I have had the date set for my vow renewal for 2 years, my sister decided she wants her wedding 2 weeks before mine with the same colors I already chose and I have already bought all the dresses. Am I right for asking her to respect the fact our wedding has been planned or is she right because she is marrying for the first time?
2006-06-14 19:18:25 · 7 answers · asked by Shadow Kat 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
your sister is obviously very jealouse of you and insecure. she is a total *****. that is so wrong of her to do that to you. and give me a break, the same damn colors. she has some ******* nerve she is a wedding crasher hore. im pissed. that is so messed up. tell her how you feel bring her to lunch and tell her that this is the most important day for you and anyone . have some respect.
2006-06-14 19:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by BB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither. Far too often people get hung up on color schemes and decorations. I'll tell you a secret. People don't notice.
It's very rare that someone will pick up too weddings using the same colors if they aren't using the exact same decorations. Try to coordinate with your sister so things stay just different enough to be unnoticed. You could also ask her to swap colors so your primary would be her secondary and your secondary would be her primary. That way things look very different and any who does notice will see that the colors were swapped.
Overall, don't worry too much about it. If it still bothers you then talk with your sister about it and ask her to either move the date to allow more time between or to change just one of the colors. Compromise.
But yes, it's a little rude that she is doing this after you have already made all the plans.
2006-06-15 02:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by jjbeard926 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there is nothing wrong with the 2 week difference or the common color deal. You could try talking to her and maybe compromising....one of you gets the color or one of you gets the date. Or maybe do a double wedding? Okay, just joking about the last part, but keep in mind that this is family you're talking about and blood is thicker than water. Good luck - I know this one will be a little hard to sort out but it will all work out in the end (it always does when it comes to family)
2006-06-15 02:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by KiWi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter? (just a question) it shouldn't really matter, but if you feel strongly about the situation then I would tell her how you feel (just be prepared that she might say that she still wants this date, in this case you have to decide whether to keep the date or move it, no you shouldn't have to move the date) If it feels like she is copying you, then make sure you keep all of your plans to yourself! Sorry this happened to you, but something always goes wrong in the wedding process.
2006-06-15 08:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if your sister had any concern at all then she would have already taken into consideration that you wedding is about the same time and she would also not have the same colors as you...to me that would be like both of you being pregnant and due around the same time and her wanting to name her baby the same...like she may be trying to take your glory..
2006-06-15 02:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by lelamae939 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jump on this and resolve the conflict. Talk to your sister. My sister in law just did the same thing to me. I was too afraid to talk to her and now there are hurt feelings. Don't let colors come between you. Maybe she can choose a shade lighter or darker. Good luck.
2006-06-15 03:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by bksrgreat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are absolutley right. talk to her. if you were the first one to plan the wedding, and you've got everything set up, it's not very kind of her to interfere unless she didn't know about your wedding.
2006-06-15 02:21:39 · answer #7 · answered by sportzgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋