Am I sinning?

Question

I am in love with a married women. I talk to her everyday, think about her everynight. Am I wrong?

Answer 1

loving someone is never a sin. but having physical relationship with anyone without marriage is considered a sin. you said that you love her...but what will happen in your future? if she leaves her husband will you take her? can you face the guilt of braking a marriage? can you face the soceity?if the answer is "no" to all the above questions then leave her.it will cause her immidiate pain but later on she will understand. you see loving someone doesnt necessary mean that you have to physically live with that person all your life. you can live seperately and go on loving her.

Answer 2

There is nothing in this universe which is absolutely right or absolutely wrong. Everything is relative! what you have to understand is that, if you had a wife, would you have liked the idea of another man flirting with her, thinking about her every night, talk to her everyday! Whatever you feel is exactly what the married woman's husband would feel when he finds out. Do not be the reason for a break up in a happy family. let them live peacefully and god will bless you and forgive your sins.

Answer 3

The Bible teaches that the thought is as bad as the deed. Look what happened to King David when he pursued a married woman. He lost his son and gained great misery. Don't get caught up with married women. You will not only be hurting the husband, but the woman and yourself as well. If she leaves him for you, what makes you think she won't leave you for someone else? If you believe that she would never do that, then you are sorely mistaken. Take it from someone who has had experience.

Answer 4

You asked about sin so I am going to quote from the Bible. I hope this is OK with you as sin is 'NOT DOING GOD'S WILL'

Ex 20:14 - The seventh commandment say no adultery please

Lev 20:10 - especially with another man's wife

Jer 29:23 - Please there are consequences for taking your
neighbor's wife.

Matthew 5:27 - 30 - Jesus says that even if you contemplate it, it
is sin! He goes on to advise that if adultery is a
problem deal with it before it brings you down!

John 8:3 - 11 - If you decide to turn away from this married
woman and any others bothering you, there is
forgiveness and Jesus welcomes you with open arms

1 John 1:9 says if we confess our sins to God, we are assured
forgiveness

Rev 3:20. Jesus is knocking and waiting for your response. Over
to you and all the best.

John 3:17 Remember, God loves you and me and sent Jesus
not to condemn but to save all of us who believe in him

Answer 5

Depends on your morals as the man said. Also, is she happily married, has kids? Will you be hurting a happy family? Do you intend to act on your feelings?

If you are asking in a religious sense, I believe most mainstream religions respect the sanctimony of marriage. So, in that sense, you are sinning because you have lust in your heart for a woman who is married.

Answer 6

If you follow the Bible then yes.

Thou shall not covet thy nieghbors wife.

I even think there is something in there that goes something like if you imagine you are doing bad things then it is the same as if you have done them (I believe it's new testament).

but if you are like me and believe that the bible was written by man then no. But cheating or knowing the person you are sleeping with is cheating IS a sin.

Answer 7

If u are creating problems in her married life by talking to her then yes u are sinning..u are breaking a family...

Answer 8

If all you're doing is talking to her, no problem.
I don't think its healthly to think about her so much because that could led to you doing actions which morally wouldn't be right.
If you just talk with her, fine. But don't go any further in thought or deed on the subject.

Answer 9

The bible says, " But every man is TEMPTED, when he is drawn away of his own LUST, and enticed." James 1:13,14 "Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall. There hath no TEMPTATION taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be TEMPTED above that ye are able; but will with the TEMPTATION also make a way of escape, that ye may be able to bear it." 1 Cor. 10:12,13 "If we confess our SINS, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." 1 John 1:9

Answer 10

Maybe my story will help you gain some perspective to answer your question.

My husband separated from me... not at first for another woman, but later a woman who was helping find an apartment who then asked "Would it be cheating on your wife if we had sex?" He said "No". He later says to me "Unlike you I feel comfortable with having sex on the first date."

I'm the wife in this case, I think if she had to ask if it would be cheating she knew very well it was! Perhaps in his case he should have divorced me first and made himself available to her. I think you may already know the answer to your question as well.

Think about it. This woman may be having trouble in her relationship with her husband, you may be fulfilling something she is missing...you also may be loving her more than she is loving you. Reality check, she may not be interested in actually leaving her husband for you... just getting certain needs met. When it comes to affairs one person tends to feel more strongly than the other about the relationship.

I think you should look a little more at what is going on from the outside. I suggest grabbing this book and reading about affairs before putting yourself into an actual physical relationship with her... Torn Asunder by Dave Carder with Duncan Jaenicke Through their study of affairs they have classifed various ones and the problems created by affairs.

The other thing you haven't mentioned is if she is also a Mother... then if you do have an affair with her, you may not only aiding her to damage her marriage but also to future generations.

You are the one responsible for your actions, words, feelings. Maybe you are allowing yourself to go beyond boundaries and limitations you should have to protect yourself in this case. Try looking at the book by Cloud and Townsend called Boundaries. (a later chapter deals specifically with bounderies with oneself).

I think one of these authors has also written a book about getting dates... maybe it is time for you to get some more information and go out with some other women to get some more perspective on relationships as well. It could be the woman you are actually in love with is not this married woman, but your fantasy of her.

My 2 rules of thumb about sinning "It's anything you can do, say, or think that would displease God" and "If I would sin to get something, or sin to keep something, then that something has become my idol... and I have lost focus on God because of it."

I hope you find your answer somewhere in this or at least a start to finding it. I suspect you'll need to know before you act any further on your feelings.