Do men still believe in being gentlemen?

Question

Is chilvary dead? Do men still pull out chairs? Open all doors? Escort a woman on a date by the arm? Lay down his jacket so she can walk over a puddle? Being respectful by not using profanity in a ladys pressence? Has the true gentlemen died off? Are we only left with men who belch and fart at the dinner table and scratch their *** while they ask for seconds!
Can I get some real answers for this question and not just smartass comments. Thanks

The belch, fart, scratch comment is an over exaggeration that directly reflects my frustration on this issue. Thank You for automatically knowing that!

Answer 1

I believe that the true gentlemen have not all died and gone. I believe that a lot of men are intimidated by the idea of a liberated woman. I feel that we can talk our men into most anything. Why not talk him into being more of a gentleman. He wasn't passing gas and scratching while he was dating you and taking you out, or was he. In that case, you knew what you were getting. In the other case, ask him to bring that guy back that you were dating and fell in love with. If this is a first date for you, demand that he do gentlemanly things. We blow it because we have sex on the first date and men think we aren't worthy of affection and the chivalrous behavior of gentlemen from back in the day. We are strong and quick to move. Be still, wait for him to open the door before you just snatch it open, wait for him to pull out your chair. It will be hard for him to have dinner with a woman who is still in the car, or better yet standing next to the table at the restaurant. We mustn't forget that a lot of today's men have no idea what this chivalry is, so if we want it, we have to in some cases teach it and in all cases demand it. Respect yourself and the gentleman will act accordingly. In the field of Mental Health, we say that we should tell the kids what we want from them not what we don't want. The same applies here. Tell him that you want hin to be more of a gentleman instead of assuming that he's just an ***. If that is how you see him, that is the behavior you will get. I see my man as a gentleman and he never opened doors for me until we talked about it and then just recently while we were out, i noticed that he rushed to the door to open it for me. It's a process and it has to start somewhere, why not with you.

Clarissa
Sylva, NC

Answer 2

Absolutely!!! I still open the door for ladies walking out of the mall or a restaurant. What kills me is when you do that for the so called ladies who do appreciate that sort of thing just to get no response for the act of kindness, remember, I could have just walked out in front of you and let the door hit you in the face. I could have parked the car three blocks away during a rain storm and made you walk to the car with me. Kind gestures are just important for the few gentlemen that may still be out there.

Answer 3

OK~so I have had to think of this one for a second~I guess it is what the definition of a gentleman is! My guy for example~doesn't belch~fart~or scratch him self (to make it a big deal) so he has manners~however he has never pulled the chair out for me~he kind opens the door for me (for stores and stuff~not car doors) he opens the door walks in and holds it propped open as I walk in, he never lets me walk through first~but it is kind opened for me!! He walks in front of me~says I walk to slow~oh the puddle thing~ya he would jump in the puddle to make sure he could splash enough for me to get wet~he doesn't cuss a lot in front of me~he is respectful (to a point) towards women~I don't believe that gentleman have died off~I just think that back then men were taught to hide their inner child to a point~and now men are becoming their inner child~in stead of hiding it!!! No~one is taught to hide their inner child anymore~they are now taught to be a child for as long as possible because being an adult can really suck~well men took that phrase and ran with it~and now none of them want to grow up~but I do believe it has always been there, but were taught to hide the true feelings of being that little boy~now they could give a **** less~you know the more I think of this and my guy~I am starting to think that maybe I am not that happy with the inner child mine has to offer~ LOL :) Makes you wonder sometimes if all this bull **** is really worth~such the fuss!!!

Answer 4

you can't walk on my coat but you can borrow it if you promise not to throw it in a puddle. Can't belch or fart till you been with em for 6 months. i still open doors but only pull out the chair as a joke if we're dressed all fancy. I cuss but not a whole lot.

Many women want to be treated as an equal, they want to talk like you'd talk to your friends. All sorts of different sorts out thier. Both guys and girls. Chivalry ain't dead it's just changed.

Answer 5

There are still a few out there. Society has changed us men and no real offense to you, but the females act like drunken sailors themselves. If they do not show any self respect for themselves, how do they expect us to act so much like a gentleman. Sometime the atmosphere of a room can change that in a man. Sometimes even the clothes they wear or people they are around.

Answer 6

Yes, (Most men tend to impress during the dates and infatuation period) No, (These Men show true colours when the fun, cloud-9 thing sizzles off. At least that is what most women feels). But hats off to women who noticed all the small things that their male partner did to them be it open the door, peel the orange, escorting women on dates or mere polite greetings during their encounter.

Answer 7

Women as a group have made it very clear that nice guys finish last, and holding a door open for a woman is just as likely to get an angry stare as a polite thank you.

If you want guys to be nice, make sure they know that you apprecaite it when they are. And if you see other women taking it for granted, or resenting men being nice. Speak up.

-HtJ

Answer 8

i used to be very polite and very gentlemanlike when it comes to meeting strangers, friends, family, but then i became an American, that's when it all changed. it was a slow process, but it sure lessened my politeness and all that nice guy type. But now i'm trying to be polite to a lot of people. i try not to swear so much in front of ladies, in fact i don't, unless i know that the girl i'm talking with is someone who doesn't mind it.

Answer 9

I did treat my ex girl-friend at my best as you mentioned "gentlemen style". she surly loved it. sometimes this can attract unwanted attention and will be not very good.

so I recommend to be a "gentlemen" when u2 are not getting much unwanted attention.

and it is FUN

Answer 10

depends on the age and maturity level of the guy... most older guys are still pretty much chivalrous... they were raised before the feminist movements of the 70's.