2006-06-15 02:53:37 · 31 answers · asked by cutie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DO NOT MAKE BABIES PLEASE. Enjoy sex responsibly.
2006-06-15 02:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a Christian standpoint, no. It is never ok to have sex before marriage. From a life standpoint, it is a slippery slope. I had sex with my husband before we were married. But we were already engaged. I had never had sex before that. I, technically, lost my virginity to my husband. He just wasn't my husband at the time. There is a difference between commitment and staying power. I am very committed to my job. That doesn't mean that if I get an amazing opportunity with better pay and benefits I won't take it. Although you may be able to say with certainty you won't do that to your boyfriend, can you say that about him? If Jessic Alba asked him out would he say no for you? Or would he start babbling like an idiot and someone would have to wipe the drool from his chin?
That's not to say he doesn't love you but guys have a harder time with the concept of staying power. That's why they get jealous more often and sometimes controlling. They are convinced they will lose you. Or more likely lose themselves without you. Guys also have a lot more hormonal influence when it comes to sex. Because of hormones, girls get emotional (translated b!tchy) and guys get aroused (translated *****). Sex changes a relationship. With my husband and I, for the better. We grew much closer emotional after becoming physically as close as humanly possible. I've had friends that once they got in the sack it kinda stayed in the sack.
Make sure this committement is true. Not just I'm comfortable here and don't want to be alone anymore kind of thing. If it is true. If you would marry this guy tomorrow (not that you're gonna but just if the thought doesn't make you run into the trees screaming) then talk to him and see how he feels (or how high his pants tent at the idea of sleeping with you)
2006-06-15 10:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
until your married there is no garentee either of you is honestly devoted to marriage. its ok if you dont mind risking having to tell your husband someday you slept with a man but thought he was the one. not to mention, i have 3 kids from 3 different forms of birth control... do you mind if you dress size is meternity? that is a real risk. and as a married woman i wount lie and say sex isnt great but it is worth the wait. 9 out of 10 ppl say "is that it? is that what all the hype was about?"
and for my final point a marriage that is entered the way the Lord intends will be blessed and built on the rock! i did not have sex with my husband b4 we married, but i had sex with ex's. my marriage is by far the best relationship i have ever had. and you know what they say why buy the cow when the milk is free it is hard enough these days to drag the guy down the isle, give him a reason. for all who disagree... look at how meny ppl you know who have been dating for 5-7 yrs and are not married.
as for the 2 bellow me, sexually compatable... give me a break! if your married, you have a life time to change and sexually grow TOGETHER and learn to please each other!
2006-06-15 10:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by brownsluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this your first time? it is a really big decision. do you feel like you are ready? this may not be the boy that you are going to spend the rest of your life with . when you are married and you give your self to your husband, body and heart it is so special. but if you decide to remember that you can never take it back .and if he is not a virgin then i would suggest that he get tested.if he really cares about you then he will wait for you or at least agree to get tested. good luck and i hope that you make the right choice.
2006-06-15 10:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, some religion forbids it, but if you ain`t very religious I guess it`s ok as long as you take precautions. But have a open mind if you are young, it is a good chance that this won`t be your boyfriend for the rest of your life, so probably marriage isn`t that good an idea.
2006-06-15 10:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by MARTIN B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How young are you and your bf? What does "committed to each other" mean to you? Are you sure it means the same thing to him? Have you both tested negative for STDs and HIV/AIDS? Do you both understand the practice of safe sex? If you decide to have sex, are you both willing to accept the consequences of your actions? Remember, even using multiple birth control options can result in pregnancy.
2006-06-15 09:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, I think it would be ok i mean its like being married but marriage is a big thing. Well I take that back..if you are a virgin than don't but if you already had sex go a head this time it would be more meaningful!
2006-06-15 09:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by sexii4m3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok according to who?
It's ok with me...in fact I think it's a great idea, so the two of you can be sure you're sexually compatible before comitting to spending the rest of your lives together. Much better than getting married without ever being intimate, then finding out on your wedding night that you can't stand having sex with your partner that you just comitted your life to...
But is it OK with you? You're the one that has to decide...:)
2006-06-15 10:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say wait until you have the ring on your finger and a marriage cert in your hands...anyone can say they will marry you but until they actually do, dont do anything...Do they let you take clothes out of a shop if you tell them your going to buy them later???I don't think so...
2006-06-15 09:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no...because you have to reserved the best in your marriage bed.
its like this...i prepare a special gift (like a really huge box) for your birthday then i gave it to you the day before because i cant attend your bday....because of your over EXCITEMENT! you purposely open the gift to see whats inside...and you found out that it was just a huge remote control car..so your very excited to play with it everyday! then your bday came....you got a lot of other nice gifts! and you opened each one of them...you like almost all of them and played with each....but now the most beautiful gift that i gave you was now...looking like a trash because you used it already and the eagerness to know what was inside my gift to you was now never surprising.
save the mystery of sex just for you and you wife! you'll never know how great that wud be...esp if both of you are virgins
2006-06-15 10:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by curlers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a personal choice that only you can make.if you r ready then great if not then wait.life is long and sex is only a minor part of life.although it can be the most wonderful experience ever if you are both ready,by the same token it can really suck if one of u is not sure.
2006-06-15 09:57:07 · answer #11 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋