Is The Middle Child Syndrome True In Every Family With Three Kids?

Question

its definitely true in my family.. my sister - who is six years younger than i am, and six years older than my brother - is really the black sheep of the family... can u explain middle child syndrome?

Answer 1

Middle chid syndrome happens when the middle child sees the oldest child be able to do things before them and the youngest chid get most of the attention. In my family my sister is the middle child, I'm the oldest and my little brother is the youngest. I was able to do things first but she was able to do things at a younger age. Shes not the "black sheep" but I am simply because I'm outgoing. She gets everything handed to her while my little brother does no wrong. However I'm blamed for their mistakes because I should be a better influance. But I belive she still has MCS because no matter how much she gets to her she has is worse than anyone else in the world.

Answer 2

Almost always!. Especially if that child is a male child.

I know, I am one. I was the middle of five.

Even successful middle children still are seen as the black sheep by other family members, whether we want to admit it or not.

Family.org has a good article to help parents overcome this at: http://www.family.org/fmedia/askdrbill/a0035040.cfm

Some people believe (I for one) that there is a power struggle in families as each child is born.

A child usually naturally takes to the parent of the opposite sex.

If the first is a girl, they side with daddy, if the middle is then a boy he sides with mom. there is not a great deal of problems here. If the next child is the last it get both parents.

On the other hand, if the first child is a boy, it naturally sides with mom. Then if the next is a girl, it sides with dad. Not much of a problem, but if the next child was a boy, it would normally side with mom, but the power struggle forces them to side with dad. This is where the Middle Child Syndrome, really is the strongest.

The last child is the lucky one, regardless of sex. It gets more love from both parents...it is the baby after all.

Answer 3

Usually the middle child tries to make peace and keep everyone from rocking the boat. With my children its not too bad because my middle child is the only boy. I think it depends alot on the parents. I try hard to not make my kids responsible for each other so the eldest doesn't get as bossy. I try to meditate kid fights so my middle doesn't try to. And I make my youngest do age appropriate things (like dressing herself) even when she gets whiny so she doesn't get spoiled. Its all about parenting technique and kids' personalities. As a kid I knew two sisters that the eldest was a push-over and the younger dominated her. So the standard labels don't always apply.
But in my family of 4, the eldest did everything right. The second is a black sheep. I'm 3rd but 1st of the second set and I've got the bossy eldest sister thing going and also am considered to have done almost everything right. The youngest was a wild child/black sheep, but marriage settled her down. I'm trying real hard to make sure my kids don't repeat our pattern.

Answer 4

I am the middle child but I am also the only girl. I would say I have still had it the roughest out of my other two siblings. They were both more pampered than I was, and my parents have been harder on me to this day. I have always felt like I've been treated unfairly and like no matter what I do it's never good enough. It's an empty feeling that will not go away and I attribute this to my upbringing. I believe that the middle child syndrome is real and when I have my own children, I plan to have them in an even number!!

Answer 5

I am the middle child of three children and I am not the black sheep of my family. As a matter of fact my older brother is the black sheep. I turned out to be the "most successful". Though, I'm not sure if this is a result of trying to be the opposite of everyone else, who on the contrary hasn't accomplished much in life.

Answer 6

In my family I was the middle child and I got mistreated really bad. The sad thing was my mother contributed to and even encouraged this to happen. And to make matters worse she remarried a nice fellow and tricked him into thinking I was a messed-up kid. She instigated alot of problems between myself and the rest of my family, and deprived me of having a relationship with my new stepfather. It was a "self-fulfilling prophecy" so to speak. As a teenager I became very violent, in a bad way. It is a wonder I never killed them, no joke. As a young adult I developed a rather serious problem with alcohol and drugs and it was all downhill from there. I spent alot of time in jails and mental facilities. Then when I was 29 I quit drinking and got my life straight. I did'nt communicate with my family for a very long time. But eventually I was able to forgive and let go of all the anger and rage. Today I have 5 years clean and sober, a wonderful job, and a beautiful girlfriend. And my family treats me totally different.

Answer 7

My middle child is the most pain in the butt. She was when she was little , through her teenage years and still now at the age of 35. But, in my siblings I come from a family of 4 and the eldest one is the black sheep of the family. None of us have heard from her in 8 years. We don't know if she's dead or alive.

Answer 8

center baby syndrome is amazingly authentic. the middle baby frequently feels that they don't belong. the first-born sibling is positioned on a pedestal and the youngest sibling receives away with the most. the middle baby is merely - there. There are the least style of imagery of the middle baby and the middle baby has to paintings harder with a view to be talked about. States all of it! :) replaced into hoping this helped.

Answer 9

All my aunts and uncles had 3 or more kids. There was a bad middle child problem with all them..including my family. I was one of four. Older sister, me, younger sister and even younger bro. Oldest sis..needed braces on her legs, younger sis..in a wheelchair till age 7..never supposed to walk, younger bro..mom had 3 girls and desperately wanted a boy. I came out completely normal. All my childhood, went to the doctor once..for stitches. I didnt mean squat to my mom. It was like i only existed to do the dirty work. I was the physically abused Cinderella. I wasnt aloud to leave our house..unless my sisters had boyfriends over. Mom didnt want them to notice me. I always wished they were prettier..so boys would come around..and i could get out of the house. They got everything..did whatever they wanted. And even tho they were my blood..treated me like cruel stepsisters. I know i would never ever do that to my kids. I have only 2..boy and a girl..so it should be fair for the both of them.

Answer 10

it's true for me. i'm the middle one and not only do i feel like the black sheep, i think i have been branded as the black sheep who makes all the wrong choices a looooonnnngg time ago. i hate it.