Is there any sure way to get your boyfriend to propose?

Question

My boyfriend of 10 mths was going to propose after 6 mths but then deciced to wait as his past relationship ended badly once he proposed to his ex. Now I am still waiting for it to happen. He does talk about what kind of wedding he wants but it never goes any farther than that! I just want him to either do it or stop talking about it.

I just thought I should add that we have been best mates for 6+ yrs and that we were sleeping together on and off for about 2 yrs before we actually became a couple.

Answer 1

That's nice to know-- well he has valid reasons for not wanting to jump in feet first-- he's a man and once they've been hurt even though it is in the past- it takes months years for them to build trust again. My hubby was married when he was in the Army- he lived in married quarters etc- and he had a baby-- 6 months later she did the off- no word took all his money. We were together 4 years before he proposed to me and he was certain that he wanted me for the rest of his life.

I wanted to snap him up long before that but i respected him enough to wait until he was ready. If you push him he will go the other way.. Wait and see he may surprise you

Answer 2

Do not give him an ultimatum. Not if you love him. Is there anything truly wrong with the relationship right now? It's only been 10 months, be patient. My boyfriend and I were together for 2 years before he proposed. What was the hold up I wondered? He was saving for the ring! The dope wanted to buy me the perfect ring. He did too. Without financing. No we are saving for the wedding. Give him time. There is no problem with waiting these days. He probably has a perfectly good reason. Maybe he is waiting for an anniversary, or a holiday, or maybe he is saving up. Don't push the issue quite yet.

Answer 3

Be like Queen Victoria and do what she did, she proposed to Albert. She was already queen and she felt that no man would dare presume to propose to a queen, even if Albert was from the German royal family.

You may not be as royal as Queen Vic, but you might like to be a little more forwards, and propose to your man.

Or you can wait until 29 February 2008...

Answer 4

Men propose when they are ready, and they know the answer will be yes. You don't want to waste money on a ring for nothing.

Then we get nervous, that whole asking your fathers permission thing is scary you know.

Ask him if he wants to marry you, tell him you aren't sure if you want to marry him because he hasn't asked you yet, then he has to propose.

Answer 5

Have i got the answer for you or what? I went out with my now fiance for 3 years on and off,I kept ending up breaking up with him because all i ever wanted was a happy family and i wanted to be together forever,He had been hurt by two past females, one ex wife and one ex girlfriend,Both played around on him and he was very nervous about ever letting himself be properly loved again,Only for fear of getting so badly hurt again.Last time we broke up i never thought we were going to get back together again, then my friends parents both died in one week and the only one i wanted to tell was him,I rang him and it ended up that after chatting we decided to meet for coffee,We had coffee and havent stopped seeing each other since.He told me he had missed me soooo much and he changed so much after that,I was a bit upset as i knew he always said he didnt want to get married.But then one nite when we got home from going to a patrty and after having a small argument he tells me to put down my drink and wants to know what im doing in a years time , he asked me to marry me,It completly blew me away,and he was so happy when i said yes , he was ringing all his family and friends. it was the most wonderful feeling.Now we have 3 months left till the wedding date and we have been living together about 9 months.there is always hope

Answer 6

Maybe you should just wait till he asks you and dont pressure him into it, that way you know it was his idea. The other option is to sit down and explain to him that you really want to get engaged and eventually married and see what he says.
Maybe he is afraid cause he was so hurt in the past so you have to reasure him.

Answer 7

Have you told him how you feel? Don't ever rush into a marriage. I did hear about this lady who used the following technique to get her man: She bought a dozen roses for herself and when her boyfriend asked who they were from she said "Oh just some guy I know." It worked for her. They were married six months later and she said the've been married for elevin years and she still hasn't said where the roses came from.

Answer 8

then tell him so. tell him that you want to know when his wishes about the wedding will come true.

you guys are still in a young relationship, maybe its good he's waiting, do not rush into marraige, take this time to get to know each other better. i been wit my bf for 3 years now, and we both agree that now is not the right time. so speak to him about it and tell him how u feel

Answer 9

There's never any sure way to get people to do anything. And if you really love him, you wouldn't resort to mind games or try to manipulate him in any way.

Just be honest and tell him how you feel.

Or just seize the day and propose to HIM! =)

Answer 10

10 months isn't that long to date...give it time...the sure way to get him to propose is to let him do it on his own terms. Why do something to force him to propose...don't you want him to WANT to? Guys are all talk the first year or so of a relationship...................don't rush him.