i have been with with my fella for 6 years, but he has only just come to live with me he treats me so well gives me the world,
but we have not had sex in 9 weeks, ok before u start saying sex is not every think i know that but u tell my ***** that im very higly sexed and we used to be at it like rabbits
i have asked if he has any worries or problems we talk and have a great time when we go out its just seems to me he does not fancy me.. i have asked him about the problem and he says sex is not every think but trust me it helps
my plastic toy gets loads of action and i buy batterys in bulk..
ive tried the sexy nights in massage nice dinners u name it ive tried it and some mornings he wakes up rock hard but i suggest i put it to good use and he just brushes me off
any ideas?????? oh and men no one butting give me ur number or hes mine as i would NEVER CHEAT ON HIM
2006-06-14 23:29:26 · 15 answers · asked by debbie c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he does not know i play with my toy and trust me its not me he is never in the house when i play
2006-06-14 23:42:58 · update #1
sounds like he is loosing interest maybe because its to easy why not play hard to get act as if you don't want it i bet from he hasn't been given it to you you have wanted it more so give him a taste of his own medicine
2006-06-15 00:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by wetnslippy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's really sad for you. The problem may be that he finds it hard to view the woman he is living with as a sexual being. Many men feel that a girlfriend who doesn't live with them is exciting and still a challenge because she could easily leave at any time so he does everything he can to keep her including sex.
You say that he moved in with you, rather than that you moved in together. This may be another problem. If you are the head of the household, he may feel less of a man and no longer your equal or superior as he felt before you lived together. In a subconcious attempt to control the situation, he witholds sex. he may not realise that this is why he is doing this. It depends on your situation but you must take steps to make him feel valued and that he is your equal.
The final and I'm sure least appealing scenario for you is that he is seeing somebody else. Watch out for other clues eg. wrong numbers from a female, deleting all his text messages so there are no saved messages on his phone, coming home late with poor explanation etc. and if you find evidence, confront him. If he notices you checking up on him and asks you why, tell him straight that you think he may be seeing someone else because he has ceased sexual contact with you. If he is seeing someone else he will be angry and defensive, if he is concerned and upset, then it is likley to be one of the other two problems I mentioned.
2006-06-16 12:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he isnt bored and perhaps its not you !
Sounds like he may have a problem, you can become temporarily impotent and the more your partner entices you the more you end up avoiding the situation, hugely common complaint and one that men in general avoid like the plague!
This sends out all the wrong signals and is often the cause of a breakdown in relationships.
really suggest you check out this website and hope it helps http://www.sda.uk.net/
2006-06-16 07:02:52 · answer #3 · answered by willw8andc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is Genuine, after 6 years of relationship, normally any man get little bored, Man always like the girl who say "No" when he get a girl who said no to him, he feel that, he win the world, In your case don't avoid him, but say "No" with noughty smile, when he approch you, then his attidue will change, he will say he need, but to make it practical it will take somes days, have some pations, don't approch him directly showing you need sex, just start play with until he get warm and once he warm up sart say "No" I m tried or some silly escuses. try this it will work. becouse some of the man don't like the such girl who approch them directly for sex.
2006-06-15 07:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by vizhi20889 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is in need of a new boyfriend. You should visit some swinging sites to see if any other men are interested in joining you two guys for some love action.
2006-06-15 07:39:20 · answer #5 · answered by inmyname2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to spice it up a little... Little bondage??? Little mutual masturbation???
Get out your toy while he is there and start playing with it, right in front of him... (that would get me going)
Put on porn that gets you going...
Suggest a 3some with the girl of his choice...
Meet him at the door completely naked and with a sign that says "TAKE ME NOW"...
If all else fails, get a spare for use when he ain't there... No strings!!!
2006-06-15 07:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read yr brief and you would find that the problem is with you.
You have found temporary solutions with hard toys and batteries.
Else you would have made him involved.
I am sure he is aware of your side roles.
May be he is in doubt, and is in this same session asking us,
"My wife plays with toys & baterries for s*x.
What to do".
Got that!
2006-06-15 06:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by kanuuscbe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the morning if you are awake but he is not! Just sit on his face an tell him that hes having it whether he likes it or not! Tell him you are in charge and he had better eat it like its his last meal.
2006-06-15 07:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by submike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having theese kinds of problems instead of taking it out on toys you should talk to him about it.
2006-06-15 08:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something different and see how he feels with that. it may be the reason that because you have moved in together, there isn't a change of scenery. try somewhere different.
good luck
2006-06-15 06:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by tanj_maria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋