My girlfriend has gained quite a bit of weight since we started dating. While I remain fairly skinny she continues to gain weight. I enjoy her personality but I find her body less and less attractive. She used to be involved in sports but quit and since then has gained weight fairly quickly. I exercise everyday but she has no interest in exercising with me. In your opinion would it be shallow to break up with someone you enjoy due to a lack of physical attraction?
2006-06-15 02:18:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-06-15 02:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by TonyDrummond 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to look into the reason that you really love your girlfriend. I hope that you love her after four years of being together. If you got with her just because she was a "bombshell" and not because of the person that she is on the inside, then that is exactly why you are not attracted to her. In a relationship your feelings of love and attractions should grow as you make it though hard times together and get to know each other in your relationship. If that's not the case then its time to move on. Some men prefer the life of hopping around in different beds, its a little risky but that is a choice. If you cant take her less than perfect body then maybe that's the life you need. Also take a look at yourself, there is probably something that is not so great about your body too. Relationships mean sacrifice, maybe there is something she feels that way about pertaining to your body?
2016-03-15 05:16:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's something you can't get past then you obviously have no choice. I would not want to be with a man who didn't find me attractive. I'm sure she can get a man who will love her exactly the way she is regardless of how her looks change over the course of their relationship. Also just keep in mind that a lot of girls who gain weight quickly also lose it quickly, it's very normal for girls weight to go up and down constantly so hopefully when she loses it all you can live with the choice you made.
2006-06-15 02:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by miss_angel_eyes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO!! If your not attracted to her anymore than get out. Its not like your married. As shallow as it may seem, being physically attracted to your GF, lover, spouse...whatever.. is very important part of the relationship. Life is too short, never settle!!
2006-06-15 02:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by answerman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definently a problem. depends on how long youve been seeing eachother, how well all other facets of the relationship have been,excluding sexual attraction like it was before weight gain what else did ya have in common/love/like about eachother. if it has mainly been a type of relationship based on sex etc id give her support for awhile to help her lose and let her know that it (THE EXTRA FAT) not her, is a turn-off and both of you work on it. if she is not willing to or your sex life has just completly disappeared than you need to break it off!
2006-06-15 03:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by uniquebutsweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you don't truly like or love her for who she is. If you are asking yourself this question that means you don't love her for who she is...and maybe it's time to let her go. You could also try to talk to her and let her know how you feel. Be nice about it.
2006-06-15 02:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by lrybio2006 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes ........... what would happen if u get married with another girl who is skinny but after u'r married she gains wieght?..... will u DIVORCE her?........ N how would u like it if u'r GF broke up with you just because u gain weight?...... U'r beyond SHALLOW........ N good luck trying to find someone PERFECT........
2006-06-15 02:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by •°♥Ms. SeXy♥°• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask that question i would say your an ***, and very shallow. cuz when or if you get married are you going to divorce your wife cuz she puts on weight. but in this day men are very shallow and only want girls who have a body like britney spears.
1 quick question have you tried getting her to exercise in something she may enjoy doing like sports she used to play or dancing if she likes it?
2006-06-15 02:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by silver_princess16_03 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
relationships should never be based on appearance however many are. They say love is blind and your not blind - this bothers you and in your mind it has already ended. be kind but be honest and do not make her feel bad. but the sooner you end it the better.
2006-06-15 02:27:08 · answer #9 · answered by Savage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
god! you don't love her. u only like her because you can flaunt her and use her as your accessory while your with other guys! u'r so bad. she doesn't deserve you.
2006-06-15 02:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by warrior is a child 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋