Why don't people consider adoption any more?

Question

I see so many questions from teens and adults that ask if they should keep their baby or abort it. Though I am pro-choice I cannot understand why so many people feel that this is the ONLY choice?

i don't want to make this an abortion debate - i'm just wondering why other options are not considered first.

Wow! I do have to comment on a few views here. First, to fandjforever - i agree with that. Being a very understanding mother of a 12 year old it is hard for me to consider that side of it. If my daughter was in that position I would support her emotionally and morally if not financially. But I do have to say something to those who think a baby who is given up for adoption will be bounced around in foster care. Where does that info come from? I was told by adoption agencies that there ws a 2-5 year wait to adopt an infant domestically. Also it is very expensive to adopt this was because the birth mothers sometimes do not have health insurance and the adoptive parents pay the medical bills. And babies given up at birth do not end up with the state. Foster children are taken from neglectful or abusive parents.
I think my question has been answered - there is a lot of misinformation out there about the adoption process.

Answer 1

I think it's because people don't want to be pinned down by responsibility or have that "mistake" living with them everyday. There is also the fear of what others will think or say or do. Let me tell you my story.

I was raped when I was 19 and I got pregnant from it. It was the scariest time in my life. I was afraid of what my parents would think and afraid of what other people would think. However, I was adopted myself and I knew what it felt like to be loved from even before you were born. I had the baby and my parents ended up adopting him. He is the smartest, cutest little boy I have ever seen. So full of love and joy and laughter and hugs and kisses! He'll be 2 on Monday. It was the best choice I ever made.

Answer 2

I think that it has become hard to adopted a child. If the young lady/mother of the baby does not tell the father she is putting the baby up for adoption then he has right to try and stop the adoption. Couples generally want infants, and the wait for the birth mother to give up the child and stick to that decision. I can't tell you how many different babies a couple (friends of mind) waited on to find out she changed her mind or the father stepped in etc... VERY painful. Not only that but US GRANDPARENTS are raising more of our grandchildren. I adopted my twin granddaughters. So maybe some laws need to change to help adoptive (to be) parents???

Answer 3

Adoption is risky thesedays. Theres a big responsiblity in general just to keep that kid. A lot of paper work and stuff with the government too. There are also certain restriction on how u can keep the kid, where all you can travel with the kid.

Besides that many people try to save the trauma to tell the kid that he/she is adopted. Its not an easy thing to do. There are also many implications and past news about how adopted kids have been abused physically or sexually. So the government is very strict about this. But if a person or couple is very serious , he/she or they can adopt going through the whole process.

Answer 4

There is still the thing of having the baby. If you don't have insurance having the baby is expensive. You have to have regular check ups and the hospital bill. Plus you have to take off time from work. I know that sounds selfish but if you are living from paycheck to paycheck that is a huge deal

Plus a child can spend the rest of their life bouncing from foster home to foster home. It takes so much time and effort to adopt children in the United States that is why people tend to adopt children from other countries.

Answer 5

Because I think that in many cases it's very difficult to carry a child for nine months and even if you change your mind, be forced to give the child up. It leaves a lot of doubts as to what if in the future. There are also a lot of children currently in foster care and adoption agencies. Throwing another kid in seems like just one more kid that's going to have this super rough life.

I'm not really sure. The sad thing is, is that as a culture we've gotten to the point where people feel that way. I'm pro-choice as well, simply because I don't think it's my place to tell a woman what to do with her body.

Answer 6

Maybe they are scared to go through the process of being pregant. Like people talking about them or they cant work cause its too much work to carry a baby in there stomach. Some people feel that is the only way out. I think a better option is adoption too but I cant speak for everyone.

Answer 7

I am not sure why people would not consider adoption or dont consider it anymore. And, I think it is something that women/ and young pregnant teens should consider. I mean there are a lot of women who cannot become pregnant on their own, and have to result to adoption, and if a woman or young pregnant teen, does not want the child, they should be informed about adoption by they dr or ob/gyn, because I think that any woman that cannot have a child of her own, would love to be able to have a child thru adoption.

Answer 8

Giving a baby up for adoption is the hardest thing a woman can do. Many women are not strong enough to do it. Imagine carrying and feeling a baby inside you for 9 months and them feeling it as it's born and then *poof*, it's taken away. It's a great loss.

Answer 9

I think many don't want to be pregnant for 9 months. Also in my personal experience I was 15 when i had my first child. I did consider adoption, but when it came down to it, I couldn't just give up my little girl. I think that is also why. Many who are be coming pregnant are choosing to raise their child and not have someone else do it for them.

Answer 10

I think people should consider adoption abortion is just wrong if you got pregnant why would you kill the baby? !!!give that baby a chance pulse so many people what to adopt baby because they cant have any