Is there a certain age guys decide they are ready to settle down? Do they wake up one day and decide, hey i want to have a family or does it take a special girl to make them relize this? Any thoughts?
2006-06-15 04:28:58 · 12 answers · asked by lindseymay25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Every guy is different. Just think about all the different types of women there are these days - some are ready to marry by the age of 17 and some, even by the age of 30, aren't ready to be married. In all honesty, it all depends on the maturity level of men and how they are brought up. A guy could be dating the perfect girl for him but marraige may never cross his mind, it's not the girls fault, it's just the man's personal decision. These decisions also depend on the morals their surroundings instill in them. If a guy, when he was younger, saw one of his parents suffer due to a divorce, he may be less inclined to marry and settle down, it's not always the case, but it does happen. Also, some guys just don't want to be married. It may not have to do with maturity, but it's just not in their plans to "settle down." Don't pressure them, they have a right to make that decision.
If this is about a certain guy, unless you truly love him, don't wait for him. If you think you are ready to settle down, then you want to find someone with the same intentions, otherwise it will never work out, NEVER!
It all depends on the guy. There isn't any specific time a man or woman can say, "This is the time." It doesn't work that way.
2006-06-15 04:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by Isabella 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have no idea if there is a certain age. I think that most guys when they get to a certain age decide for one reason or another that it is time to settle down. I do not think that it is an over night transformation, but then again I am not a guy. That is a good question to which there is no definitive answer. And I believe that first it takes a guy who is ready or open to settling down and then it takes a special girl. I do not think that a girl can make a guy settle down no matter how special she is unless he is ready and or willing to settle down.
2006-06-15 11:34:35 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess age does factor in, but it ALL depends on the guy, and the girl. I think the "special girl to make him realize" has a lot to do with it too, just like it takes a special man for us to fall in love with. I don't think they just wake up one day and they decide, maybe if they're getting older they do. I know supposedly guys start getting more serious in their mid to late 20's (sometimes later) and want marriage. When it came to my fiance, he was 21 and I was 19, and somehow it worked out. Within a week he wanted me to move 4 hours away to live with him and 2 years later we're engaged and stronger than ever. I don't know why he was ready, or how it all happened, but I don't think there was anyone else he would have done this with than me so young, and there's no one I could ever imagine being able to do this all with too. It all depends on the right guy finding the right girl.
2006-06-15 11:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by ac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy will settle when he has found the right girl and is completly happy and is ready to settle him self. some guys want to settle sooner then others. I am with my fiance now for 2 years he was sent to iraq and i stayed faithful to him. When he got back he thought of everything I had down for him and desided to settle down with me.. A good girl a happy life and love is what guys look for the same as women.
2006-06-15 11:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by sexylexy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a little bit of both. It all depends on the guy and his outlook on life. If he is ready to settle down he will either tell you or you will just know it. Some find that commitment to serious and arent ready for that yet. And yes sometimes it might take the right woman for the man to be like ok this is it she is the one.
2006-06-15 11:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by bluewolf21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that one day a guy wakes up and realizes it's time. It doesn't necessarily take a special girl, although sometimes it does. Some guys don't know they have a special girl until she is gone and then they realize it. On average, I think it happens in mid to late 20's for guys... but some guys never want to grow up.
2006-06-15 11:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by Cupid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it can be both or either..but both more than likely factor into it. if you meet what you think is the right girl at the wrong time you would have to make a decision...also you could meet the wrong girl at the right time and base your decision on timing however unwise that may be.Or you may be right on the timeing and the girl and just go for it....these decisons probaly vary greatly from individual to individual....the most likely scenerio imho would be you meet the right girl and decide that the time has come to settle down.
2006-06-15 11:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by djmantx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It varies from guy to guy. We are all unique and the decision to settle down is based upon a lot of very personal factors. How a guy is raised, his experiences in life, and his beliefs all factor into when and who he decides to settle down with.
2006-06-15 11:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's usually when guys get in their late twenties that this happens. They like to play and have fun, but once they approach thirty , they begin to want the "real" things that matter in life.....wife, kids, house, good job, etc.
2006-06-15 11:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it takes that certain woman to trigger that notion.I don't think it's any certain age though.
2006-06-15 11:31:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋