My bipolar daughter is very fertile and won't use birth control and has 5 kids and is only 24, what can I do?

Question

She drops the babies, won't change them, leaves then alone at night and alone in the car, and I don't want to hurt her but they are not safe, not sure what to do. She says she is not sure who the fathers are but I think I know at least two of them. They were actually customers of mine at one time.

Answer 1

She probably takes after her wh*re mom.

Deal with it, you bigot.

Answer 2

Dear Worried Mom You Need To Get Some Help For Your Daughter She Could Hurt One Of The Children She Does Not Understand What She Is Doing.You Love Her And The Children To But You Have To Draw The Line. She Might Get Angry At First But In The Long Run You'll Be Glad You Did And So Will She.Talk To A Child Welfare Worker Or A Therapist. As Far As Your Daughter Not Taking Birth Control Maybe You Can Consult Her Doctor And They Can Try And Help Her Understand.

Answer 3

Call the department of children and family services in your area. If the children are left alone at night or in a car it is not a safe situation for the children. I know you love her, but you need to focus on the children. If she's only 24 with 5 children, you better be prepared to be a grandma to lots of grandchildren. At that rate, she can easily have another 5 by the time she's 30!!!

Answer 4

I have a 10 yr old that is Bi-Polar, my biggest fear is when he get older he will have problems like your daughter. Call social services and have them do a welfare check on her and the children, especially at nite when you know the children are home alone, she may speculate that you arethe one that called them but they are not safe to be home alone, and futher more her not changing there diapers that cause diaper rashes and infections thats not good for them either!! U are the grandmother that loves her grandchildren dont worry about your daughter right now you have to worry about the babies. If my son that is BiPolar had children that he was not taking care of then my husband and I would first take custody of the children then worry about getting him the help that he needs, I know that you can force a adult to take there meds or help themselves but once her chilkdren are gone and she relizes why she lost them then maybe she will try to help herself especially if she really loves her children. It sounds to me like her meds are not under control or she is not taking them at all but someone needs to step in and be the adult, because we both know that right now she cannot make her own desions.
Good Luck

Answer 5

holy Sh*t!!! you have a real problem there! That is so sad because you don't want to hurt your daughter, but at the same time, she is hurting herself more (and her kids).
You can't really force someone on birth control, especially someone that is 24. I think the only solution (which I know you won't do- too much work for you) is maybe try to get custody of them yourself, and tell her that "if you can't take care of them, I'll have too". But then she'll just have more & more so she can take care of hers lol
Damn, that's hard~ talk to her bipolar doctor!!
Good luck
Sometimes.. you just have to let your kids make their own.. HUGE.. mistakes

Answer 6

You have to consider the safety of these children first. Call Child Protection. It sounds as though your daughter is not taking any meds to control her bipolar as most people with this condition refuse to do, so you have to do this for her own good, as well as for your grandchildren's welfare. I know from a lifetime of personal experience what living with a mom with bipolar is like, although I wouldn't have changed a thing about her in retrospect, but it took me decades to learn to understand her illness. You will only be helping your daughter by reporting your concerns. She is too ill to do it alone. Good luck!

Answer 7

If i were you..for the safety of the children i would call social services. Those kids are not safe and she can go to jail if someone catches those kids in the house or car alone. So if i were you thats what i would do but its up to you.

Answer 8

OH MY GOD. As their grandmother it is your duty to report her to Child Protection Services. I know she's your daughter, but she's not being a proper mother to these precious children. They deserve a nurturing home and to be well protected. Right now they sound like they're in extreme danger. Your daughter needs to get herself straightened out before she can take care of these children. If things don't change soon, something tragic could happen like an accidental death. Then, not only would you be tormented for knowing you didn't actively do everything you could to prevent it, but your daughter would go to jail and suffer double fold. PLEASE take care of this situation now.

Answer 9

If you think those children are in danger than call social services. As their grandmother that is your first priority with those children and that is to protect them. No child should be left alone at all, especially at night, and they shouldn't be alone in the car, you don't want her to come back to a cooked kid.

Talk to her and if she doesn't listen than call the authorities.

Answer 10

I AM VERY SORRY TO HEAR THAT. WHAT YOU REALLY NEED TO THINK ABOUT IS THE BABIES INSTEAD OF HURTING HER FEELINGS. IF YOU THINK THAT THE KIDS AREN'T SAFE WITH HER, THEN YOU REALLY NEED TO TAKE CUSTODY OF THEM. OR EVEN LET HER LIVE WITH YOU. I KNOW IT MIGHT SOUND LIKE A BURDEN, BUT IT WOULD BE MUCH MORE DIFFICULT TO LOSE A GRANDCHILD. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 11

I would take those kids away from her. Its a wonder you have not yet done that. I know that it must be hard to see your grandkids like that but you can do something and I would do something very quick before something happens to them.