He is always nagging and asking questions, never lettng me breathe or want to be alone. Always wanting constant attention. If not we argue and I threaten to break up where he goes physco on me, yelling and going to my house urging attention and hearing him out and contacting with my mother and getting her in the situation. How do I move on without having to regret my decision... I want to be independent. Though I know he's having hardships, i want to be there for him but as much as it hurts to be in this chaotic relationship, i don't know what to do.
2006-06-14 20:03:08 · 6 answers · asked by Ayla A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfren is my backbone too. I stay alone & i only hav him 4 everything. He is also naggy & i hav 2 ask permission 2 even go out wit my colleagues 4 lunch. Try explaining 2 him tat tis is not the rite way 2 show luv. Tel him 2 control his anger. Tats wat i do 2 my bf. Now he is little better. Its gd 2 b independent. Sit down & talk 2 him, it may bring gd outcome.
2006-06-14 20:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by ViNNzZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take care of you. I have been in a couple of those relationships and once you are out of the situation you will feel very good about your decision and you WILL feel that the whole thing was a waste of you precious time. Life is what you make it and if you are going to allow such drama and madness in to your life you need a reality check. By the way someone that behaves in that way has a mental illness. How do I know this other than the physiology credit, I had to drop one boyfriend off at the mental hospital to get out of that situation, the other threatened to kill my family. That one sounds like your boyfriend when it comes to the whole atention thing. (Look at me ,I'm a monkey) Its so pathetic. Of cource you don't want to hurt him and your heart will probly hurt more than his.How do I survive you ask? You survive because you don't have a choice. I promise in a few days you will already be feeling much better. Time is the secret and it isn't much time. Life has its hard times then it has its great times. Once you get down its coming time for things to get better again. Your life has enough drama to deal with a mentally ill persons drama and they have so much more. Dating is about getting to know someone, If you detect a crazy then don't comit to him. Learn how to date. Try reading Dateworthy. You need to find out how so you don't get yourself in another perdicament like this. The one that said he would kill my family, I ended it with him by telling him it was over and never answering another phone call from him again. It took him a month and half to get it threw his thick skull but' finally got the picture. If boyfriend comes to the house tell him you want nothing more to do with him, be cold (do not open the door, it will only go bad) tell him he has 10 seconds to leave( if he doesn't leave) or you will call the cops. If he doesn't leave you have to call the police. No bullshiting or being a pussy they will only make him leave.A man with a gun will give him a reality check and hopefully some crazy pills, which crazy people love to stop their meds. You have to get out of this relationship before he hurts you or someone I love. And I would be damned if he would bring my momma in to it, and you need to handle your ****. Good luck, you will be ok and he will be too.
2006-06-14 21:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just move on. No one want to date a crazy guy. Just keep on looking for a nnice, sweet guy who is mentally stable. The last thing u need to do is take care of a mentally unstable person, tell him to go see a doctor and move on. Woman have enough drama in our lives. U dont need this in your life.
2006-06-14 20:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetcheeks1982 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
better get out of this now, before somebody gets hurt namely U. You need to be ur own backbone. Learn to depend on yourself and God. Get out, stop the drama. This guy needs real help and u can't help him. His problems go really deep.
2006-06-14 20:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by murphysmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing to do with him. it is about u. u re not fine with yourself and that's why u re afraid to be alone. with yourself. u need a man , even that lousy and useless but a man. u will still remain in this crap because u do not love yourself. try some self help books. when u will love yourself trust me everybody will love u and u will find a perfect man. cos yours is crappy
2006-06-14 20:14:39 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a psycho and I think you should leave if you feel uncomfortable around him. Talk to him and TRY to let him down easily. GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-14 20:08:16 · answer #6 · answered by tantalizin1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋