is it safe to go ahead with an internet love affair?

Question

i have fallen in ln love with a guy from another country, and i want to visit him, since he is poor and cant come over to see me. even if i send him a ticket he still cant get a visa unless i sponsor him. but i want to first go to his country and meet him. is it safe to do this as i have never met him in person. only in chat.
please advice me as i have no family to help me. i am an orphan

Answer 1

Absolutely no way. Never. Don't do it.
There are plenty of men in your own country.

Answer 2

Your being an orphan has nothing to do with the question. Common sense has everything to do with it. This is an all-too-often repeated scam: a young lady (or man) from a desireable country meets and falls for a foreigner and spends hunks of money attempting to bring the two of them together. He keeps finding reason after reason - all of which sound perfectly logical to the gullible American (or Canadienne, or Brit, or Aussie) - that he just can't come this month or this year. Some poor saps spend years and thousands of dollars and never actually get to touch his face or run fingers through his hair. And he sits on the other side of the wide, wide ocean living off her money and sleeping with his own wife he's never told his gullible overseas sweetie about!

Sugar, it happens to hundreds and hundreds of women - and men - every blessed month. You want this guy, HE needs to be the one to come to YOU! And if YOU go to his country - you could well be putting yourself at risk of being detained against your will, even held for ransom. If you're young and pretty, like a former neighbor of mine, you could simply "disappear" and wind up forced into a brothel and a life of prostitution - and when you start aging, they simply kill you. Think it won't happen to you? It does happen -every blessed day! What makes you think you're invulnerable? Yeah, that former neighbor of mine thought that, too. At least, she had a father who was able to pay (an exorbitant sum) to have a private investigator find out what happened to her.

This is not to say there is no chance for the two of you - but you need to be d a m n sure you're not blinded by your own lonliness and need. Take it SLOW! If it's meant to be, it'll happen.

Ask yourself another, important question...computers are VERY expensive in much of the rest of the world - publicly accessible computers are rare in most of the rest of the world, and when they are accessible, the rates per minute of use are high. So how is it that this guy can afford access to a computer with which to talk to you but is too "poor" to make his way to your front door?

Answer 3

No. I had a mate marry someone he met online, after meeting her twice. It turns out she was an "escort" by night, and had a rather nasty coke ahbit. They divoced, but he lost EVERYTHING. I had a "girl" from Australia decide to come and see me in South africa, not that I wanted her to, and was told by others in the chat room that it was actually a guy and he was seriously unhinged. Even though he did make the 6000km journey, I kept out the chat rooms and didn't see him. I know of several stories just like this. It's easy to maintain a positive online persona. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but I assure you, it's sound advice.

I'm sure you'll not follow it, since you're quite taken with the chap, so good luck with that.

Answer 4

I wouldn't. What country? I know a girl who fell in love with someone from India. They got married and he only came around once every four months. Then he quit coming. She had the option of moving there and working in the community household like a slave. There are women slave trades who try and lure women out of their safe havens only to make sure they have no way of coming back. The only way to come back is to 'work' for them. You can imagine what kind of work they would have in mind for a woman, and believe me, they are well monitored. They make it look all legit by having someone steal everything from you. All it would take is a drug in your drink of food. Or simply someone coming up behind you. You would be in big trouble.

Answer 5

I think you should not judge every one with the same yard stick. I have a friend who is from India and met a girl Cathy (originally from Taiwan & now settled in Singapore) on net. My friend is tryly in love with this chinese girl. They used to chat for hours daily on net. His condition was somewhat like your friend. But i can assure you that my friend is till today desperate to meet this girl Cathy. I understant that she is from a rich family and her father is a big business tycoon in Cement machinery business. So money for her is no problem. My friend has thrown his life on line to ensure the safety of this Cathy girl. Still this girl doubts my friend....I know my friend....he is a real gem in India....

This is just to let u know that there are good people too. Make your own decision

Answer 6

well, it is pretty dangerous. where does he live? sometimes guys just play with you. may be he is married and over 50. but you may never know what he is until you see him. do not sponsor him, may be he's after your citizenship or money. then he'd leave you and hurt you. do something. pay to some detective service or wahtever in his country and gather some info about him....find out about him. if you go there, and he does something bad to you, you can't do anything becuase it is not your country... so think twice.

Answer 7

No way, it's not worth it. I'm not saying meeting someone online is bad, but try to find someone in your own city, and meet for the first time in a public place.

Answer 8

I don't think it is a good idea. You have only chatted w/ him on line.
How much do you actually know about him? People on the net aren't truthful about themselves,if ever.
Haven't you heard on the news about the people (I.E. teenagers all be it) that go to meet people who they talked to on line and end up getting into trouble?

Answer 9

I would suggest that you not meet him in person. I feel that doing so is taking a huge risk. In light of all of the crimes surrounding internet meetings, it is rather unsafe to me to meet someone in another country.

Answer 10

hell no its not safe. I wouldnt go alone thats for sure. dont you ever watch the show DATELINE or 60 min. youll probably never been seen again if you do.