Single parent-marriage-abortion SWF preg with twins?

Question

How hard would it be to raise twins- I have no job but good skills,a bf in another state-I am living w/my parents cuz we broke up-now he wants me-i have until Monday to decide on abortion-bf is broke all the time-father would be furious-mother would be supportive-I may not ever have twins again-bf might move -what things do I need to consider? I am 25 years old.Nobody real close to talk to

Answer 1

I think you should keep your babies. Not because they are twins, because they are your flesh and blood. Many women these days raise children and babies by themselves. Find out how you can get on Medicaid in your area. If you still think you can't afford them, you should find a family to adopt them. Many people who want children will help you with your medical costs. Please do the right thing. Don't take away someone else's dream of having a child, please consider adoption. I think you will regret aborting your children for the rest of your life. One day you could be reunited with your children (if given up for adoption) and you can explain you did what you thought was best for them. I just had a miscarriage and I would have done anything in my power to have my baby. Wouldn't you like to see your children grow up, know if they look like you or even their gender? I didn't have that choice... You do!

Answer 2

This is a really difficult question to answer in this setting. Abortion is too often thought of as a way out of a bad situation. What many women do not consider is how that abortion will affect you for the rest of your life. In this case, you would be ending two lives. There is no way of knowing who these children could have been if they were allowed to grow up. If I were in a similar situation I would make the hardest decision of all and choose adoption. Some things for you to consider are:
1. Do you believe that abortion is causing the death of a human baby or just getting rid of tissues?

2. Do you have the support you would need to get through the trauma of an abortion?

3. What happens if it goes wrong and you are never able to become pregnant again?

4. What are your faith beliefs?

5. What happens if in 20 years you change your mind about abortion? Can you live with guilt?

6. Consider getting some counseling from a family planning clinic, and or from an adoption counselor. They can tell you about all your options.

7.At this point, the BF is the least of your concerns! Sounds like a loser any way. You can do better!

8. You are the adult!

Answer 3

Adoption honey, best thing for you and the kids. I am 30 and have two pre-teens and it is hard enough. Having two babies is full time work. If you were married and had a hubby working, I'd say do it, but you have a long road ahead of you. Consider adoption and get a second chance to better your life. You are young and have a lot of life to live. There are a lot of people out there willing to give those twins a great life and a chance at a great future. Please do not get an abortion. Good Luck to you, you have a very difficult decision to make.

Answer 4

i was in the same situation 3 years ago however it was only one i had a job but it was a terrible one i moved like every 2 months had no permenant place to live the dad was 12 hours away and i had no idea what to do it was really hard but i kept him hes almost 4 now and i am very happy that i did twins would be hard but you have 9 months to prepare find a job a place stock up on things its summer lots of yard sales you could get baby thing cheap also if you needed more help the state would help they pay for day care while you work wic pays for formula things like that if you want it it can work also you can give the babys up for adoption if you just cant handle it there are plenty of people out there who would love to give them a wonderful home if you need to talk im me five_more_minutes on yahoo

Answer 5

You have to ask yourself do I love my babies or do I want to kill them....I hate to be so blunt but that is what you are doing ,I had an abotion years ago and can still remember it today,,,If you decide you don't want the babies see if you could
1) Put them in a foster home until you can get on your feet
2) Put them up for adoption...there are so many people out there wanting a baby
3) It is expensive to raise twins ,but then it is expensive for one child tooif you feel you are up to it then do it,,,you can always get assistance from Dept of Family and Children Services...they will also help you to find a job and train for one

I was 20 yrs old when I had my first baby and was Not ready to be a Mom I put him in a foster home for 1 year and I visited him but also got myself together in that time and was able to bring him home in a year.........Don't do the Abortion ...it will haunt you the rest of your life.

Answer 6

I'm looking to adopt a newborn baby right from the hospital, willing to travel reasonable distance to adopt and sign any necessary forms for the adoption process. I was wondering if there's anyway that I can get a hold of a mother to be and adopt without going through lawyers and a bunch of agency fees. If there is anyone out there that can help me with this or is considering adoption contact me at [e-mail]

Answer 7

The man is obviously a loser! He's not worth the trouble. Cut him out of the picture and make your decision based on what's best for you.

You live with your parents and regardless of how they first react, once the babies arrive I'm sure that they will be there to help and support you.

Once you have your own you will understand the unconditional love a parent has for their child. Its far more powerful than what any man can offer you.

Answer 8

Why don't you have a job, and why do you have until Monday to decide on an abortion? If you want an abortion, you should just have it. Doesn't it tell you something that maybe, if you're giving it a lot of thought, it's probably not the right thing to do?

Answer 9

its your decision you can have those children and do everything yourself if you wish to do so.. ask yourself am i prepared to do this on my own with support from the nice people on yahoo answers (cause we will be here sh old a question arise) also if i go through with the abortion am i prepared for my feelings that may come as a result in all reality its up to you and only you !! do want to be a mother right now or no??

Answer 10

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