want to be a good wife for my future hubby. I want to be a pleasing wife to God and to my husband, the kind that really respects her hubby, you know? a quality woman. i realise nobody is perfect, and we will make mistakes, but some input on your own experience, what God has shown you and some comforting or informative scriptures would be a blessing thanks!
i know the proverbs 31 woman chapter, is there also any revalation God has given you about parts of that chapter?
2006-06-15 04:59:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Love him unconditionally, even when he isn't perfect or does things you don't like. He ought to do the same for you. That's what every human being really wants, I think- to be loved for themselves, and not for what they can give the other. There are people in the world who are very unforgiving and who demand their "rights" in a marriage relationship, and if they don't get them are ready to walk out. That's an ungodly way of looking at things. One who loves another doesn't think about rights. . . they think about what they can do for that other person to make them happy and lead them closer to God. Love them for who they are, and not for what they do. And yes, you'll both make mistakes- sometimes even terrible ones, but the one thing you both should be agreed on is that nothing will ever be allowed to come between you. Because as long as you both stand firmly together, and you both put God first before anything else, there's not too much that can hurt you from outside. You should always try to ensure that your relationship honors Him in all ways at all times.
2006-06-15 05:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by Billy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best answer I can give is wait on the Lord and listen to your pastor, and keep reading the Word, and keep praying and asking, and as often as possible go to church. Since you have read Proverbs 31, read whole book.
Some questions to address as well
(1) Finances; what type of possible mate are you looking for here?
(2) Would any possible mate put you second to God?
(3) What likes and dislikes are common to each of you?
(4) Would your vocations clash or compliment each of you?
These are only four other things to think of when looking for a lifetime mate for you. Remember marriage will involve more than just going to church. You and he have likes and dislikes. I forgot what about your backgrounds and in-laws. That too has to be taken into account.
See why you must not make a move without the Spirit's direction?
I hope this is helpful.
2006-06-15 05:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by 1saintofGod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eph 5:22-24 is about a wife being in subjection to her husband, 1 Cor 7:3,4 is about not withholding the marital due (sex) , 1 Pe 3:1-6 talks about wives primary adornment being "the secret person of the heart" producing the fruitage of spirit... (this was directed towards women who were married to non-believers)
I think the important thing to remember is God gave laws to husbands, because they were given the "superior position in the marriage arrangement", on the proper way to treat a wife. So, in looking for a husband you might want to seek someone who demonstrates those qualities already.
2006-06-15 05:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by Eleri Rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read Ephesians 5: 22-33, Colossians 3:18-23, Titus 2:3-5, 1 Corinthians 7:3-5. These should help you on your journey to becoming the wife God and your husband would like you to be. An excellent book to read is "Christ in the Home" by Robert R. Taylor, Jr. Not sure where you would be able to buy it, try tuckersbooks.com.
2006-06-15 05:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by TexasMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be a good wife is hard. It is full of self denial. You need to put your husband first (as he should put you first). You need to be committed to your children as well, but they should not come before your husband.
The best book I've read (for singles as well as married Christians) is "Lies Women Believe and the Truth That Sets You Free", by Nancy Leigh DeMoss. You can get it at CBD.com
It is full of wisdom about many things...like not reading romance novels or watching soaps on t.v. because it is not real. Your husband will NEVER meet your needs.
Also lies like...My husband should make me happy...He should provide for me better....
Get the book... I have had to read it a few times becuause I am prone to fall into..."I'm not happy and it's all my husbands fault".
Truth is life is tough. Married life is tough...and God is to supply all our needs...not another person.
2006-06-15 05:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by Red-dog-luke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never let anyone in between you and your husband except God.
Be faithful and learn to love. These scripture should show you why not to have someone else in your relationship and what Love is. The word Charity means LOVE.
1corinthinas7:12But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 13And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 14For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
Corinthians13:1Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. 2And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. 3And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
4Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; 6Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
8Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away. 9For we know in part, and we prophesy in part. 10But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away. 11When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 12For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known. 13And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.
2006-06-15 05:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by soccergarysw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you aren't married yet, the most important advise that I can give you is: DO NOT BE UNEQUALLY YOLKED! Don't marry a non-believer in the hope that you'll turn him to God. And do not marry someone from a different faith than yours (like Catholic/Baptist.... Lutheran/J.W.)! In your love, you might not think this is a big deal, but it is! It should be a deal breaker when it comes to your future husband.
2006-06-15 05:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by grahamma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more of the Love of God that you allow in your heart, the more fragrance of the knowledge of Jesus will flow out.
Luke 6:45
The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.
1 Pet. 3.3-5
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.
Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.
For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful..........
I find it very attractive when I see a woman worshipping God from her heart.
2006-06-18 02:17:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what part of questions and answers don't you understand? You come here and espouse your religious beliefs till you are blue in the face! that isn't the purpose of this site
2006-06-15 05:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by matt 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋