if you've been raped and you had a child...will you abort it or keep it?

Answer 1

Probably keep it, everything happens for a reason. The rape would be a terrible experience but the child could be a blessing in disguise.

Answer 2

I personally know someone that that happened too. She was raped at age 15. She gave the child up for adoption because she was so young. I would do the same thing. I couldn't abort the child. It's not that baby's fault or your for what happened. God (if you believe) will reward the person for letting the child live. My friend that this happened to, she found her daughter a few years ago and now they are closer than you could imagine. The child is still a blessing even though he/her was conceived through a dreadful act.

Answer 3

Some people keep it, and some people abort it, and some people even give it up for adoption at term. Now here's where I get a little sensitive in saying like father (rapist), like child. Some people even though they do not relish or savor the thought of raising the kin of someone that badly hurt them still do, because of religion or just the thought of... well it's a child, and is coming out of my body. You have some thinking to do whether you want to carry the kid to term or terminate the pregnancy, as it is your body and your empowerment to make your own decision. Here's the other thing...some people say they were raped even though they were not just to save face, and my opinion is that it does not matter about anything other than how you feel, and if you've received adequate council on the matter (psychologist or close relative, or friend).

Answer 4

I would abort.
I'm not a fan of abortion, especially when used as a means of birth control. In these cases I believe that if a person is ignorant enough in this day and age to have sex without using a condom or other protection then they are responsible for the possible outcomes, be it a child or a STD. In the case of rape, as it wasn't a consensual act, I don't feel that a woman should be condemned for not wanting to raise a child that was created from an act of violence.

Answer 5

I always wanted to stay a virgin until I was married. It just seemed right to me. One month before my 17th birthday, I was raped. I was so scared when my period didn't come. I never believed in abortion so it was easy for me to say that I wouldn't punish the child for the sins of the father. What I didn't know was if I would be able to keep the baby. I had decided to give it a try and if my little one only reminded me of that night, I would try to find a good family to raise my baby. I miscarried. I just don't see what good it is to murder an innocent child.

Answer 6

I would definialy keep it. I'm not sure if your asking this question for yourself or someone else, and I understand there are many circumstances beyond our comtrol. I am single, but I'm financially stable, and can afford to raise a child, and It would be no problem for me to keep it. I know the child might remind me of that night, but the child would show me that gift's and blessings come in different ways. There is no way I would abort a child, that's murder, and even if you don't tell anyone about it, GOD knows everything, and murder is a sin. If you can't afford to care for the child, I agree with everyone else, put it up for adoption.

Answer 7

Hi.. Two of my children were concieved in Rape. I was sick for two years during my last two pregnancies. They said it was because of the Trauma. And even though the knowledge of an unknown Father exists, I dont regret keeping them both or going through the illness. And the pain has only made me stronger. Tranforming me from the Naive, gullable door matt into a courageous woman. Im no longer afraid to go against the grain. I am a single mother of 4 boys now. Its tough. But thier smiles and "I Love You's" make my heart beat faster and as long as Im a good mothering figure, it makes the world a better place for they ARE the Future Generation. I have allready had "the talk" with my older boy, (the first Rape), we cried. I didnt tell him HOw he was concieved. Only that his real Father is gone and we dont know where to find him. it was hard for him to understand, at first, and even harder to explain. But the reassurance that thier are great Daddys out there and that God answers prayers brought us even closer. I dont know if someday he will want to investigate it further. But if they do, when they are old enough to handle it and more aware of the world in which we are apart of, I will tell them the truth. Saving them from anymore emotional upset. I love them. I am proud of them. I dont know what kife would've been like without them!

Answer 8

Like if it is possible, abort it.

What if the fether decides that he wants child's custody, or visiting rights?

And why should you go through all the pain, simply because there was a freak who decided to rape you?

isn't motherhood supposed to be a fulfilling and enriching experience for the mother? How fulfilling is it if the face of the child reminds you of your tormentor?

And why mother the child of a monster anyways? If God didn't want to allow humans to abort, the procedure would never have been discoverd/ invented.

MODIFY: Alice is right. A counseller would be a better choice.

Answer 9

As a majority of the people have said...KEEP IT!! I know that it wasn't by choice to bring the baby into the world...but the child is helpless. It can't defend for itself. Abortion is NOT the answer. I think that abortions should be against the law. It is just ridiculous. Adoption would be another point of view but that would even be hard. Good luck to who ever is in this situation. If you are wanting to know more about adoption just email me. I am looking for a new born. But good luck. My heart goes out to the baby!!

Answer 10

If you had a child, it's a little late to abort it don't you think?

If you are talking about a pregnancy resulting from a rape, I would abort immediately. It's not a child in the early stages.

Answer 11

First of all if you want to keep it or do you want to give the baby up for adoption that is up to you but please don't abort it. From personal experience I been raped but did not get pregnant. The best thing to do if you have been raped is to report it and talk to someone about it, because if not you don't want to become sick later. I have been there that is why I want to share it with you. I hope that will help you.