Been dating this girl for almost 3 months, haven't seen her in 3 weeks, due to schedule conflicts, so i started to worry that she has changed her mind about us, text messaged her that i was gonna call a soon as i got out of my meeting to talk, she returned that she was going to be out and would call me when she gets back in. She never called, so I tried to phone her but it went to her answering message, i was annoyed and left a bad message about her not calling, then realised my mistake called her again to apologise also sent a message apologising, I've heard nothing since then, what am i to do?
2006-06-14 20:59:18 · 18 answers · asked by thepassivefighter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you hurt her. The thing about this situation, is you messed with a girl who cared for you and now that you showed her your bad temper, it made her realize that she doesnt need that in her life. Men dont understand that half the reason why women leave them is because they have said something that offends their girlfriends. Girls have mixed emotions that get hurt easily. It seems like you hurt her feelings. Just keep calling, she may or may not answer. But next time you need to listen to her side of the situation first, unstead of jumping to conclusions and yelling at her before you even know why she didnt call back. Good Luck
2006-06-14 21:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes two to tango. If your interested and shes not its best to move on. She did say she would call so its not wrong for you to be upset she did not, as long as your did not go into a rant on her phone a message signaling your unhappy she did not call is not out of line.
Tell her what your thinking and what your worried is happening to the two of you. Once its out to be talked about she will either 1 tell you its just scheduling and things will get better or 2. its over and shes not interested. If she kinda....flops on talking it out back off and let her make the next move. You can't carry things on your own she has to be a partner for things to work.
2006-06-14 21:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by MercyMillennium 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can understand why you left her a bad message. it's really frustrating when you want to talk to someone but his/her phone is off. you can call her until she picks the phone and then talk to her. you can also text message her. keep doing that even if she did not reply your messages. Try to find a chance to talk to her about your feelings and try to work things out. next time if you want to call her, just do it. you don't have to text message her before calling her because girls feel bad if a guy says he will call but somehow he did not call. If you think she's not free to pick the phone then you can leave her a voice message no problem.
good luck.
2006-06-14 21:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by yiub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done all you can, leave the ball in her court, she said she would contact you and didn't - maybe she is trying to tell you something but hasn't got the balls to. You were angry and left a silly message, we have all done that at some point in our life - don't beat yourself up about it. I think you should just move on and forget about this girl for the time being, if she wants to get in touch with you then she will, if she doesn't then she won't. You don't want to look desperate so leave it and see what happens. Good luck.
2006-06-14 21:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by missieclass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say that I think you're right. You have screwed up. If you want to remedy the situation leave it a little while, say a week, then post her a 'sorry' card possibly with flowers and a heartfelt message explaining yourself and apologising sincerely for your clumsy conduct.
If she is still interested, she will get in touch when she is ready.
2006-06-16 05:26:44 · answer #5 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 3 months in is about time for your first couple "bickerin'" as per say, I'd stay calm maybe leave a day to cool off but insist on trying to contact her, I think it's no biggie and you can work through it, but if it doesn't well imo she's overreacting. Good luck anyways and dun get to strung up with the situation, I mean **** happens to all of us and 80% work through it.
2006-06-14 21:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by Blinko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think we have the same problem and we'd did the same things.for me,the outcome is bad and I felt like i'm at the end of the world.It depend on what type of women she is.In my case,she's a kind of big heart women who sometimes take things as big deal and sometimes not.she told me that i'm really annoying.I think your girl needs some space in her life or didn't have much commitment in your relationship.keep calling her,i think it's not good idea but like i said,it depend.just leave her alone for period of time.If you trust her and really want your relationship keep going,have some faith for her.If not,you can start a new life with somebody else.
2006-06-14 23:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by loooserrr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her some flowers and a card saying "I am really sorry I screwed up, please forgive me and give me another chance to show you how special you are to me". Or something along those lines, let her know you have been an idiot and are sorry for it. Then take her out somewhere, it does not have to be a posh dinner, make up a picnic and sit somewhere quiet with her to talk. Good luck!!
2006-06-14 21:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Concentrate on your work. No girl wants a skint man. Be good at what you do and the gals come running. She will come around if she is not too late
2006-06-14 21:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by thecharleslloyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying to get a hold of her - can you not even turn up at her work or send her flowers??
If you really want her then go get her!!
2006-06-14 21:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋