and say she has to come home when it's only 9 or 10 pm on a Friday or Saturday night? The kids are grown and living at home. They are 18 and 25. They did this many times and she went home, because they said so. She is separated btw....WTF?
2006-06-14 21:35:47 · 10 answers · asked by alysonhell 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are engaged in some kind of power struggle here. They are not kids anymore, but need their mommy? They are either spoiled rotten, or are playing games with the 2 of you. If your gf thinks this is normal, I would forget her. She obviously doesn't know when to focus on her own life. I can see them living with you when they're forty. Scary, isn't it?
Tell your gf to get her priorities straight, or she will lose you.
2006-06-14 21:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the circumstances of why they are calling her home, if they have a valid reason then I think it is fine, family has to come first, and although the kids may be grown, her children still need her, that is only natural. Also it could depend on what your relationship is like with this woman, maybe her children don't like the way you treat her and are just trying to look out for her. Or if I'm completely wrong here and you guys have a great relationship and her grown kids are calling her home for no good reason then you ned to sit down and have a talk with her about how you understand she needs family time, you are understanding and supportive of that, but you need time alone with her also and her kids are going to have to understand and respect that.
2006-06-15 04:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. FairyLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These kids seems to have issues.
What 18 and 25 year olds want thier mum home on a Friday or Saturday night?
It doesnt matter how old they are if they need her they need her but it seems that they are playing games.
This is dangerous ground though. Watch out you dont make it sound like she has to choose between you or her kids because almost every good mother will choose her kids.
Good Luck
2006-06-15 06:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by meowgirl182 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this really bothers you, you should start looking elsewhere, although i have children around the same age i guess i haven't had this experience. have you ever asked her why she still has them living at home- it is time they grow up and get out on their own unless they are gonna live with mommy forever- which is a good possibility since they are already this age-and when did it become ok for a kid no matter what age to direct their parents actions-maybe she is just using that as an excuse to go home for other reasons-like fear of attachment or something-if i had to make this choice i would find someone new that wanted to be with me instead of my grown kids- not that i don't love them- but i sure like them more out of my home!
2006-06-15 04:45:22 · answer #4 · answered by Julie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe her kids is not yet ready for their mom to have a new relationship. better find way to be close to your gf's kids so you'll know the real reason why they're doing it and so next time they will be more trustful to let their mom to be with you late at night.
2006-06-15 04:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by babypards 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To her, her kids seem to be very important to her, and you will just have to respect that decision that she makes. If you truly like/love her then you will continue to let her make her decisions when it comes to her kids. Hang in there because she likes you also.
2006-06-15 04:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run from this relationship like your pants are on fire...
You want nothing to do with a woman whose adult children control her life. Because you will, if you have not already noticed, be dead last on the list. FOREVER.
2006-06-15 04:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, she needs to live her life and they need to be kicked out of the nest and told to fly their asses out and get their own lives. I hate it when parents don't teach their children to take care of themselves.
I would say to evaluate that relationship because you wouldn't want it to get serious and then you end up taking care of them.
2006-06-15 04:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is hiding something, or just got too much baggage, dump her and move on
2006-06-15 04:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she asked them to call, she's not that into you.
or she is waiting for something she wants from you.
2006-06-15 04:40:17 · answer #10 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋