my 3 year old son calls his dad (maternal father) daddy and just started calling his soon to be step dad daddy we told him no that he already has a daddy he says that he has 2 daddys and that he loves them both is that ok??
2006-06-15 04:50:08 · 23 answers · asked by asilk820 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Thats great that he has so many people that love him! I am a step parent as well..and when we first got visitation with my step-daughter I told her she could call me anything she wanted...it was her choice. She called me mom from the first day! and its been mom ever since (we have custody now) If your son wants to call them both daddy...and neither have a problem with it...then it will be fine.
2006-06-15 08:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by SKITTLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I have 2 daddy's! I love them both. My maternal Father I call Daddy and my step father i call DAD!!! Its nice to have 2 fathers in my life and im sure your son will appreciate it too. Good luck
2006-06-15 04:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by SO In LOVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The little guy is a little confused he should call his maternal father daddy and his step-father his name (unless tha dad is a deadbeatand is never around and he needs a male figure in his life) it will confuse him later on if he calls them both daddy and could potiently hurt the step dad.
He could get used to the fact that your son calls him daddy and once its stopped he could be hurt hope this helps a little
2006-06-15 07:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by chelsey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its fine as long as he knows who is real dad is and who his step dad is. My older son is 5 and his soon to be step dad has been with us since he was 2 and takes care of him like a dad should, his real dad has been in and out of his life alot and not a stable thing but my son still knows who he is and loves him so he calls my fiance daddy and his real dad father, some people do not like that, his real dad isnt thrilled with it but it is something my son came up with himself, nobody told him to say it that way so I think as long as he understands the differance and still loves them both then it is ok.
2006-06-16 02:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by hm195 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is. My 4 year old daughter calls her almost stepfather "Daddy" some of the time. She knows that she has another daddy (he lives several states away and by his choice has minimal involvement). I believe that her stepfather is earning the title, since he is doing all the daddy things with her. And he will be the one helping to raise her. You do have to be aware of the other parent's feelings but I think that they should be happy the stepparent is loved by the child.
I have 2 moms: a birth mom and an adoptive mom. I met my birth mom when I was in my 30's. I call them both "Mom" and they are both comfortable with it.
2006-06-15 08:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great. The more people that love him the better! If it's confusing, why not try to get him to call the step father Daddy followed by his first name?
Let's say his stepfather is named Mark. Teach your son to call him Daddy Mark.
2006-06-15 04:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does his "real" daddy feel? Anyone can be a "father", but it takes a lot to be a "daddy". I think it's up to the two men in his life, especially his birth father. How involved is his birth father? Try a nickname for his step dad.
2006-06-15 07:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your son has a loving heart but anyway i think it is okay at long as he knows which one is his real daddy i think you should let him call both of them daddy because you dont want him to call his soon to be father by his real name and you shouldnt stop him you just have to tell him which one is his real dad.and it is ok if he loves them both.
2006-06-15 05:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely...shows that he is secure with his stepdad..be happy that he accepts his soon to be step dad so unconditionally. Think of it as more love for your son. And having another set of parents is normal in this day and age! It's good that you don't have the opposite problem which could bring resentment and animosity.
I have 2 dads too and my step dad has been more of a father to me than my biological one.
2006-06-15 14:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by mooseny35 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son is calling them both "daddy" and is able to explain to you that he has two daddies and loves them both, then it should be fine. He sounds like a very smart little boy.
2006-06-15 06:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by angelsister23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋