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Question

my girlfriend cuts herself and i've tried to help her and tried to get her to stop but im starting to get scared... because one minute shes happy and the next she wants to die. im not sure what to do anymore. i cant tell her family because not only do they not approve of me she hates them and hasnt heard from them for about 5 months. its killing me to see her like this i really lover her and i tell her that constently and i would protect her from anything that would hurt her execpt shes hurting herself and im just so lost every time i try to get profession help she freaks out on me..... she tells me she doesnt want to get better.... that this is just what she does..... she has tried to kill herself about 8 times....everytime she tries to commit i have been there to stop her im scared that one day im not gonna get there in time she does this because she cant let out any emotions shes just keeps them inside and it comes back and it becomes too much for her to handle... please help

Answer 1

You may not like this answer but it appears that her "attempts" to kill herself only happen when you are available to stop her. This tells me that she is reaching out to you for help, but the only way she knows how to ask is to make you her savior. You both should go IMMEDIATELY to an intervention program for outside help. Her family and friends may love her, but you need someone who will be honest and firm in dealing with your shared problem

Answer 2

Listen to me carefully,I know from experience,because 10 years ago I shot myself,because I felt lonely even though I had friends,and also I had other problems that I have never told anyone to this day.You need to get your girlfriend to tell you what is really bothering her,that somehow,someway you are going to help her and you will refuse to give up on her,giving up on her is not an option,tell her that.Tell her her life is more important that she really knows.Let her know the pain that killing herself would cause to other.I thought it would not cause pain to others,but when you are being rolled into the emergency room and hear your father crying,believe me that was not a good thing.tell her that she is special and you will never let her forget that and that you will always be there to help her and she needs to look within herself and find out why she is doing it and ask herself is it really worth hurting herself over,believe me I found out it was not worth it.I did not hesitate,I pulled the trigger as soon as I had the gun in my hand.You can email me if you like and I will try to help more.

Answer 3

Here is what Miss Connecticut says about suicide.

1. Educate yourself! Be prepared to handle a suicide attempt.
If someone confronts you with suicidal feelings, you should stay with him or her and talk until you can get professional help to the scene. To seek help, call:

1-800-273-talk

Never keep a secret when it comes to suicide; people’s lives are in your hands.

2. Talk to your friends about suicide and depression.
I cannot stress enough how important this is. Give you family and friends Yellow Ribbon Lifeline Cards. Encourage your community and schools to pass them out among middle and high school students. Click here for free Yellow Ribbon Cards.

3. Get your children and friends engaged in a self-esteem promoting activity.
This activity will help your family members or friends develop self-worth and feel good about their lives! This is what I call, Coping With Life. Setting and achieving goals can teach America’s youth how to survive suicide.

4. Become involved in community prevention efforts.
For more information see links page.


Find info about preventyouthsuicide at
http://www.preventyouthsuicide.org/

Answer 4

well first let me start by saying that you are a very special person for staying by her side thru all she is doing. She is a very confused and upset person. She has alot of emotional issues and may not even know what they are or why. It is wonderful that you want to be there and to help her but she needs professional help. You are not a professional and all you can do to help her is clean up the blood when she cuts or does whatever. And one day she may do something to herself you can't "help" her out of. Please for your own sanity, and her safety tell her that she must get professional help or you can't continue to see her cuz this is very unfair to you to make you have to sit by and watch someone you love do this to themselves. As for her family please leave them out of it all. It sounds like they may be part of her emotional issues. She needs professional help, not her family. AND as hard as it may sound, you may have to leave her to get her attention. All you are doing is enabling her by staying by her side and letting her continue to behave the way she is.

Answer 5

i think she might have to be taken to a counsellor first not for joining in the hospital just for counselling or else try hypnotism using which one can actually find the root of this problem and can be cured with in a time frame. and first of all she must feel secured and must trust someone to actually get herself better.

Answer 6

what is causing this, why does she get mad, angry annoyed? you should tell and explain to her that you are trying your best to help her but she needs to participate, meaning help herself as well...one of my family memebers use to be like this and I gave her attention and talk to her about it...and it worked out now...I visit her all the time just not o to lose comunication as I being the older brother I have departed from my family and on my own, but still make sure my family is close, as you shoud to this person keep them close and make sure they are felt and accompanied.

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Answer 7

i think you should tell her family, maybe they will like you more when they realise that you are there for her