My son has been biting kids at his preschool. It started when he was bitten by another kid at his school. Any ideas on how to deal with this? I don't believe in spanking him.
2006-06-14 20:30:41 · 15 answers · asked by Jen 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
What a good mommy you are! I don't believe in spanking either. I have taught preschool for 12 years and this is what I do when a child bites or hurts. First I have the parent stay close by the school after they drop the child off. As soon as their child hurts, I phone her right away and they come and get their child. I have them tell their child "If you are going to hurt someone at school, then you can't be there." The parent then has a very boring day with the child. Sometimes I have the parent keep them home another day and tell their child why they can't go that day. It works! The children want to be at school and soon learn not to hurt others.
Try empathizing with your son after the incident. Say "You must have been really (mad, frustrated, angry, upset) when you bit "John." What can you do next time instead of biting?" He will learn to express his feeling rather than bite.
If you can, go and observe his preschool. When you see him bite another child, rush you that child and emphasize A LOT. "That must have hurt! You must be so mad!" Shut your son out. He will not like the feeling of being left out. You can also have the hurt child say to him "I don't want to play with you if you are going to hurt me!" It is a very powerful message when coming form another child. Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-06-15 09:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
isolating him when he gets aggressive like this...and the teacher should be right there to do that. He only needs to be isolated for a really short period of time...like a minute for every year of age he is. Don't allow him to do this even in a play fashion at home. If he is bitten at school and the skin is broken he should be taken to the hospital right away there are shots needed to prevent certain types of infections caused by human bites and the shots are only effective if done in the first few hours (this includes HIV which kids are being born with every day). make sure his teacher knows this for other children as well
2006-06-14 20:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by micki_g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely ignore that person and DO NOT bite him back! This is not an eye for an eye here. Jeez!
My oldest bit me once, and it hurt like heck! I told him it hurt mommy and not to do it again, he only did it a few times- never bit anyone at school though, neither of my kids, but my youngest was severely attacked by another child biting. I'd remove my kids if either of them were doing that, until they learned the proper behavior. And I know that sounds crazy because you work for a living and cant just quit your job, but maybe take a few days off and spend time with them to teach them not to do it. As a parent of a child who had over 15 bite marks from ONE child in ONE attack (seriously looked like an animal attacked him)...please- do whatever it takes to stop this habit.
2006-06-15 04:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by momfof2boys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do about this particular situation because it is a very common stage for toddlers, especially toddlers who spend time in preschools. It is one of those things that you have to distract from and always be sure to make it clear that this is something you don't endorse. Distraction is always good, but remember, children at this age are exploring and playing and investigating while they "play", and this "play" may or may not include biting other children, to see their reaction. Explain to them in a simple fashion that "we" do not touch other children, and we especially don't bite them because we don't want to hurt them and make them cry.
2006-06-14 20:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by KiWi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the preschool has different classrooms for different ages, it might help to move him up to the next class, a little early. My nephew was a biter in day care when he was in the early two's room, and they moved him up to the older two-year-old room where the kids were a little bigger. Once he was in that room where everyone was bigger than him, he stopped biting.
2006-06-15 06:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by angelsister23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to bite too, my mom says I stopped the moment someone bit me back. Mind you I used to bite other children, and I was bitten by an adult.
2006-06-14 20:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by Seerah327 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have difficulty providing negative feedback to your child. There are non-violent ways to discipline your child. Make them stand in the corner with their eyes to the wall for five minutes or take away priviledges. When they kick and scream, DO NOT relent. Your child is testing the limits of what he/she can get away with. If they know negative reaction will make you crumble then they will continue with the negative behavior because they have a get out of jail free card.
When my toddler said bad language he picked up at school after me telling him not to, I washed his mouth out with dish soap. I used the same tactic when he started kicking his cousin and the behavior stopped. Be strong and fair.
2006-06-14 20:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by The Oregon Kid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully the kid that bit your son was appropriately disciplined and was made to apologized to your son. Since you don't believe in spanking, likely you have some other method to keep him civilized --- i would make him aware of the nicer privileges that he enjoys if he behaves and begin to remove those privileges when he misbehaves and make him aware that it's up to him to either keep his nice privileges by behaving correctly or losing them by doing bad things
2006-06-14 20:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 22:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Warn him that if he bites anyone again, then he will have to brush his teeth with soap when he gets home. Then follow through with the warning, and he shouldn't do it again, after the first brushing, if he remembers how awful it tastes! Good Luck
2006-06-14 20:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by April 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋