Im a girl and the other day in class a teacher told me i had to sit next to a dum boy, is not that i don't like him but he is like one of the dummest in my class, he never speaks and he is always silent well he only has like one friend and no one really likes him plus he is from another country. I was so sad when the teacher told me i had to sit by him that i started to cry. The boy told me when he saw me crying ''don't worry maybe later the teacher changes your sit again'' he did and i got to sit next to a boy i like.
When i got home i felt a bit sorry for having cryied over that but there is no way in the world i would apologise to him. I was just wondering how do you think the boy felt? Could this affect him?
2006-06-15 00:11:28 · 11 answers · asked by Lassy 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
I think the saddest part of the story is your only really sorry that you cried in front of every one at school and probably don't even care about his feelings even now. Let's see, you said he's quiet, no one likes him, only has one friend, is dumb,and is from another country.But that doesn't mean you don't like him? Who are you kidding.I think the teacher did "HIM" a favor by not forcing him to sit next to a shallow,stuck up little crybaby.Take your medicine and apologize and try being nice next time.
2006-06-15 01:54:49 · answer #1 · answered by Valkyrie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of you sitting next to a boy that would consider you too dump while he obviously acts as he is angry just cause he is sitting next to you. Don't judge people by outer things, shyness does not mean he is stupid. He might even be smarter than you, but lack of self confidence sometimes makes people be quiet cause they are afraid that the things they have to say might be incorrect. And the fact that he is from another country should not make you want to avoid him. He is only belonging to another culture, he is not an alien. You should really feel guilty for what you have done cause that boy was already feeling bad cause nobody talked to him and he felt the pressure of being a foreigner in another country, you added now even more to his feeling by showing him he is indeed not wanted by anybody. You should appologize to him as soon as possible and try to be a friend to him. Though you underestimate him, he might have helped you in a situation when everybody else would have dumped you. In life we only get what we give, so one day the wheel might turn around and somebody could treat u the same way. You should support people, be friendly, never underestimate people's minds and they would act the same with you. Follow my advice, you will only feel much better. If you feel shy to appologize do it when nobody is around, just you and him. He would feel happy and a bit more comfortable in his class. Good luck.
2006-06-15 07:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by DreamGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i'm gathering you are both rather young. While I am sure this did hurt his feelings, I don't think it will scar him for life. In the future though, remember that this boy most likely feels very alone. He's from another country, so everything is rather new to him and the culture is different from his own. Also he has only one friend so he already feels isolated and rejected. You affirmed that for him.
You said that you won't apologize. I would personally and would explain my own feelings about the other boy. You might also want to make an effort to be nicer to him and help him adjust to his new surroundings. Moving to a new school is hard enough without that school being in a new country with a new language.
2006-06-15 07:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it affected the boy. He was kind to you and you were not so with him. I am curious as to how old you are. Crying over a seating arrangement in class is a bit extreme. You missed a great opportunity to brighten someone else's day by being gracious about the situation. Actually you could apologize to him if you were courageous enough and cared for the feelings of others. I encourage you to find a way to do so. Next time how about thinking of others in addition to yourself?
2006-06-15 07:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by dkrgrand 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it okay. Nobody likes to be put down, even if it's done non-verbally. If most people in your school feel the same way you do, the guy's probably used to dealing with that kind of reaction. Well, they say what doesn't kill us makes us stronger, so maybe he'll be a very strong man some day. (By the way... from his response, I'd guess maybe he's not as "dum" as you think.)
2006-06-15 07:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by Muddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think no one wants to sit next to a dum boy, so yes i would had done the same, just forget about it and try to avoid him in future. bless you.
2006-06-15 08:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think the boy might be upset by this, why wouldnt u say sorry, he has feelings to...maybe he only has one friend cos he is shy and people like u freak out if they have to sit next to him...I fell sad for him, i know what its like...LONELY
2006-06-15 07:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it could. If he is from another country, and only has one friend, he must be lonely. You bursting into tears only compounded this feeling for him. How would you feel if you were in his shoes?
2006-06-15 07:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by Catowner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he figured you were upset about being seated by him, I won't tell you if you are wrong or right, but the best way to decide is to put yourself in his place and see how you feel.
2006-06-15 07:39:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a school counselor.
2006-06-15 07:15:45 · answer #10 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋