would you get involved with a guy that has a child with another woman but is not with her anymore?

Question

The bloke is 22 years old
His son is a year and a half
His ex is 28 years old
Apparantly they didn't get on so its been over for nearly a year.
The woman has a new partner.

Answer 1

If you mean that the ex has a new HUSBAND, I could say that the bloke is divorced from her. However, if there has been no official disconnection between this man and his ex girlfriend other than separation, that son they have is going to be a magnet to bring him back into her life until he is fully grown. They are the parents of a child and will always have that in common. If you have another alternative to romance, you should NOT get involved with him unless you know the exact nature and current status of their relationship and he makes the first move toward socially connecting with you..

Answer 2

Sure. As long as the boundaries are clear. If the guy in question and his ex partner have come to a suitable arrangement with regards to their little one then i don't see where there would be a problem. What i would check out first though is that there is going to be no problem with the new partners being around the kid.. that's usually where allot of the problems spring from.

Answer 3

I am in exactly the same situation, only my man had 2 children with an older woman when we started dating, they had split for 2 yrs, they still talk and see each other because of the kids, she knows about me, she also has a partner, he is crazy about me and i feel the same way for him!!
the point is If you both like each other,and develop trust, the rest is just history!

Answer 4

Yes I would IF he was still in contact with his child. If he is the sort that has walked away from his child I wouldn't touch him with a bargepole!

But if he is a responsible father - pays support for his child and is involved with his child then yes I would get involved.

But remember if you do get involved you are getting a package deal here - father and son not just the man.

Answer 5

S.h.i.t. happens with people's relationships - but my fear would be that at 22 he's got into a relationship and had a kid without thinking about whether the relationship was going to be stable enough to last long enough to bring up a kid - which sorta smacks of immaturity.

Okay, maybe she got pregnant without his consent (which is why he should have been mature enough to be taking his *own* precautions!).

Maybe she said she'd leave him if they didn't have a kid - so he should have left!

In general there's nothing wrong in getting involved with people who have kids - but this particular guy sounds like trouble!

Answer 6

Why not, my partner and I both have a child from a previous relationship and 3 years later our relationship is fine.

Answer 7

He is still young! everyone has 'baggage' and at least if you plan to stay with him the child will grow up with you as a part of his life, more and more people are breaking up now so it is only to be accepted that he has children, GO FOR IT!!! you have nothing to lose x

Answer 8

as long as all is amicable and theres no chacne of you getting dragged into any history, also if you are prepared to keep an open mind too, you will need to remember that there will be times when he wants to see his child and he may have to see his ex in the process

Answer 9

children are just part of life and do not disturb any relationship. Dont worry about his child, if he loves you that is all you should care about and love him back because a child is an independent person.

Answer 10

Get to know the kid..dont get involved with him..in you cant fall in love the child..and treat it as your own. Both the dad..and the kid deserve that.