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Question

Hi eveyone...
First,please apologize for my wrong grammar.This is my problem.
I knew a girl 6 months ago.She just came back from oversea and she is 1 of my colleague in my workplace.I thought to be friends with her but her words,she always giving me hope.She told me that she broke up with her man just before flew back here.I'm very excited when she said that we could be together since it's my first time having a relationship with girls.We have a lot of great moments together and we share a lot in common.
But everything become chaos 3 month later.She went to college to pursued her studies miles away from me.I felt lost and futhermore i have problem trusting people.I always put her into hard situation and she can't stand anymore.It's not my intentions,really,coz i want to maintain our relationship as I'm afraid losing someone I really love.I know it's my fault but it's too late,she left me.
What should I do?I really love her and hope to be the one put the ring into her finger.

Answer 1

Talk to her and tell her that all you want to do is to maintain your relationship and you have no intention to hurt her feelings. Show to her how sorry you are like send her a sorry note like "I'm sorry, could we kiss and make up?". Or you can send her flowers with a note. After doing all the possible means to win her back again and didn't happen,,,, well,,, I must tell you,,,, just let her go. Maybe you are really not meant for each other. We must learn how to accept things whether it is good or bad and learn a lesson from it. Don't push yourself too much to get her again because the more you do that, the more she would resist it. All you need to do is to stay nice to her and be friends with her. That way, there would be no pressure to you and to her too. If she comes back to you, then you are lucky because you might probably are meant to be.
Are you a Christian? If yes, then remember this.... "God will never leave you empty. He will replace everything you lost. If He ask you to put something down, it's because He wants you to pick up something greater."

Answer 2

As you said that she is your 1st serious relationship, I would say that you will always have a special place in your heart for her, but the long-distance thing rarely works (trust me, I^ve done it) and usually ends badly through cheating, or just growing apart. Leading different lives in different cities means that you can't share the day to day dramas of their life, and as such you will both find other people to confide in (not necessarily in a romantic way) I know it must be hard to hear, but I would cut your losses now, and try and move on. There are pleanty more fish in the sea (ie women closer to home) and she will not be the only woman you will ever fall in love with, although it may feel like that at the moment. Learn from the mistakes you have made in this relationship, and try and make a conscious effort to change, so that when you meet someone new, you will not repeat these trust-related problems.
Chin-up, and good luck.

Answer 3

Well if she is indeed your first love it's special for many reasons. And unlike what that one guy said you need to try to win her back. You need to tell her all of this. And you need to try to trust her a little more. I know it's hard to trust people, but if you really love her you have to do it. Remember if it was meant to be it will be though and if it isn't the right person is out there somewhere for you. Good Luck and Best Wishes

Answer 4

You have to learn to trust people. If you are questioning her every time she is not with you then this is not going to help your relationship. You cannot shut her away and stop her from going out or pursuing her career because all you will do is make her resent you. You have to give her some space and be supportive of her in her efforts to better herself. Also you say you want her to marry you, i feel you may be rushing things with her a little. Take it slower or you are going to chase her away.

Answer 5

First things in life are very hard to forget and even sometimes not in whole lifetime. As you told it is first for you not for her. Whatever happened it has a reason behind it. So keep moving life is not stopping and looking back. It is correcting your mistakes and moving forward with positive note.

Now you are started and get going find a new one and express your feelings towards her and it will heal all your wounds.

Answer 6

Well,I hear you and I urge you keep contact her if you still know where she is.Do not give up hope yet.Take it easy and keep in touch with her.Meanwhile,you need to take care yourself and try to get back with her as soon as you can.Trust is the most hardest and important thing you need to learn from relationship and if she is yours she will be yours in case of faith.I know how you feel for her but you need to make her appreciate your love by writing,text messaging,send her flower and say sorry for not trusting her.At the same time,you need to pamper your soul and keep your hope alive.Come back and tell me more about your progress.

Answer 7

GO to where she is put the ring on her finger. GO to the justice of the peace.OR move to where she is. YOU KNOW TRUE love dont come by every day,myfriend.

Answer 8

wow, that's an amazing story....i'm sooo damn sorry for ya.....:'(....i know waht u feel in this moment and i think i agree with the answer with the ring...but first, ask her out as soon as she gets out of college for holidays and get her to a romantic restaurant...then, you propose to her by putting the ring under her glass of wine/juice/champagne etc....that's the PERFECT proposal, I say!

Answer 9

This is a first for you, you feel it is everything. This was just another relationship for her. She has moved on. You need to also despite the pain.

Answer 10

hey you confused don't try to confuse others.

my suggestions
please learn to write your problem in a consize manner, then you expext to get good answers