Relationship help!!!!!?

Question

ok, me and my gf have been on and off for the past 2 years and she treats me bad. She checks out guys in front of me and says they are hot and flirts with guys all the time, and talk to guys on the phone and hangs out with them late at nite. She also calls me names all the time and hits me, not extreamly hard but enuff to annoy the crap out of me, i tell her to stop but she doesnt. im 22 shes 18 and just graduated. i dont know what to do, i cant hang out with other girls or talk to other girls without her flipping out on me. She gets mad at the dumbest things. what do i do? should i leave her? but how? just not talk to her anymore? or should i just start hanging out with other girls and let her deal with it. ive been stuck in this for a while now, please help me out

also, is this sort of thing normal behavior for girls or what?

i just want to thank everyone who responded to this, i appreciate all ur advice, and i think the best thing is to leave her and find someone who treats me the way i treat them

Answer 1

When I was about your age I called my mom crying over a guy that was being a jerk. On that day she gave me the best advice I have ever heard. She said, "Honey, if he is making you this unhappy, just get rid of him!"

It's never easy to break up with someone but the best thing to do is to do it sooner rather than later. The longer you wait, the harder it gets.

A lot of people say just to be honest. I say be honest, but not cruel. You don't need to stand there and tell her everything that is wrong with her. You just have to explain that you think it's time to move on and you don't think it will work. Don't drag it out either. Just do it and be done with it. It will hurt and it will suck, but she will move on and probably be better of for it. You will definitely be better off if you are truly unhappy in this relationship.

Answer 2

Well I think the first thing you need to look at is yourself. Why are you putting up with this? Of course its not normal behaivor and you know it. Are you so insecure with who you are that you think she is the best you will ever get? Well then the first step is to believe in who YOU are and stop feeling like you dont deserve better. I am speaking from experience - I was married to someone one who was all wrong for. It took me 4 separations to finally leave him and realize that I knew better. When I finally decided it was over I went through a period where I didn't let myself get serious about anyone and just had fun - went out and felt attractive again. Then after awhile I started believing that I was pretty and fun and I felt like I deserved the best that there is to get. So then I met the man that I am going to marry in 2 weeks. And if you REALLY listen to your inner voice you can tell which girls are good and which ones cant be trusted. If you catch them in a lie once then that means there are 10 others you dont even know about. And that person isn't worth you time and its move on to the next one. So my advice - dump this silly little girl, go out an have some fun, and make a list of what kind of WOMAN you want and stick to it but also realize no one is perfect but there are peopel that are perfect for you you just have to look. Be honest with who you are and NO GAMES.

Answer 3

Yes this is normal behavior for a girl, a girl that needs to grow up She is abusive, disrespectful, and inconsiderate. No one should be treated like that. I think you should leave her. So many people go into relationships wanting to share themselves with someone and they don't even know who they are. How do you share pieces of you if you don't know "you" well enough to know what you are sharing. I say draw a line and don't back down from it and don't let her cross it. You train people to treat you a certain way if you allow people to walk all over you, you become a doormat. Tell her how you feel and if you think that it is worth it then try to work it out. But before you do anything or say anything you need to find out exactly where you stand and what you want.

Answer 4

sorry but this girl of yours sounds very immature. It sounds to me like she likes to keep you on the back burner until she finds someone she likes better. Sounds to me like she takes you for granted and is simply an 18 year old who doesn't know what to do or what she wants. I would leave her. I would explain to her that you don't want to see her anymore and end it at that. If you just start seeing other girls without completly breaking off things with her I have a feeling she would most likely flip and not leave you alone. Go find someone who is on the same level as you and who will treat you like you deserve to be treated and let this girl finish growing up.
hope this helps and good luck!

Answer 5

You poor thing....she does not deserve you, that is for sure!! She is very immature and does not care for you the way you do for her.
No it is not normal for her to be treating you this way. If you allow this to continue, it will only get worse.
I suggest you find someone who appreciates you and your kind heart. That will not be hard for you to do either.
How can you break up with her....well, just do it!! Tell her you want more out of a relationship( something more meaningful) and that she does not posses those qualities.
Make the break up swiftly, don't drag it out..and move on. I promise you you will feel like a load has been lifted from your shoulders.
Best wishes for the future.

Answer 6

1st off you are completely wasting your time with this girl. Who is she to say who you can and cant hang out with, especially if you have no control who she hangs out with. She is 18. You are 22. Although it might not be that big of an age difference, it is, on a maturity level. She is very immature, and you are way too good for that. How much longer do you think you are going to put up with this?? I would say get out now, and make sure to tell her why, put a little bit of reality in her head. Relationships are 50/50, with trust and loyalty, and if she is out doing her thing, why aren't you! Enjoy life!!! Get out of the rut that you are in! You will be happy you did!

Answer 7

be a man, dont let an eighteen year old manipulate u like u r a ten year old, tell her if she doesnt stop flirting with boys in front of u, then u will also start flirting with girl in front of her also never allow her to hit u again, whether extremely hard or enough to annoy u, have a talk with her if she still does all that then u better dump her and make sure u go for the prettiest girl and one who has good personality that will make her jealous.

Answer 8

Your girl is immature and insensitive. No, don't give her a taste of her own medicine, because that starts meaningless games. I would tell her that since she obviously isn't into you that you're not going to waste any more time on her. Just tell her that you think that you'd both be better off with someone else who can recipricate each other's needs and feelings. She has a lot of growing up to do and is probably going to go through a few heartbrakes to do so. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Dude, grow some balls and dump the girl. Why do you put up with this kind of crap? Just tell the girl good bye and find a new girl who will treat you right and respect you. No one should ever stay in a relationship with someone who doesn't respect them or the relationship.

Answer 10

No it is not normal. she has a control issue. You have to decide if this is what you are willing to put up with or if you want something better..cause believe me better is out there. Figure out what attracted you to her, and it may have been the control thing, but obviously it has gotten out of hand. Sounds like she is the insecure one, and needs reinforcement for others to make her feel good. But dont let her keep you caged up while she gets to have fun, you will miss so much...these are supposed to be your fun years, not misreable!!!! You dont have to be mean about it, just let her know that you have no that you have decided what she has to offer is not what you want in a relationship, and move on. Dont make anything big of it..it just is what it is..Live and learn, that is how we grow....