what if you really love the person and plan on marrying them? pleez help, i'm really confused.
2006-06-15 03:11:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
where can i find where it says about sex? which chapter & verse please.
2006-06-15 03:15:44 · update #1
Ok, think about this rationally. Do you really think that God is up there watching us, because if that's the case, he is pretty much watching porno 24/7. (Someone is having sex somewhere in the world every minute!) And that's not really all that holy of him, is it? And what about Jesus? He can't talk anything about sex, because I don't think he got any while he was here. (He died a 33 year old virgin, unless what the Da Vinci code is preaching is the truth.)
Bottom line, you gotta do what you are comfortable with, because you are the one that has to live with your choices. If you believe in God, and are going to have a hard time thinking he's pissed at you for having pre-marital sex, it's probably not the best thing for you to do. But if you are comfortable with your own choices, and feel like having sex will bring a greater level of intimacy to your relationship, then why not go for it. And make sure you're not just giving into hormones...think with your head!
2006-06-15 03:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 4⤋
You'll have to find the specific scriptures for yourself...
1. Do not let the marriage bed be defiled (note marriage bed)
2. Fornicators etc...will not inherit everlasting life
3. Among the list of things that God hates.
it does not matter that you're gonna marry him, the point is that you haven't. if you wait, the relationship will be so much stronger. I went out with a guy once who would not even touch me, yet he loved me. I was completely taken in by the fact that he respected and valued me enough to not do anything I'd be uncomfortable with outside of marriage.
2006-06-15 03:17:46 · answer #2 · answered by stacey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple verses to read are Hebrews 13:4 and 1 Cor. 6:8-10. If you plan on marrying, seriously, move the date up!
2006-06-15 03:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by RhondaHonda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it never says so in the Bible. However, there are general prohibitions on harming people, and in very many circumstances, pre-marital sex is placing two people in a position to be hurt, emotionally. People generally speak from experience when advising against it, but this has always struck me as a man-made blanket prohibition.
The best answer I can give is the best advice I've ever received on anything: "I don't know. Pray about it. Talk to someone whose judgment you trust. I am sure it will work out as God intended."
2006-06-15 03:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by VanJimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God says not to have sex before marriage. You are confusing your emotions with love. You may think you are going to marry the person, but you may not.
There are many things you need to think about before you marry but the main ones are:
Is this person a strong Christian?
Will this person keep their vows for better or for worse?
You need to think with your head, not your heart. Thinking and acting on your emotions will only get you into trouble. Excercise self-control.
2006-06-15 03:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by Red-dog-luke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
specifically... not to do it.
its not because He wants u not to have fun, or because He is old fashioned, its because sex, was meant to be litteraly, a beautiful, intimate privallege between a married man and woman, a part of there covenant and comittment to one another, a spiritual, intense experience.
people have brought it down to lust. to cheap, self indulgent filth.
if you really love someone and plan on marrying them, then you can wait. if you dont wait, its not coz u love them, its the lust, the desire. and that is sin. there is no hurry, if ur gonna marry em, you have the rest of ur lives to have lots and lots of sex, and it will be real sex, the sex that God intended as a marriage gift.
wait. and if u already have done it, just repent, stop, and wait.
2006-06-15 03:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you plan on marrying them its ok, originally sex was marriage. once you had sex you were married. anything in the bible that talks about fornicators is a mistranslation. god doesn't care about a little piece of paper that people call a marriage license. he just cares you only have sex with one person in your life.
2006-06-15 03:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the commandments, it says not to commit adultry, adultry applies to those who are not married as well. It basically means sex outside of marriage. God created sex for marriage and says not to have it outside of it. There is no loop hole! Haha.
2006-06-15 03:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The love relationship has always been reserved for married couples to engage in sexual acitivities, it is always implied in the Bible. The Bible speaks out against fornication and adultery - fornication referring to sex outside of marriage.
2006-06-15 03:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by Damian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex was intended to increase the population of the world, and to strengthen the bonds between married couples. It is not a playtoy. It is not a declaration of love. It is not something to give to everyone you love. It is for you and your spouse.
2006-06-15 03:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Tom♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋