Nice- always pleasant, never controversial or potentially causing conflict. God never calls us to be nice, he calls us to go deeper. To be loving, kind, gentle, truthful. What say you?
2006-06-15 04:51:54 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Ok - that sounds all nice and good but the "non controversial" part has cause problems in my marriage. My husband hates controversy and will avoid it at all cost. This means that my in-laws and people in my family can assume things about me - say things that aren't true and make things worse. I'll ask him why he didn't stick up for me (when I deserved it) and his answer was "I don't like controversy" --- so guess who got hurt?
2006-06-15 04:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 9⤊ 4⤋
I think being nice does not mean never be controversial, its just express different view in a pleasant way.
Altough many may take advantage of nice person, but still, a world is a better place if every one be a little nicer.
Sometime being nice is heroic too, because of all those mean person out there, are you dare to be nice?
I think nice people can still have their principles and hold their ground, being nice does not mean to give in to something that is wrong.
I think Gary Cooper in the movie " High Noon" really show what nice people should be.
As the Sheriff, he stay for his duty against crooks, and keep his principle even when deserted by his "friends" and deserted by the town he sworn to protect.
(That sure is a great movie! )
2006-06-15 18:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by Wahnote 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try to be nice all the time. That doesn't mean what I say isn't controversial or may cause conflict in another. What may be true for me may not be true for others. I can still be nice and allow others to believe what they wish without jeopardizing my own beliefs. Even when I come across someone that is trying to be hurtful towards me I don't respond back in the same way. I still offer love and maybe some humor.
Love & Light
Sharon
One Planet = One People
2006-06-15 11:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by Soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If we look at the life of Jesus, he wasnt always nice. He did and said things that went against the grain of many people. To love is to be truthful. As we go deeper in the spirit of God, and experience the love of God for ourselves, we in turn know how to give love. And there are differnt types of love.
2006-06-15 12:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by Daybreak P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was nice to a neighbor who came to my house for help. She stuck around and wouldn't leave so we fed her dinner - she was really skinny and looked hungry. I came to find out that this woman was crazy and a drug addict. After helping her that one time she came back to our house several times. The people across the street said that she would just stand there pounding on the door. One evening she came by our house when I was home and she asked me for money because "someone stole her medication". I told her that I was happy to help her that one time but to please stay away from the house. She left and minutes later I found two men prowling around my yard. I had been planning on going away that weekend with my husband but we had to cancel our plans because I didn't feel safe leaving the house for the weekend. So, yes being nice can be dangerous.
2006-06-15 12:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider myself to be brutally honest and most people do not like the truth. The truth can sting.
But most of my friends know that if they want the truth, I am the friend to talk to.
I have been told that I am confrontational. I no longer accept that label because it has a negative connotation. I now consider myself as reflective, I will treat you with kindness and respect, but if you treat me otherwise I will reflect you.
2006-06-15 11:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by MoMattTexas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are still putting your life in His hands, being nice or not doesn't even come up, you just do what you feel. Although, you should at least TRY not to be particularly rude to people. =)
And being nice does not mean the same thing as being walked on. Know the difference.
2006-06-15 11:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by billyidolrules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Showing Kindness to Others
“A man of loving-kindness is dealing rewardingly with his own soul.”—Prov. 11:17.
IF YOU like to have kindness shown to you, try making a practice of showing kindness to others. The little thought and effort it takes bring much happiness. Try to put yourself in the other person’s place. If you are driving home at night and are delayed by a stalled car, why honk and get impatient? How much kinder to offer help. Or at the breakfast table if your child accidentally knocks over the milk, do you think he likes to be told crossly that he is clumsy? Try kindness. Treat others as you like to be treated, as this is the real essence of kindness.
2006-06-15 13:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by Ann_T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He also calls us to tell the truth. And sometimes the truth hurts.
Is it better to let someone slip into oblivion while giving them little
feel goodies, or is it better to try and keep them from destruction.
What is the measure of a true friend?
2006-06-15 11:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by cowboymanhrsetrnr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being too nice or over polite is a way of keeping one's distance. It is a way of saying (politely) I don't want to get into a deeper relationship with you. Nice or polite, equals = no further.
2006-06-15 11:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice could be dangerous. One of the fruits of the spirit is Kindness. They are the same.
2006-06-15 11:59:39 · answer #11 · answered by Mrs. Handy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋