My wife leaves the house and goes to the store dressed to the hilt......?

Question

She comes home 5 hours later with a loaf of bread,, carring her dress under her arm, haired messed up with a smile on her face that a mortitian couldn't wife off. She came to bed and moaned and whimpered a guys name all night. we got up the next moring and she made 3 phonecalls and whispered the whole time.
I see now, where she wrote a check for $21,000.00 for a new car, but it's no where around. She claims it was just a B-Day gift for a friend.

Now, I'm not paranoid, but, this just seems just a little bit fishy.
I Think I love her so much. Should I stop worring?

Answer 1

Do you really need to ask this? it's obvious she's cheating.

Answer 2

It does sound fishy.
If I were you, I would not let on that you suspect ANYTHING.
I would hire a private detective, armed with a video camera and have her followed.

I know that sounds harsh but look at this way. You're miserable right now, not knowing if she's cheating or not.

I would want the opportunity to find out, if I were you.
If she's innocent, then that will make you feel very happy.
If she's guilty, then you know, that what YOU did was a LOT less
evil.

It sounds like you can afford a P.I.

I would do it for peace of mind.

She may be innocent.......Who knows?
It sure smacks of infedelity to me though.

The messed up hair. Her whispering on the phone.
Saying another guys name?
Purchasing an expensive car for a friend? Who DOES that?
I'll bet Donald Trump doesn't even do that.
Her carrying her dress in her hand?

She might as well carry a sign, advertising it.

I think she is being snotty, waving this in your face.

Get a detective. Find out, once and for all.

I don't know if you have the franchise where you live, called "Check-A-Mate, but that is their specialty. They find out for you, if your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend, is cheating.
They are less expensive than a regular private detective but something tells me, money wouldn't be a problem.

Do what you have to do so you can go on with your life, happily.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

This story sounds like a complete lie. First off, if these signs were real, you wouldn't be asking if you should stop worrying... you'd be asking how to get the heck out of there. And money or not, no one writes a check for 21,000 dollars, claims it was a b-day gift of a car to a friend, and gets believed. Especially if they didn't let their husband in on it. Last, you say it seems fishy... no, it's screaming in your face... she's doing some other guy... maybe a couple. I don't know, it just sounds like a made for tv movie that I don't want to watch.

Answer 4

If its freaking you out that much (I think it would freak out anybody!), you should talk to her. Tell her about all the things you've mentioned and tell her what the situation seems like to you. Try your best not to make it seem very harsh because she might just end up being defensive and feeling hurt (that is, If she's innocent). If she brushes it off, tell her how it makes you feel when she behaves the way she does and that this issue should be dealt with at the beginning rather than putting it off till its too huge to solve. Suggest marriage conselling.
If none of this appeals to her and she seems totally disinterested, then its time for you to think about other options. Hope it works out ok. Good Luck!

Answer 5

If you expect to form anything lasting with anyone, you have to be honest about your feelings and heart with that person in a reasonable way, open up. If you get real she'll have to too, and if not then you're better off without her in the end. Doesn't mean it's not going to suck, but know you'll improve through learning new and sometimes difficult lessons. My personal opinion, if you want it is this: All the signs are pointing to one way, your hunch and instinct point that way too. 99% of the time, that ends up being correct. I'm sorry but you might want to move on, leave selfish yet naive people behind you...make sure to remember that energies are conserved by our actions, reactions, & karma.

Good luck,
Ian

Answer 6

So she leaves you, she takes a whole crap load of cash and claims it to be a birthday present, she moans another mans name and makes secret phone calls? It's not fishy dude, you know what's happening and you're refusing to believe it because you still have feelings for this woman. Learn to realize what she's actually doing to you! Is it worth it? to stay with a woman who obviously doesn't love YOU anymore, she cheats, lies and betrays you. Do what's right and find the real love of your life.

Answer 7

Oh, I'm sorry, it was hard for me to type for a minute because I was laughing so hard at your obvious stupidity. If you're going to make a post like this, you should at least delete other threads where you ask what to do WHEN YOUR WIFE LEAVES YOU.

But just for future reference....that fake missing $21,000? We call it an "escape fund". You'll learn that word one day if you ever actually get married.

Answer 8

know what there's a reason for you to worry well make some investigation now..I am not suggesting you will stalk her but if you think something fishy around there well don't waste your time before its too late..don't be stupid your wife starting to make you look like that...please act now before you will be surprise of whats really happening...I am a girl too...

Answer 9

Not just a little bit fishy mate. You should check this out.

Answer 10

Appoint a detective and let him follow her and give you the correct scene , if she is doing something wrong then divorce her. If not love her more and stop worrying.

Answer 11

You know what, it wouldn't hurt to tail her one time. It really wouldn't. Then again, it seems almost totally obvious she's playing the field.