2006-06-15 01:06:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anne O 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What do i do?
2006-06-15 01:09:41 · update #1
I have been in this exact situation (although I was little younger than you.)
I'll tell you what worked in my situation, but ultimately every situation is so unique that what works for one may not work for another.
For me it was a matter of sitting down and talking with my parents (without said man around.) We addressed each one of their fears, such as: was I "settling," was I just desperate and thought this was the only guy I could get, the fear that we were not a good match, that he was too negative of a personality,etc.... So once we addressed their fears and I gave them honest answers (without getting emotional,) they were more at peace about it and gave their blessing.
In the end, you may have to make the decision to "choose," but if you highly respect your parents, I would follow their direction. -No one else will probably tell you that. But if you have to fall to one side, and you have good parents, that's the side I would suggest.
What a hard situation! I hope it works out for the best for everyone.
2006-06-15 01:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Marlo B 2 · 10⤊ 2⤋
My parents didn't want me to marry my high school sweetheart but I did anyway. Should have listened to my parents. Lasted about 7 years. Your 25, follow your heart but listen to your head. Marriage is supposed to be a life long commitment.
2006-06-15 08:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by dustymcdonald 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to analyze the reasons why your parents don't like this guy. If they are legitimate reasons, like he is lazy without ambition, a druggie, abusive, and similar logical reasons, then you should recondider marriage to this guy. If it is personal, then you would still have to rethink about what may happen in the future if your marry this guy. Is this guy worth alienating yourself from your family? Only you can make this judgment call. Good luck.
2006-06-15 08:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ultimately make the decision. Who you love or marry is no one else's choice or decision. Just be mindful of what your parents think and how they react. That may cause trying times in your marriage, but in time hopefully you can work through them.
2006-06-15 08:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by eewill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has got to be a reason why your parents don't approve your relationship with him. We usually don't see the bad (or even dangerous) things when we're in love, but others around us do.
If you ask them why and they reply "hrm... err... we dunno", then marry him. If they give you an answer, take some time with a subjective mind to see if they're right.
Also, don't say "Oh, he might be like that, but he'll change".
2006-06-15 08:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lyvy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't your parents want you guys to marry? Is he a drug dealer, or on probation, or has he ever hit you?Those would be good reasons. otherwise, no one can tell your heart what to do. when people don't want you to do something, it makes you want to do it that much more.........especially parents
2006-06-15 08:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by SASSY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to them.
Thank your parents for their advice in 2 years.
2006-06-15 08:16:14 · answer #7 · answered by Chiron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to dad you know you should
2006-06-15 08:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by matthew C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋