suicide: i've tried to help but i cant?

Question

my girlfriend cuts herself and i've tried to help her and tried to get her to stop but im starting to get scared... because one minute shes happy and the next she wants to die. im not sure what to do anymore. i cant tell her family because not only do they not approve of me she hates them and hasnt heard from them for about 5 months. its killing me to see her like this i really lover her and i tell her that constently and i would protect her from anything that would hurt her execpt shes hurting herself and im just so lost every time i try to get profession help she freaks out on me..... she tells me she doesnt want to get better.... that this is just what she does..... please help

Answer 1

Cutters rarely kill themselves. It is a way of letting the pain out, a way of letting themselves know they are alive. However, what she is doing is sending messages to you that seem to be interpretted by you as suicide. That is what you put in your heading of the question.

So, what is it you want her to do? Stop cutting herself? She has already told you she will not.

Seems like you have a choice here and it is not a pleasant one: you can stay and deal silently with her cutting or you can leave. Face it, you cannot rescue anyone who does not want to be rescued. What right do you have in this? You are her friend. Has she asked you for help? No. Is she going to die of this? Check with doctors and books (the answer will probably be no). She seems not to have a problem with this "she tells me she doesnt want to get better.....that this is just what she does....."

If you cannot handle it, tell her that. And leave. Sorry, but that is really what it comes down to. You have to protect your sanity, too.

Answer 2

Seeking professional help is always the better of choices, against someones will, is always difficult. While you're waiting for the right answer I've often been made aware that people who have nutritional deficiency's have multiple health/mental issues. She of course can only be diagnosed by a professional for imbalances, but adding a good daily nutricuetical supplement can usually be done independently. The brain/body has many nutritional needs daily. Only use quality products since not all are equally created.

Answer 3

I agree with "TypeANegative".
I also suggest reading articles from a few months back, in the AWAKE! magazine, about the practice of cutting. You can ask any of us. We may be able to find an original copy of that issue. Or -- if not -- we can always make copies of it. You might ask at a Kingdom Hall. Or you can "Contact Us" through our Web site (below). It sounds like you're over your head & without any support in dealing with this. I don't envy you.

A few articles you may find helpful reading yourself, -- & sharing with her -- are:

How We Learn to Love :
... Love Is Indispensable
... How to Develop Genuine Love
... The Noblest Kind of Love
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2003/7/1/article_01.htm

What Is Your Life Worth? :
... Life - Precious or Cheap?
... How Precious Is Your Life?
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/2/1/article_01.htm

What Is the Purpose of Life? How Can You Find It?
http://www.watchtower.org/library/pr/index.htm

HOW CAN YOU FIND INNER PEACE? :
... "Happy Are Those Conscious of Their Spiritual Need"
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/7/1/article_02.htm

How to Make Real Friends :
... We All Need Friends
... Satisfying Our Hunger for Friendship
... Good Friends - Bad Friends
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2004/12/8/article_01.htm

Life in a Peaceful New World
http://www.watchtower.org/library/t15/peaceful.htm

Sincerely,
"Make Sure of All things; Hold Fast to what is Fine!"
1 Thessalonians 5:21

Answer 4

Your girlfriend seems to have symptoms of being depress. It is very important that you give her compliments and tell her that everything will be alright. You really should try to talk to her family even if her family doesn't approve of you (have the we all love her and want her to get better if we stick together attitude). Make sure you get some help to because you seem to be efftected by her actions too. Good Luck!!

Answer 5

Dude that's a hard one!! persist in trying to get her professional help. But dont try and force her to it. reason with her and tell her how you are experiencing this and how it hurts you. Talk with her and find out where these feelings come from. Im not a doctor or health care professional but she sounds like she's bi-polar. Learn to deal with it as it is cause it may be a long road your on. find artistic outlets for her to express herself and open up to you.
best of luck and stick at it

Answer 6

she probably isn't suicidal. she's probably thinking about it but if she's been cutting for more than a year it's probably not going to happen. she doesn't want to get better because she finially found a way to vent and she doesn't want to lose that one and only way.next time you try to convince her to stop, take her arms and show her (make sure she's calm or she'll flip out more) what she's done to herself. she will probably pull away and cover up her arms and buisy herself with something else or she will start crying. if she starts crying just drop her arms and hug her. dont say anything more. she already realizes that she's mutilating her skin but you need to show her that other people notice too.

good luck. i hope she gets better.

Answer 7

It sounds like your friend might be bipolar and she needs help but if she refuses help from you then offer her a rubber band to place on her wrist so she can pop it when she feels the urge to cut. self-inflicted pain releases endorphins that act as opiates and a feel good effect. The physical pain takes away or overshadows the mental or emotional pain one feels when they cut. I wish you much luck and continue to talk her into getting help or you can always join a local NAMI support group so you can find other ways to help her.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Tell your friend you will accompany her to her GP's office and get some help. She may need counseling and medication. Tell her you will walk through the process with her until she can manage this problem herself.

Answer 10

She should definitely seek professional help!! She obviously need attention. Most people cut theirselves just to get attention, they just cut the wrong way so they don't actually die.
You should try to talk to someone for her, see how you should be acting towrds her and ways you can comfort her. Good Luck with everything.