i moved, stored what i could of my things and my family keep the rest for me,& my sister want give it back,?

Question

now that i'm ready to come back home , i let her as well as other in my family keep my things for me , and tod them to use them all thay liked , and now i;m needing my things and my sister , says that i gave all my things to he and i cant have them back, and now i will have nothing , but the clothes on my back when i return ,and she has also told me that she has had a yard sale and sold a lot of my things , when will i ever learn, i love my sister, but she always uses me for her self again,calles me and ask me when are you coming home i miss you, and then tell me that i can have my things and that she has sold a lot of my stuff, this is the same sister i ask a ? about a few weeks ago, DOES MY YOUNGER SISTER HAVE A PROBLEM WITH ME ,, OR AM I THE PROBLEM, for thoes that answered that ?i told her i was coming home and was going to buy a house and i would be over to get my things ,, and she tells me this,,how do i say this , she has never been there for me,

unless there was something in it for her, im just tired of beinghurt and used and lied on by her , ive talked and talked to her about how she treats me but it never does any good , she will come to my house and eat all my food up , and then go home , i hardly had any thing to ware at 1 point and she would come to my house and want my clothes ,,and now this , i told her i love you , but im just tired of being hurt and used over and over by you, so just please stay away , but i know it want do any good , we were both out 1 day shopping and had spent all of our money an she was hungary , but didnt have enough money to get anything to eat, so we put or change together, to get a bugar to eat , and was going to share it, soi we got the bugar and i said well you eat half first , so she started eating ,and ate all of the bugar but 2 small bits, and when i sais something to her, you want believe what she said , well i ate more because i paid for more of it than you did, and she couldnt have

even got the bugar without my part of the money as well , what do i do with a sister like this, i;m ready to just give up ever having a relationship with her, what do i do ,

Answer 1

It is hard to cut people out of your life when they are abusive and hurt you over and over again. It's very hard to admit to yourself that they are abusive and it's even worse when they are family. You probably have already tried to explain to her why you are angry with her, perhaps you should try one more time. Writing a letter could be another way to express your feelings. But you know what, some people are just not NICE and never will be. They will promise you anything but sooner or later they will hurt you again. Effectively they are bullies. Your sister sounds like one of those and there is nothing you can do to change her. So you either put up with it (but it seems to me that you can't do it anymore) or you cut them loose. It is really hard to do and you will feel pretty miserable for a while, but sometimes you just have to do it: it's a question of self preservation....

Answer 2

What kind of a sister does that? tells you you cant have any of your things back leaving you with just what you're wearing. What kind of a sister lacks the simple compassion to, ok if she thought you were giving her the things, think 'ah, ok, well, he does need them more than i do' She has got to be THE most selfish sister i've heard of. Simply, don't trust her again, since you say that she used you for her own personal gain AGAIN. I would say that she just doesnt care for you or anybody other than herself but obviously i dont know her.

Answer 3

it's your younger sister. Sorry she is like this. She['s obviously jealous of you for some reason. Treat her the same and see if she likes it. It's your stuff and if she won't return it call the police and say she is stealing your stuff!

Answer 4

tell her u don't want anything more to do with her, easier said then done your probably thinking, but she will need u before u need her! just take time out from her she doesn't need to know its time out but it works trust me! U don't people taking advantage of u especially your own flesh and blood, she obviously knows what buttons to push to get what she wants from u. Walk away for your own good stop worrying about her feeling and do whats best for u!

Answer 5

Steal all her stuff and then offer to sell it back to her....