(black people only please)?

Question

I am white. I just met a black guy that is totally dateworthy. We are going on a date. I don't consider myself racist but I don't really want to have children with a black man and its because I want my children to look like me. I think it is the vanity in me and I am not happy I feel this way. I don't know if my feelings might change. The gentalman is 35 years old and I am 24.
I don't want to have children for a very very long time anyway but, I am just wondering if me feeling that way would make it wrong for me to go out with him? I know it's just a date but, I don't want to do him wrong in any way, shape or form. Also do you think the age difference is to much? Anyway can you please give me some advice and anything you feel like sharing? Thanks for the help.

Answer 1

WELL I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD CANCEL THE DATE

Answer 2

Well...personally I think that is a stupid reason for not dating somebody,but it's your choice and if your vanity means that much to you, then don't date him, it's that simple. Personally, I think you're using the vanity thing as an excuse. You may not know it, but there is probably another reason why you are scare of dating this man.
However, the whole I want my children to look like me thing, if you had children with this man, your children could still look like you. My mother is black and my father is white. I look like a white girl, but people always come up to me and say how much I look like my mother.

Answer 3

To be gentle with you...the age difference and his race are not the problem. Your lack of maturity is. When I was 19, I met and then married a b/m (I'm a w/f). He was 20 years older than me. He had two children from a previous marriage, both of whom came to live with us. I had two biological children with him. Two of those children went to college, and two went to the Navy. In total, I now have 4 incredible adult children, 7 phenomenal grandchildren, and even a great-grandson. After a long illness, my husband passed on a month ago. I will forever love and be grateful to him for all he gave me. Now 45, I doubt there will be another man in my life, as it's unlikely I'd ever be gifted this way again. When you grow out of the shallowness that requires your children to be replicates of you, perhaps you'll be ready to accept the right man into your life, regardless of things as trivial as race or age.

Answer 4

It's just a date. Who ever said you had to have children by him? If you did have kids by a black man, so what! The looks of you children do not depend on your race but on which parent has the stronger genes. So what's the difference. If you got pregnant by a white, chinese, japanese or whatever, if that man's genes are more dominant than yours, that child will look like him and not you. And as for the age, it ain't nothing but a number, both of you are adults.

Answer 5

You don't need to even date him if you feel like that .I bet that would hurt his feelings if you told him that. So he is good enough to date for now,,,but you are not sure if you are going to want to have children by a black man right? Well, seems to me taht you have set your future up for failure for yourself with this man. Age doesn't matter. And if he winds up being the man you actually,truly fall in love with then,it won't matter if he was blue,green or pink, you will want to create and share anything with him. Your feelings may change but don't go misleading this man if you see it developing into much more than a simple relationship, you will see how your mind develops to love this man for whatever reason, you might want to have this man be the father of your children...color won't matter,,,,if it is true love sweetie!!!!!!!!You'll see

Answer 6

I think you are a confused lil girl...
Children are not jewlery ..You cant pick them out or what they are gonna look like.... You should have kids with the man you love , you shouldnt have kids with a mans race..Even if you did have kids with a caucasian dont necessarily mean they will look like you ...I know you said black people only to replie but thats racist against whites and i'm white and i'm gonna replie so sue me . My husbands 1/2 mexican and i met him 9 years ago and it never crossed my mind i would have a son with him who would be very tan and look like daddy and not me..You think to far in the future and you just need to roll with life and not try to pre plan it

Answer 7

if u don't want him just tell him.why you wast his time?u wast his and Ur's time.u can hate black people that is Ur opinion .but u have no a power to touch the the black mind! ,think what u say to him.see the opposite side if u are black girl and u have a white boyfriend then if he didn't want a child with u so what do u feel he tell u this thing?so don't tell him u don't want child for him if u don't want just live him don't wast his time.i am not tell u, Ur's idea is good if u want try to change Ur racist opinion u can change.

Answer 8

your kid will still look like you even though it might have darker skin. also, once you've been going out with this person for a while, you might feel differently. and it is you first date, you probably don't even have to worry about it. i don't know about the age difference, as long as you get along and have plenty in common, i think it is ok. you children will be beautiful, don't worry so much.

Answer 9

well im not gonna say anything...but my aunt who was a beautiful asian woman married this black guy. they had been together for 7 years & married for a year. when the subject of kids came up my aunt freaked & realized she did not want to have kids that looked like this man! its not that he was ugly...he was decent looking...

but its been almost 7 years since they split....and he's still heart broken over it....so think about it first before dumping this guy...never know how he might take it.

my bf is black (well half balck & white) but hes fairly light skinned. & i would love my kids to look like me but when u love someone you'd be just as happy if ur kids looked like ur partner :)

good luck 2 u

Answer 10

I think you should cancel as well, if his a s s is 35 and nt settled or involved with someone by now he has a problem. 9/10 he's full of s h i t, and just wants your money or a kinky god time. Trust me save yourself the trouble. It takes another black woman to know if a black man is just full of it, because we all know our kind.

Answer 11

i am a black guy who has dated many girls of many races and you not wanting to have children with him, well maybe you should tell him that and see what he says. if you can't say it to his face then something is wrong and maybe you need to think about why you wanna date in the first place look at what is motivating your decissions and go from there