We have been together for 9 months and it seems that everything that I try to do to make her happy (Even the things that she wants) it just isn't working.She says that we need "Space" because we spend too much time together but Im not sure. What should I do?
Should I search for a new girlfriend?
or
Wait and see what happens?
2006-06-15 03:08:28 · 18 answers · asked by blazeoog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give her the space she asks for. Go out with your friends. Stop calling her for a couple weeks. Let her live her life and you do your own thing for a while. If she wants to continue the relationship, she will thank you for giving her the space she asked for. Asking for space is not telling you its over, so be secure and start doing other things.
2006-06-15 03:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by AJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the begining of a relationship u want 2 spend every second with eachother, u can't get enough of eachother, but after a while things r not da same, it's always good 2 have some time off, listen this may be hard but u can find out if she wants u or it's really over, don't c her 4 about a week or 2, talk 2 her everyday but not as much and as long, cut the conversations very short, tell her u still love her and all but make her miss u, try going 2 da gym or playing some sports, if she still wants u and loves u than things will change after that week, if she still doesn't change then u need 2 move on, goodluck.
2006-06-15 10:20:42 · answer #2 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is trying to push you away. Give her space, don't call her for a couple of days, do not go by her house, or any thing. If you don't make her happy any more, why would anyone stay in that kind of relationship. It is better to find this out now, after 9 months than finding out years down the road.
2006-06-15 10:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by ***WOW*** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's giving you a hint. If she wants space then give it to her. But be careful, women are notorious for sayin one thing and meaning the total opposite. If thats the case, give her the space and make time for her when YOU have time, not whenever she feels like it. She'll feel like it doesn't bother you and it will kill her inside. Then watch as she suddenly wants to be with you all the time. If she doesn't react, then it's time to hit the clubs and make some new ladyfriends, NOT girlfriend. I mean, of course, dont get tied up again.
2006-06-15 10:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by bdawg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking since I am a woman the phrase "we need some space" means that she is no longer interested in you and I think you should go looking for a new girl who appreciates what you do since it seams that you cann't please this one then she doesn't deserve you but if you really want her (I can't see why) but then you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel and ask her the same question do you need to look for a new girl or not because she doesn't seem to want you around.
Good Luck!
2006-06-15 10:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by kibbi21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she needs space trust me give her space. If she says give me space and if you dont listen then she will be annoyed by you. Start by not calling her , see if she calles you back, give her a chance to miss you. If she doesnt call you back then start searching for a new girl.
2006-06-15 10:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by camaroconvertible 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you are not happy, and it's obvious that she wants some space, you should end this relationship and try to find someone that you are really happy with. i invested 5 years in a relationhip where i was unhappy and we broke up eventually and i regretted investing so much time although i wasn't happy
2006-06-15 10:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by sorryna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe she's not that much in to you pal. Quit trying so hard, either she wants to be with, or she doesn't. Come right out and ask her how she really feels about you.
You deserve to be happy...and remember you can't MAKE anyone happy - they have to be happy on their own and you can ADD to it..........but...you can't MAKE her happy, that's her job honey.
Best of luck to ya, Marilyn
2006-06-15 10:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off for a while. You aren't married and this is what people say who have been married for years. Tell her you are done with that and that you'll see her later. Don't make yourself so accessible. Make yourself a mystery. She'll rethink things.
2006-06-15 10:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by moveplease 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your gal has been hurt in the past and the attention is scaring her. My advice ask her, communication is the key to a relationship,tell her what your thinking and her whats going on with her.
2006-06-15 10:11:55 · answer #10 · answered by arreis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋