You see my bestfriend was raped, and ummm she got a pregnancy test and all...(don't worry the guy is put away but this is the after effects of everything) ok anyways she got a test and her parents are being really mean to her like its her fault and all but she doesn't know if she has an std but her pregnancy test came back inconclusive and all and i wanna know if you have an std but don't know it could it effect the results of the pregnancy test results...please help im really worried about her....?!?
2006-06-15 04:45:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Ya'll all are really helpful but im saying though her parents keep taking her to the free clinic and they keep saying she needs to see professionals and i think that its not fair that they doing this to her and i don't even know where to go cuz she can't get ahold of her insurance card from her mom cuz she wont let her get it i hate her parents its not her damn fault its not like the girl asked to be raped or anything...damn...can somebody please help...
2006-06-15 04:56:31 · update #1
she was raped a few weeks ago maybe even a month
2006-06-15 04:57:21 · update #2
and her parents have always treated her like she ain't ****
2006-06-15 04:57:46 · update #3
FOR THE NOSY CHICKEN KATCT OR WHATEVER YOUR NAME IS...SHE WAS RAPED OVER A MONTH AGO AND SHE AIN'T TELL NOBODY UNTIL RECENTLY YOU DORK SO THEY CANNOT DO ANYTHING LIKE THAT IF IT WAS THAT LONG AGO...SOMEBODY ELSE SAW WHAT HAPPENED AND CAME FORWARD AND HE CONFESSED YOU IDIOIT
2006-06-15 07:09:59 · update #4
My heart goes out to her. She really needs to contact her local rape crisis center @ 1-800-656-HOPE. I have included a link to their website.
Homesafe rape crisis centers
www.ncweb.com/org/rapecrisis
I encourage her to speak to he family physician, and have all necessary tests done to rule out possible STD's, and get a blood test done for pregnancy. If she does not have a physician to speak with then have her speak with a school guidance counselor, or school nurse. There should be a planned parenthood in your area that will be able to assist if money is an issue 1-800-230-PLAN.
Planned Parenthood
www.plannedparenthood.org
I don't know if she is pro-choice or pro-life, and I will not impose my beliefs on her, but in either case there are quite a few support groups for both sides if she is pregnant.
As to how her parents are reacting, it's not fair to her, but her parents may not know how to deal with this situation either. I have a friend that can't help but laugh at funerals... appropiate? No, but that's how she handles stress.
If her parents can't or won't be there for her, then thank God she has you in her corner. Bless you for being such a good friend, and just be there if she needs to talk, but don't push her to speak if she is not ready yet. Rape unfortunately does not end when the attack does. It can prey on your mind and soul for a long time afterward.
Blessed be.
Crisagi
2006-06-15 05:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by crisagi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she has been to a doctor before, they will already have her insurance info, so she can just go to the same one w/o her parents and probably have to pay a small copay - $10 -25 or so. She should ask first. Hell, if she wants to, she could probably have the bill sent to her parents. So there are ways around the insurance card.
Also, there may be some good free resources in the area - search online or even at school (if you're in school?).
Most of all, the best thing you can do is keep being such a great friend. She really needs you!
There may also be ways of getting it taken care of legally - making him pay for it all, etc. If she does get into worse trouble, she should look into that. It's terrible that her parents are not supportive, but she can do this on her own, with your help! Don't see her parents as an obstacle.
2006-06-15 06:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for your friend. If the rape wasn't that long ago and she feels like it could be a possibility then she could consider waiting like another week or so for another one. As far as the STD thing I dont think that will affect the results because a pregnancy test looks for a certain chamical that you have when you are pregnant, only that is how they work. If she is really worried about it she can go to the local health clinic and they will do it all-they can screen for pregnancy and STD's, also if she needs help dealing with this emotionally they can help too. some chage a small fee and some only ask for a donation it all depends on where you live. I hope this helps-good luck to your friend
2006-06-15 04:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by DeeLicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a planned parenthood in the area they do both STD testing and pregnancy testing. Especially since she is a teen she can get this stuff for free without her parents permission which is good considering her parents aren't being helpful. Though with STD's the recommend waiting about six months after getting the first one because some STD's take that long to show up in the tests.
2006-06-15 05:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes parents react like that because they aren't sure what to do or because of the prior actions of their children. Anyway, it isn't right. They should be supportive. At least you are there for her. I agree with a previous responder, find a local pregnancy crisis center, local clinic or planned parenthood and make any appointment.
Planned parenthood is confidential.
2006-06-15 04:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by account_for_yourself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was raped and the guy was caught, a rape kit would have been done following the report. They do the tests for STD's at that point or soon after.
Your story just does not add up.
2006-06-15 05:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the only thing that makes a pregnacy test inconclusive is taking it too soon, like too soon before your expected period.
I have never heard of an STD causing an inconclusive test.
If she thinks she may have contracted something she should go to a clinic, or her doctor.
If she has symptoms ... she should see someone.
take care, good luck!
2006-06-15 04:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by aprilsastar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would need to go to her dr, to have the STD test done to make sure she did not catch anything from her rapist, I'm sorry for what your friend is going through, her parents should not treat her that way, they should be more supportive than that. And, I would advise that you talk your friend into seeing someone about counseling to help her heal.
2006-06-15 04:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by farside76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting tested for std's is different than testing for pregnancy. she needs to go to a doctor and get tested for both professionally. yes some over-the-counter testers are accurate, but since you need to test for std's at the doc's office, you might as well get the pregnancy test too.
tell your girlfriend im sorry that happened and i hope she gets better.
2006-06-15 04:51:05 · answer #9 · answered by jtrikster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry about your friend
she should have had a rape kit done at the hospital, it tests for pregnancy and stds
an std will NOT effect a pregnency test in any way
good luck
2006-06-15 04:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by tpuahlekcip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋