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Verbal/emotional abuse? Sometimes I wonder if I got a little share of that growing up, or if it was normal for a mom to scream at you for little things?

2006-06-14 19:56:28 · 10 answers · asked by genuine♥ 3 in Health Mental Health

I'm not mad at my mom, I don't blame her... I'm just wondering...

2006-06-14 20:09:00 · update #1

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Well, put it this way. It depends on what she was screaming at you for, and what words she used. For example, If you came home past curfew one night, and she said (even screaming) "You are late ! You had me so worried, You are grounded for a week" Thats not verbal abuse. On the other hand, screaming " I knew you would be late, You can't be trusted, you are a nuisance to my life, I can't wait to not have to deal with your stupidity anymore, If you were 18 I'd throw you out" That is definitely verbal abuse. See what I mean? Try to remember your Mom probably really loves you, and is only human. Also, remember that you do not deserve to be verbally abused by anybody. I heard someone say once, that if you are in a relationship with anyone, and find yourself feeling crazy, and having no idea who is wrong or right, and wonder if you are being verbally/emotionally abused, chances are you are. Keep your head up.

2006-06-14 20:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

I think there's a big difference between "God dadmn it kid, get them skates off the stairs, are you stupid?" and "God damn it kid, you're so stupid, you;ll never amount to anything". Seems like a graphic way to illustrate the problem but every parent sometimes shouts at his/her kid and looses patience. Thankfully very few patrents (I hope) put time and effort into making their kid feel small and useless. My mom would always shout at me when I did something wrong, but my dad spent most of his time telling me I was useless even when I hadn't done anything. I think nine times out of ten if something your parent/s did made you feel less of a person then you were probably into the 'emotional abuse' sector ... but it all works by degrees. It very much depends on how you feel as an adult and how you are able (or not) to deal with it.

2006-06-17 22:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Depends on how little, but generally your parent shouldn't scream at you unless she's telling you to jump from your second story window because the house is on fire.

You learned by example. Now that you realize that that isn't what is good and normal, you'll change your own behavior if faced with that situation.

We all manage to accept verbal and emotional abuse from those we care about, but we shouldn't overexpose ourselves to it. Generally it is abuse when it is intentionally used to demean, discourage, negatively manipulate, or eviscerate you. Good luck with finding resolution.

2006-06-15 03:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by iniyaitza 3 · 0 0

It is not right to scream at children , all problems can be handled with understanding and listening. It is a shame our society continues to perpetuate the abuse.

2006-06-15 03:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No screaming is not normal. I was emotionally abused as well and if you have to ask then you don't have to ask if ya know what I mean :o). It can be hard but move past it, life awaits.

2006-06-15 03:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by kissmymindagain 3 · 0 0

well... everyone's parents get angry. I mean, we ALL have said things we didn't mean. but not all the time! I'd say emotional abuse would be consistent verbal and psychological torment - ie, every day, every few days. perception DOES matter, too, though...

2006-06-15 03:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by carolynnnna 3 · 0 0

emotional abuse can be any thing that leaves the receiver feeling **** about themselves
but you have to decide whether to let it affect you or not

2006-06-15 03:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by Fire Freak 1 · 0 0

hullo
you should consider amends with your mother,though she have no right to be harsh with you.
try to solve conflicts with her by talking in a rational way.

Dr.solo

2006-06-15 03:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by baghdadcatcash 4 · 0 0

Telling someone demeaning things about themselves.

Telling them, they're fat, ugly, no one loves them,etc. That sorta thing.

2006-06-15 03:01:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

if some one an asshole

2006-06-15 03:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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