My boyfriend & I have been dating 8 months. It has been a month since I have seen him. We live about an hour away from each other. He says he is very busy with work. Which he does work a lot but this is the second time this has happened. He used to call everyday now he hasn't called in a week & doesn't return my calls. I am thinking of doing a surprise visit tomorrow & get some answers.Should I go or just forget it? Any suggestions?
2006-06-15 03:58:34 · 27 answers · asked by Michele 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should talk to him about this.
maybe he´s being honest with you and you´re thinking too much, and worrying in advance.
And if he is not interested anymore, and he´s avoiding you, he´s not goo enough for you, then you´d better talk to him,
Good luck!
2006-06-15 04:06:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kalvaina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. Do the surprise visit. I can guarantee you that the first 5 minutes and the look on his face when he first sees you will be all you need to decide if he's still your boyfriend. Go and get the questions answered. But expect to break up. It sounds like he's already pulling away from you. Or just call him and break up. That is probably the best. Then you don't have to be scared about what might happen when you drop in unannounced.
2006-06-15 11:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's blowing you off. If he were truly into you, he'd call you even if you didn't call him first. And he'd certainly return your calls. My boyfriend runs a business and is always very busy. We don't live quite as far apart as you and your boyfriend do (only 30 minutes), but no matter how busy he is, he calls me every night that I'm not over at his place and he never cancels our plans unless he must. He actually tries to rearrange his business meetings when they conflict with our time together. It sounds like your guy is trying to avoid you altogether to avoid a possible confrontation. Men get wussy like that sometimes. I personally wouldn't stand for such behavior. You should be the bright spot in his day, even if you speak for just 5 minutes on a particular day. I'd tell him you see right through him and if he can't be man enough to tell you what he really wants, then you're leaving to find a man who will always look at you as the sunshine in his cruddy work day.
2006-06-15 11:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do a surprise visit, you might get really hurt. You need to just act like it doesnt bother you. When he finally does call act like you have been having the time of your life and you havent even noticed. Stop calling him and just wait. I know it is very difficult, but when he realizes that you don't need him and don't care he will go crazy and have to have you. Go out with friends and have fun, try not to think about him. Keep your head strong and good luck!
2006-06-15 11:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sheila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i say go for it....but be prepared of what you might stumble into....don't lose your composure when you meet him...just say you are concern about him and wanted to know what's goin on? talk and tell him that you are open to suggestions about his busy schedule, if that is dragging him down....work is work...but he needs to give you time too if you still matter to him...set up a schedule to meet so that you can reserve that day every week for yourselves....in this way you can minimize excuses....but of course, you have to really look deeper if this is the only thing keeping him from not seeing you or calling you...you will sense it if there's something more than meets the eye...deal with it and get it done at the same time....there's no point of lingering if the feelings are gone....be kind to yourself and move on...
2006-06-15 11:26:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like my life(past). i had a boyfriend do and say same things he lived about 45 mins away. even thou your mind wants answers baddly..its just better 2 forget it and move on trust me when u find some1 else and stop callin him/paying him attention, he would call u out the blue. then u should not start being around him, i didn't do that....i actually started talking 2 him again but right now he is just my friend with benefits...and thats the only time we talk
2006-06-15 11:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by nonono 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the one to break it to you.........he's just not that into you anymore. Have you ever been too busy to call someone you want to talk to?? No, if you're really busy and stressed, you welcome the break to talk to someone you care about to break up the craziness of the day and to make you feel better. I'm sorry, there's no way he's so important and busy it's taken him a month to come see you. Don't bother with this loser, find someone who's a real man!
2006-06-15 11:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him another message and tell him that you want to come and visit him for a dinner or something that you both did in before together. if he calls you back and tells you that you can't ,then he may be working way to much or something else is going on. you can always ask him way he doesn't want to see you.
2006-06-15 11:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by Carol B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Think you have the right idea. You should surprise him but get prepard for the worst. He may have another girl friend you never know. If you can see your self with him for a long time you should definatly go for it. If you cant then yi still think you should go and see but if something goes wrong just let it go... Dont fight for your relation ship with him. I think ALL GURLS OR MOST CAN DO ALOT BETTER THAN WHAT THEY CHOOSE FOR THEM SELF.
2006-06-15 11:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by AC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has something else going on. No matter how far you are away from someone, they will make sure they show that they love you.
So, it is up to you. Move on or get answers. Either way, you are going to be sad.
Good Luck
2006-06-15 11:02:32 · answer #10 · answered by javarick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋