I have one son he is 18 months old. When would be a good time to give him a sibling? My husband wants a baby now because he dosent want them to be to far apart which i agree but i dont know if im ready. Do you think thats selfish of me not give my husband a baby and my son a sibling just becaause of my own feelings? Please advise me.
2006-06-15 03:52:23 · 9 answers · asked by AC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
pls consult a doc. i believe that even if both of u r ready, ur body might not. also, the mental makeup shud b there. 3 yrs gap is the most widely accepted
2006-06-15 04:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by midas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Its your body and you are the one that has to carry that baby for nine months.
2. You are the one that has to keep up with this child 247 and I am sure you 18 month old is alot to handle right now.
3. Having a baby when you are not ready can lead to a few problems.
4. Bringing another child in the world should be a benefit to everyone, and not just 2 out of 3 people in the household.
2006-06-15 04:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not selfish if you still want him to have a sibling. You need to be ready for it. I'm 3 months pregnant with my second child. My son is 13 months. My husband and I planned it this way because it was right for us. He actually comprised with me. I wanted to try again about two months after our son was born and he want our son be two when the next one was born. So compromised and my little guy will be one and a half when the new arrival comes. Try to strike a compromise so that your hubby knows you care about how he feels on the subject. Good luck!
2006-06-15 03:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by proud_usmc_wife04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a decision you and your husband should both agree on. I also have a 18 month old son and I want another baby but I know that my husband wants to wait. Nothing is set in stone and you should both agree and both be ready for another baby. Taking care of 2 is harder then just one. Good luck!
2006-06-15 03:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your husband. How does he feel about waiting an extra six months or year or two? But don't ignore your thoughts either. If you don't feel ready, then you are not ready. So give you, and your husband some time. Talk it over so both of you can come up with a good decision.
-Kira
2006-06-15 03:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by KiriKat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that decision is total up to u, my oldest two are 11 mo and 28 days apart, then there is a yr bewteen the 2nd and 3rd and two yrs between the third and the last. I didnt have to many problems the first 3 just grew up together and i think it was good for them. But i know its hard to believe that you have that much love to go around, but you do its just amazing
2006-06-15 04:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by krista a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your husband is the one having the baby and taking care of him/her, I think he should respect your feelings. It's hard having two little ones. My kids are 5 years apart and it's great. They will be okay if they are a few years apart.
2006-06-15 03:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine are 3 yrs. apart. It is not selfish for you to want to wait. It is best if you have another child when you are ready. It will cause you less problems in the long run.
2006-06-15 03:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by lynda_is 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a 3 year age difference is good ... they are still close in age yet not too far apart. by the age of 3 they understand more, can follow direction, can be mommy's little helper, etc
2006-06-15 03:58:49 · answer #9 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋