I have sent email to my boy f, which was about "breaking up and healing problems". However, I am not sure when he checks email. Should I send him SMS to ask him to this or just wait ?
If u advice me to send sms, what should I write him: "pls check email" or
"check ur email and answer me, pls straight up" since he is not a straight up person in most cases.
Note: i don't wanna call him.
2006-06-14 22:07:03 · 14 answers · asked by bluesky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
just simple word.
we r finished
end of story.
2006-06-14 22:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by luqman_hakim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it sounds like you don't want to seem to be bugging him. You don't want to call. Are you afraid he will be mad and it'll be an excuse for another fight? Is that why you're sending messages about "breaking up and healing problems"? Best thing might be to give him some space. Let him digest what's happened, absorb the email you've already sent, take some time to consider, and take the initiative to get back to you. In the meantime, consider whether this is the one you want to pin all your hopes on. How old are you? Do you have a life outside this particular relationship? Get on with that, be busy, be interested in other human beings. Be active. And check your own email regularly--not getting frustrated and mad if he doesn't respond right away. A good opportunity to practice patience (something boyfriends & children need lots of). If, after 2-3 weeks, he hasn't gotten back to you, send him another email saying you are assuming the relationship is not very important to him, you're sorry because you like him, but you are moving on with life. Then DO THAT. If you are miserable, is it because you "REEEELY LOVE" him? Or because you didn't control him and you weren't "in charge" of how the relationship went? That's important to understand. This is apparently not the first problem you 2 have had. Maybe it's a sign that there's someone out there much more suited to you that you're supposed to meet.
2006-06-15 08:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by ctfryland 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, these matters should be discussed face to face. Email is a very ineffective method. You can send him an sms saying "check your email, it's urgent (or important)" but he may or may not reply to you.
Plus, he may just get irritated and refuse to respond in this case and you will sit and wonder what to do and will have to call him eventually. Anyway, try it. You could ask him to message to back if he wants to solve your problems and then get together with him and discuss it face to face.
The fact that you want a reply shows me that you are no ready to end your relationship with him and want to give it a chance. I just want to tell you that in this situation, you should listen to your gut not your heart. If you have a friend, ask her to give you a completely unbiased opinion of what you should do further. Sometimes, a 3rd opinion is needed coz emotions prevent you from thinking straight.
Best of luck. I hope things work out for you in the way thats hold your best interest! :)
2006-06-15 05:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by white_falcon21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dealing with him personally as i think if u deal with emails or sms him it will futher lead to miscommunications. Once u speak to him directly, u can also see his reactions and speak to him as the situation arises.
2006-06-15 05:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by its_anoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have communication problems. Try talking to him in person. Don't take his inaction personally though. He may just have many obligations. If online memos are your only type of interaction then you may need to move on. Long distance relationships are strenuous. Relax though.
2006-06-15 05:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to break up with him have the decency to go to his face and tell him. and i am more than sure hes smart enough to write you back if he wants to there is no reason you need to send him a sms to tell him that!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-15 05:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by daniel l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any way you say it, even if you don't want to hurt him, it will hurt him a lot...
whether you say it infront of his face or send it by e-mail or sms...
I guess try sending an sms, it will reach him faster...
2006-06-15 05:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sms him and ask him to meet you and talk to him in person
2006-06-15 08:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by hackmaster_sk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet him in person. Directness is always best.
2006-06-15 07:46:22 · answer #9 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so aggresive towards him? Let him be! You can't force someone to love you!
2006-06-15 07:39:40 · answer #10 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋