I just got back with my ex of 2 yrs. Lived together for 10 mths. Did the whole break and get back while still together. Moved out 2 months ago. Didnt talk for 3 weeks but got back 2gether. He didnt asked me back but we just talked. He said tt the reason we broke up becuz i didnt give him space. What does it mean when a bf wanted space? He wasnt as affection as before and when i asked for it, he keep saying, dont pushed me for it. Dont force me to give u when i dont feel like it. How do i know if he wants the relationship seriously as opposed to just coz im there? I know he is going thru some rough patch in life. I just want to be a good girlfriend and hopefully get back some of the fun and loving person he used to be. He also said that its healthier for the relationship if we just see each other once or twice a week. Is he seeing someone else? I ever question him if he ever cheated and he firmly said no and he respected me enough not to do that.
2006-06-14 19:05:23 · 19 answers · asked by waterlily55 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave him alone. Obviously he's needing other things than a relationship. He has nothing againts you and a person doesn't need that as a reasonable explanation for a break-up.
He has developed other needs that are much more pressing for him now.
Can you help him with that?
No.
Does he want you to help?
Yes.
You know how?
Stay away.
Is he seeing someone else? Maybe. Doesn't mean he likes this person. Means he's unfocused right now. If he's telling you it's better to see each oher twice a week, that means he want's to see you on his terms. That's not a relationship. Do yourself a favor; stay away and move on.
2006-06-14 19:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by monkeymustard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a very intelligent person -- and I know it may seem like this guy is the only one for you. But it sounds like he's... a real douche bag. From the sound of it, I would suspect that he is, in fact, seeing someone else -- or at least getting a little on the side. If he wants space, then give him SPACE. ie, let the guy go and move on. You can do better. The relationship has been off-and-on, as you said, so it's clearly not meant to be. Good luck with your decision. Only YOU can figure it out in the long run. Be safe, and take care of yourself.
2006-06-14 19:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by Soledad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the problem started when you moved in together. Maybe that was a little much for him. It sounds as though he still wants to be with you, but probably wants to have his freedom as well. Guys tend to freak out when they feel as though they have to answer to their girlfriend or cant do as they wish when they want to. If he doesn't want to be as affection as before maybe it is because something about him has changed, like you said, maybe the rough patch in his life has effected how he is towards you. In this case, I would probably back off a little. Let him have his space. Maybe you should try talking to him about how it hurts you so much that he is like this towards you and then truly listen to what he has to say. Sometimes people just want to be heard.
2006-06-14 19:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by just_a_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl,... you deserve someone who wants you to be their number one,... and the only one. For him to keep asking you for space and not to crowd him it seems like he is trying to create a space for someone else and keep his options open by not letting you get toooo close and tooo clingy. Realize that he is not the only man and although you may want a man don't settle for just ANY man. You need to tell you need to be number one or nothing and don't let him make all the decisions let him know what you want and what you will Not stand for. Remember believe people when they show you who they are the first, time. If you have to ask if he is cheating he probably is and if you feel that way no matter if he is or not you need to move on.
2006-06-14 19:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it is good to have breaks if you get to used to seeing ppl u might get bored w/ the relationship! maybe thats his prob.!but if even through breaks he remains to push you away then he probably is seeing someone else or he is hiding something! he shouldn't make you second guess his luv 4 u! bc if you luv some1 and want to be with them then there shouldn't be doubts newhere in the relationship. if he really cares and wants to make this work then you and him should sit down and talk about the way you both feel!-put all the cards on the table if u know what i'm saying- if he refuses this convo then maybe it's not meant! there is someone out there 4 everybody and as bad as you probably want it to be him it might not be and maybe this is a sign that he's not the one and it's time to move on!
2006-06-14 19:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is gradually distancing himself from you.
He doesn't sound like he wants a serious relationship right now.
If he isn't cheating on you, he might as well be. His heart just isn't in it.
He obviously can't be honest with you. Whatever he says, I would take it with a grain of salt.
Healthier relationship if you just see each other once or twice a week? What a load of "you know what." That is a lie and he's a liar.
He could be cheating on you but he would NEVER admit it.
You can't trust him.
Find yourself someone who deserves you and leave this guy behind.
This relationship would always be built by lies.
2006-06-14 19:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my expertise for those who don't seem to be collectively there's a excellent motive and i think that if she doesn't wish to be greater than buddies with you then simply move on. It's tough but you can do higher. Go to find someone that you don't have to persuade. However from the sounds of it it isn't this woman. And you are younger. If it can be supposed to be then it's going to be simply again off and see what happens.
2016-08-08 22:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, at this point, it would be a good idea to move on with your life. I understand that he is going through some things, but that does not justify the way that he has chosen to treat you. If things did not work out the first time, they will not work out now. He has made it clear that he has found someone else. Don't stick around and continue to get hurt. Love yourself enough to let him go.
2006-06-14 19:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, he wants space. Get the heck out and get your self esteem back! He's not being fully truthful with you and is just trying to wean you off him slowly instead of being honest by telling you straight out that it's over. He's a coward who just wants to avoid the unpleasantness of ending it so he keeps you thinking there's a chance.
If he only wants to see you once or twice a week he's probably out there looking for your replacement already.
Get on with your life, find someone who wants to be with you 'cause this guy DOESN'T.
2006-06-14 19:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i think you should just move on if he only wants to see you 1 or2xs a WEEK is it just for a boody call I think you already wasted 2 years move on and stop suffering you'll find someone much better and if he does truly LOVE YOU get the RING!!!
2006-06-14 19:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋