make things continue. Ultimately, it's your decision to make either way. At least he's asking you - versus finding two other women to partake in his fantasy. Good luck! I hope it all goes well for you!
2006-06-15 05:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, the real question is what do you want? Don't do it just because that is what he wants. Is he willing to do the same for you and have a 3 some with his best friend? Is he ok with it being just you and your best friend and he isn't allowed to join in? Lots of people fantasize about 3 somes but ultimately for most people the fantasy is way better than reality. For most people this is the beginning of the end for their relationship because most people can't separate sex from their emotions. One person ends up having a good time and the other is miserable or someone ends up developing feelings for the third person, etc... Think about what you really want and then make that clear to your boyfriend. If he can't respect your choice then this was all about him and you need a new boyfriend.
2006-06-15 05:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can handle it, then do it.
Beware though. You must set up some ground rules that you are both comfortable with.
Afterward, you will not be able to trust your friend with your boyfriend, and you will always think they are meeting each other on the side. Wait till you get a little older to start exploring that stuff, and then it is best to do a threesome with strangers. Use COndoms.
2006-06-15 05:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I recognize your BF's right to ask you to do this; and I believe I understand his motivation, I believe you must decide based upon facts other than his fantasy about this experience. First of you, the simplest question to ask your BF is "why?" Why the threesome? Why this particular person? I assume, his version of a threesome includes two women and himself. That brings us to another set of questions, such as: 1)who leads this escapade; who determines who does what to whom? 2) If this a one time experience, or does he see it as something to continue and does he have anyother individuals in mind? Have your BF to explain in clear details what he perceives to be the benefits, both to you and to himself, from this experience. By the way, you should ask, what how will your best friend benefit? Finally, I suggest that you might ask your BF how he would respond if you proposed the following scenarios: 1) you in a threesome with two men, including him; 2) you and your best friend, without him; you and two men, without him.
The real purpose of all these questions to help your BF begin to understand the potentially longrange implications of what he proposes. I suspect, he simply wants to indulge a fantasty, but he needs to deal with the reality of the implications.
I hope this helps.
2006-06-15 05:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by mcjordansr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel up to it then do it. But then you have to know that there is going to some awkwardness around all of you. Then what if he keeps sleeping with your friend!! Are you going to approve once you have the 3some there is not going to be much respect!!THINK ABOUT IT FIRST. IF THIS GUY IS ONLY GOING TO A FLING AND NOT A HUSBAND FIGURE THEN IT'S UP TO YOU. If things are serious then honestly DONT DO IT!
2006-06-15 05:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by luciouskitti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you asking only guys about this. they all want that to happen so they will all say go for it. how are you going to feel while watching your b/f tagging your best friend. Then afterwards how awkward is it going to feel? i wouldn't do one any way, but if i ever did i think it would be better to call in a stranger. i don't think i would ever look at my best friend the same way again.
2006-06-15 05:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I stick with one person at a time.
I have little respect for women who sleep around.
In the end, the choice is yours.
If you're comfortable with it(I don't think you are.) do it.
If not don't.
I myself would ask the other person why they need a third person and what I can do to solve the problem. To me if someone can be with me and still need a 3rd person, I'm apparently not good enough.
2006-06-15 05:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by blackwolf917 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really cared for you then he would never ask such a thing from you. I would end this now. He is completly trivializing what a relationship is supposed to be about and you dont need to be with someone who treats you like that.
2006-06-15 05:05:29 · answer #9 · answered by Bluris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmmm well do what ur heart says to you !!! If u feel that the guy you love is worth doing it ........... go ahead and if u feel otherwise dump him for even thinking this way !
2006-06-15 07:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by Kenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go to hell. He just wants to have sex with your best friend and doesn't want to have to sneak around to do it. He sounds like a loser. You should find someone better that just loves you alone.
2006-06-15 05:07:57 · answer #11 · answered by Stormy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋